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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 8:11:34 PM   
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Just writing something down helps me remember it. Half the time I don't ever re-read what I've written down, but the fact that I did write it down helps burn it into my memory.

(Antipode and I are clearly incompatible, moreso because he thinks a person he's in a relationship with can be fired than for not liking the idea of someone having to write things down to remember them.)

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 8:28:09 PM   
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Do you keep a notebook like this


If I ever caught a girl of mine having to keep a cheatsheet I'd fire her ass.



How is that cheating?  I keep track of things like that for my family, for work, my calendar, etc.  How is someone supposed to memorize all those details?  Wow, just wow.

Even Einstein didn't know his phone number - but he knew where it was written!


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 8:30:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lucylucy

Just writing something down helps me remember it. Half the time I don't ever re-read what I've written down, but the fact that I did write it down helps burn it into my memory.

(Antipode and I are clearly incompatible, moreso because he thinks a person he's in a relationship with can be fired than for not liking the idea of someone having to write things down to remember them.)


Hell, if that were an issue, I'd have to fire me!  You should see the folder full of notepad files and stack of papers of stuff I've written down to remember.  If I can't remember half the stuff I write down, I sure can't expect someone else to remember it all, as well as all of my little idiosyncracies, likes and dislikes. :)


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 8:31:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: antipode

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Do you keep a notebook like this


If I ever caught a girl of mine having to keep a cheatsheet I'd fire her ass.



How is that cheating?  I keep track of things like that for my family, for work, my calendar, etc.  How is someone supposed to memorize all those details?  Wow, just wow.

Even Einstein didn't know his phone number - but he knew where it was written!



Very true! made me giggle though :) Thanks!
I would hope that Sir wouldn't mind me keeping a few notes to remind myself of his preferences, I'll talk to him about it.

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 8:52:59 PM   
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Iron Rose has a Microsoft Word template for a Butler's Book here:  www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/butlersbook.doc 

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:03:35 PM   
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Thank you Cali!  I was looking...

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:04:07 PM   
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What you're referring to is often called a "Butlers Book" and/or "household manual" and yes, they are very handy! Imagine his surprise when he has company coming over and you already *know* what their beverage preference is (because you already have it in your book).

A few things I keep track of are:

Household cleaners she prefers, favorite meals and the recipes for them, friends/family birthdays and anniversarys, what her friends beverage preferences are and any food allergies they have (totally uncool to put together a dinner only to find out one of the guests is allergic (or hates) the main course! I also keep up on her bill schedules, doctors appointments, mileage for her vehicle (for scheduled maintence and billing purposes). I also note any new CDs by her favorite artist coming out and magazines she's shown interest in (for those stuck in bed sick days). If she mentions a dish that I've not made before, I'll note it, look it up and at some point surprise her with it for dinner.

If she rattles off a project she's been meaning to do or an item that needs replaced before the next time it's used, I'll note it and when we are out shopping mention it to her.

Thankfully she's not terribly picky about brands so I'm pretty safe when grocery shopping but if she was... yep, it would be in there too.

Just... wow! Awesome post, Soft!


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:19:54 PM   
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If I ever caught a girl of mine having to keep a cheatsheet I'd fire her ass.

Then I suggest you look for a sub with an eidetic memory.


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:34:46 PM   
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You know the relationship is really over when you burn the notebook.


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:41:59 PM   
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But you have to do it in a ritual or it doesn't count.

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:45:30 PM   
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But you have to do it in a ritual or it doesn't count.


Do you need to spell out the name with the lighter fluid and only use a wooden match?  A Zippo just is not good enough? 

What is this ritual?

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:46:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aylee

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But you have to do it in a ritual or it doesn't count.


Do you need to spell out the name with the lighter fluid and only use a wooden match?  A Zippo just is not good enough? 

What is this ritual?


On the hood of their car.


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:51:30 PM   
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What is this ritual?


We do not speak of the ritual.

Nothing to see here, move along folks, nothing to see here (whistles innocently).


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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 9:54:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: antipode

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Do you keep a notebook like this


If I ever caught a girl of mine having to keep a cheatsheet I'd fire her ass.



I think it's hilarious how every sub who has responded to your post has done so in a negative/disapproving fashion.

I wonder what that says about what you say?

Quite frankly. I'd be touched to know that my girl had taken it upon herself to draw up a list of what I do and do not like. To do so shows a great amount of respect and desire to please me. A want to be better at what she does while also a willingness to admit she isn't always perfect, plus a drive to try and cover for any future mistakes/misunderstandings. I'd probably /reward/ her for such an action.

But then, I'm just a young, stupid Dom who doesn't understand anything. Please, oh great one, guide us further along the path to inner peace through nasty-bastard Dominance!

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 10:06:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: Aylee

What is this ritual?


We do not speak of the ritual.

Nothing to see here, move along folks, nothing to see here (whistles innocently).


MataHariCali



Forgive me O Great MataHariCali! I was beset by the demons of fakery as they besige my mailbox!

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 10:09:10 PM   
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Forgive me O Great MataHariCali! I was beset by the demons of fakery as they besige my mailbox!


Demons of Fakery? From which level of hell do these vile beasts pour?

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/26/2010 11:07:54 PM   
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From the fringes of the Innermost circle of Vile Fraud. They are the Hounds unleashed by Dreaded Untrue Slave.

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/27/2010 5:32:31 AM   
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Back to ... yeah... That is a great download Cali!

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/27/2010 6:05:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ItsAProcess


quote:

ORIGINAL: antipode

If I ever caught a girl of mine having to keep a cheatsheet I'd fire her ass.



Quite frankly. I'd be touched to know that my girl had taken it upon herself to draw up a list of what I do and do not like. To do so shows a great amount of respect and desire to please me. A want to be better at what she does while also a willingness to admit she isn't always perfect, plus a drive to try and cover for any future mistakes/misunderstandings.


Yeah, I was thinking of keeping the notebook out of "respect and desire to please" my boyfriend, as you said, not as a "cheatsheet."

I suppose any girl who wants to be with antipode better start her notebook with "don't let him find the notebook!"

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RE: preferences notebook - 1/27/2010 7:40:44 AM   
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Nah. Valyraen, surprisingly, doesn't have a lot of preferences so it's pretty easy to remember. If he wants lights up, he'll have a preference on how they go up - which he'll do himself - but won't actually care what kind we use and will leave that up to me. That sort of thing he tends to just dismiss as "That's why I have a Kitten - so I don't have to think about that stuff".

His prefences run more towards food and are pretty easy to remember as they are general guidelines and he's not too bad as far as being a picky eater goes, as long as I'm making him food that he isn't used to have cooked a particular way and wants it just so. Since I hardly ever manage to get it just right, he generally just cooks those meals himself.


Same here. Except with SFM instead of Valyraen, and he has a Bella not a Kitten.

Honestly I couldn't date a man who was too nitpicky. On one of my awful transpacific flights I watched Annie Hall, and I swear I would have dumped that dude in under 2 days.

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