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RE: Elements of Manliness: How good you have to become ... - 1/27/2010 10:37:11 AM

BootSadist

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Nice post.... I ain't gonna dissect the inner workings of the mind of someone from Dastan's country but I think that there's something right to his words, and something wrong too...I know him outside this forum and this site, so i can explain a lot..probably going to get myself shot in the head for this, but nevermind...I don't visit his country until next December, so I'm good..

Das: being a man in today's world isn't being a tough-as-a-rock, no-crying hardcase able to become the mixture between Jungle Jim and MacGyver that you think. Yes, it comes with the TRADITIONAL image of the male gender, but it doesn't hold true as the core that identifies us as men.

I can cook, fix the plumbing or the walls and some electric wiring and car mechanic basics, I can troubleshoot a computer in a basic level and I can do it with a manual ( MacGyver's Repair Encyclopedia for Dummies, in my case, LOL) , I can hunt, I can handle weapons, firewarms and traditional, and fight better than most men having 4 black belts. Yet I don't think that defines me as a man, or a Dominant, nor does it highlight that status or becomes a badge of merit, part of a list of requisites to get a degree as Dominant or Man.

Now, I do hear what you say.....a man has to be taught, formed to become all the things he can be and the best he can at all that, but in your country, if my memory doesn't fail, you apply that to both genders but only ask the males to prove it. It's a reverse or negative machismo/chauvinism. I don't say you have a bad intention or a bad culture/country but man, lighten up...

My own take is that somehow, your country makes you so AFRAID of women, actually, of women REJECTING you more than Women themselves, that you think NOBODY will LOVE you if you don't PROVE your skills and that you'll get as much LOVE and happiness from a woman as the amount of your WORTH, being that placed in a material definition of skills and experiences.

If Dommes were shopping for sub-bots, you'd see them ordering Subs in their profiles giving measurements like "Must be tall, body mass index of 28 with 10% bodyfat and 7-8 inches size along with a PhD and an IQ over 190.." like they were ordering a car, and deciding between two subs for the extra inch of their penis size or their difference in IQ points or the standard of their PhD's or muscle sizes. That isn't how it works. For what I can gather, your whole FEAR here is coming up SHORT, so you want to know how many items ont he checklist are there so you can apply yourself to test as an A+ on each single one to get YOUR own Megan Fox/Angelina Jolie look-alike Domme with matching credentials.

For someone with your life experiences, I'd never imagine you'd try to make life harder for yourself.

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RE: Elements of Manliness: How good you have to become ... - 1/27/2010 11:20:28 AM

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RE: Elements of Manliness: How good you have to become ... - 1/28/2010 5:29:59 PM

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"Mr." Boot Sadist: In my country we are not afraid of women at all. On the contrary, we treasure and value them, and it's why we cnanot settle for mediocricy as some men do. If your country has a different tradition and women have to settle, they have my most sincere condolences. I am not afraid of a woman, but I want to know where the standard is set at so I know how good I am, a market value.

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RE: Elements of Manliness: How good you have to become ... - 1/28/2010 6:59:20 PM

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I must say I take issue with the idea of "being a man" as being some inherently valuable trait. If being a man is a good thing, does that make being woman a bad thing and something undesirable? If, on the other hand, it's about being a man versus being a boy, then there is some agreement here, but it would probably be phrased as being an adult, as being capable and having some level of maturity is a desirable quality in any gender.

If someone didn't want me because I couldn't fix their car, then their relationship priorities tell me we wouldn't be much of match anyhow. For me, at least, the skills and talents of a potential mate matter far less than the compatibility of our respective personality. I'm fairly adaptable, and if there's a skill I lack that my dominant requires of me, I'll learn.

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RE: Elements of Manliness: How good you have to become ... - 1/29/2010 8:02:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: WestBaySlave

I must say I take issue with the idea of "being a man" as being some inherently valuable trait. If being a man is a good thing, does that make being woman a bad thing and something undesirable? If, on the other hand, it's about being a man versus being a boy, then there is some agreement here, but it would probably be phrased as being an adult, as being capable and having some level of maturity is a desirable quality in any gender.

If someone didn't want me because I couldn't fix their car, then their relationship priorities tell me we wouldn't be much of match anyhow. For me, at least, the skills and talents of a potential mate matter far less than the compatibility of our respective personality. I'm fairly adaptable, and if there's a skill I lack that my dominant requires of me, I'll learn.

It coulack skills that ARE really important, but yes, if your mate tells you that you are not good enough for not knowing about automobile mechanics, unless her personality depends and releis heavily in an activity related to off-road or NASCAR racing and a mechanics business and hobby, then it could be a problem that however, you can fix. I loved your phrase at the end..." I'm fairly adaptable, and if there's a skill I lack that my dominant requires of me, I'll learn..." which defines a real strong man, an adult willing to do what it takes to be of use and get what he wants and deserves, to earn it fighting the odds. I truly respect that.

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