AAkasha -> RE: Do I Really Have To Pick Just One? (1/27/2010 1:14:04 PM)
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Great topic. I often wonder if to a sub/bottom I come across as remarkably inconsistent if some days I just suddenly want a different type of thing, or different act, or different reaction. When I think about this question, the most common "varying" thing that comes into my mind is my prey's "reaction style." Clearly I'm very big on fear, vulnerability, nervousness, shame. But there are times that I really, really eroticize a more stoic, brave, shameless type of reaction. What I end up doing is planning different scenarios in my head (pain vs. humiliation vs. helplessness -- all three forms of topping, all three can generate a different response). I then select acts from these categories that are most likely to get the reaction I want. If I can't get it that way, I try the more direct approach, and tell a man, "I want you to behave in this manner." My preference is for it to be organic though. Akasha
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