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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 4:03:02 PM   
lally2


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ORIGINAL: osf

a slave expresses her sexuality and uses him as a catalyst

why? slaves a re selfish that way

i could be wrong



youre really stuck on this, ive seen you 'say' this before.

in any relationship where sex is implicit both people are sexually drawn to the other one, otherwise it wouldnt be an adult sexual relationship (obviously). what turns people on is different to everyone. everyone to some extent uses the other as a catalyst otherwise there is no reciprocation.

but in every relationship there is more going on than sex, there has to be or it wont last. therefore to say that a slave uses her Master as a sexual catalyst is only one aspect of her reason for being there. she finds her Master sexy, his demeanor and management of her may at times also get her hot, but not always. service to her Master, like making a cup of tea, washing his underpants and socks, cooking supper isnt a vehicle to sexual gratification, it is, however a satisfying aspect of her life. pleasing him and making his life comfortable and enjoyable is what she is wired to do, but it doesnt necessarily make her horney.

why is being happy to do things for someone you care about and wish to please selfish.

are you being selfish when you give youre goose a grape. ok it gives you pleasure, its cute, she's cute, its fun, youre enjoying the interraction, but it isnt selfish just because youre enjoying pleasing her with something yummy.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 4:13:18 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		i didn't say sex, i said sexuality, big difference

and we all live within our own bodies and minds, so everything we do has to come from with in those confines, even empathy is an internal experience

when we do something we do it for our own reasons because nature and evolution has made it in our own vested interests to do so from self preservation to procreation

it's our procreative wires that have been crossed in my opinion and we express our sexuality is some pretty strange ways, at least i admit to that

i know it doesn't sound all that romantic but hey i've learned to live with it, now anybody here wanna get beat?

and yes it is selfish to give her a grape, it makes ME feel good, sorta misplaced nurturing instinct as i don't have children


can i still be considered a nice guy?



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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 7:33:10 PM   
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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 9:29:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Helps his kids deal with his estate. Because he would want me to. I don't see that as selfish since I'm not getting anything out of it except the satisfaction of doing what I think he would want done.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 9:42:48 PM   
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but when you stop to think about it it takes on complexities not at first apparent

what does a slave do?

ok i want to add, and why?



naaaa it's not difficult your question is in fact pointless.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 10:29:54 PM   
chamberqueen


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To me there are different degrees of slaves.  There are those who will do as are told but are truly just biding their time waiting for the pay off for them.  Go a step up and you will find those who delight in doing whatever they are told but need that constant guidance. They are very good slaves.

To me, the most excellent of slaves are those who use their creativity and ingenuity not only to follow tasks, rules, and guidelines but go beyond that and think of new ways to be pleasing, who go the extra mile, and who truly put their Owner's pleasure ahead of their own.  They are self sacrificing, humorous, warm, and willing.  They are not doormats but wholeheartedly throw themselves into pleasing their special One.  Their fulfillment comes from seeing that they have done their job well.

You can teach any idiot to follow a command.  Find someone who can be at their most happy and healthy while shining at almost anything they do for their Owner and you have found a rare jewel.


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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/27/2010 11:18:15 PM   
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You can teach any idiot to follow a command. 


I think these boards have pretty much disproved that statement.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/28/2010 3:27:43 PM   
UniqueRaven


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Status: offline 		My purpose is his pleasure.

And yes, that is selfish, because it is how i'm most "at peace" - safe, protected, used, and loved, in exactly the way that he wants.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/28/2010 9:19:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

To me, the most excellent of slaves are those who use their creativity and ingenuity not only to follow tasks, rules, and guidelines but go beyond that and think of new ways to be pleasing, who go the extra mile, and who truly put their Owner's pleasure ahead of their own.  They are self sacrificing, humorous, warm, and willing.  They are not doormats but wholeheartedly throw themselves into pleasing their special One.  Their fulfillment comes from seeing that they have done their job well.

You can teach any idiot to follow a command.  Find someone who can be at their most happy and healthy while shining at almost anything they do for their Owner and you have found a rare jewel.


This is beautiful. This is what I strive for. There are moments when I achieve it.

But I think it's important to point out that my striving for this--and sometimes achieving it--happens while I'm also raising a child and working a full-time job. I am always thinking of my owner and what would please him, but often that is not the only thought in my head.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 1:32:34 AM   
Rule


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what does a slave do?

Obeys, if able and willing to comply.



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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 9:28:54 AM   
JBGolden


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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

a slave expresses her sexuality and uses him as a catalyst

why? slaves a re selfish that way

i could be wrong


Now wait a tick.

I know other people have answered your opening post but something's bugging me:

If you were going to answer your own question and seemingly not pay attention to anybody else, what the hell were you doing asking it in the first place?

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 9:36:19 AM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: JBGolden

If you were going to answer your own question and seemingly not pay attention to anybody else, what the hell were you doing asking it in the first place?



You must be new here.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 10:04:48 AM   
JBGolden


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

You must be new here.

Cali



Nah, I'm quite familiar with ye olde osf. But he sometimes posts relevant things! Ok, rarely, but still!

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 10:45:26 AM   
osf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JBGolden

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

a slave expresses her sexuality and uses him as a catalyst

why? slaves a re selfish that way

i could be wrong


Now wait a tick.

I know other people have answered your opening post but something's bugging me:

If you were going to answer your own question and seemingly not pay attention to anybody else, what the hell were you doing asking it in the first place?



just because i post a question for open discussion, am i not allowed to have an opinion also?

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 1:27:13 PM   
JBGolden


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just because i post a question for open discussion, am i not allowed to have an opinion also?


Sure you are. But usually it makes sense to do so in your opening post. Or at least seem to regard the things people have said.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 1/29/2010 2:22:33 PM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: JBGolden

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

just because i post a question for open discussion, am i not allowed to have an opinion also?


Sure you are. But usually it makes sense to do so in your opening post. Or at least seem to regard the things people have said.




i wanted to hear others before i answered for myself and i express my ideas not others

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 2/1/2010 8:57:01 PM   
sleepingbeauty2


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Status: offline 		what does a slave do? submit her whole being to her Master

why? for me, it is my nature. it is a soothing, calming, centered place to be, when I am pleasing to my Master. To be otherwise causes me stress and is uncomfortable.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 2/1/2010 9:51:21 PM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf
what does a slave do?
obeys.
ok i want to add, and why?
Because it pleases Him....AND therefore me.


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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 2/2/2010 9:34:32 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: osf
what does a slave do?


Whatever the fuck I desire.
Be good, or be gone.

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RE: i know this sounds like a simple inane question - 2/2/2010 11:38:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: JBGolden

If you were going to answer your own question and seemingly not pay attention to anybody else, what the hell were you doing asking it in the first place?



You must be new here.

Cali




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