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ORIGINAL: TheShrew

A question .. does it irk you more or less to have your carefully crafted, tailor made email completely ignored? Since no stranger on the net is obligated to another stranger on the net, it stands to reason one should have no expectation of a stranger on the net. Personally, I'd say it's damn courteous if the dom/me responds at all. {A statement you agree with in line one.}

ORIGINAL: joether
Now, if I get a reply back, I count myself lucky. <~  Please, remember this when we get to "The end."

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ORIGINAL: seekingreality

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ORIGINAL: TheShrew
A question .. does it irk you more or less to have your carefully crafted, tailor made email completely ignored? Since no stranger on the net is obligated to another stranger on the net, it stands to reason one should have no expectation of a stranger on the net. Personally, I'd say it's damn courteous if the dom/me responds at all. {A statement you agree with in line one.}

ORIGINAL: joether
Now, if I get a reply back, I count myself lucky. <~  Please, remember this when we get to "The end."

I've heard lots of people talk about this on both BDSM and vanilla sites. The vast majority would rather have no response than receive a perfunctory "Thanks but no thanks" reply. And if a woman sends that reply, she's likely to receive an irritated response.

Personally, if I choose to write to someone, I create a personal letter and then forget it immediately after I push send. Answering a profile is about the same as saying hi to someone at a party. There are a million reasons a person could choose not to respond, and it's nothing to get worked up about.

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ORIGINAL: seekingreality

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ORIGINAL: TheShrew

A question .. does it irk you more or less to have your carefully crafted, tailor made email completely ignored? Since no stranger on the net is obligated to another stranger on the net, it stands to reason one should have no expectation of a stranger on the net. Personally, I'd say it's damn courteous if the dom/me responds at all. {A statement you agree with in line one.}

ORIGINAL: joether
Now, if I get a reply back, I count myself lucky. <~  Please, remember this when we get to "The end."

I've heard lots of people talk about this on both BDSM and vanilla sites. The vast majority would rather have no response than receive a perfunctory "Thanks but no thanks" reply. And if a woman sends that reply, she's likely to receive an irritated response.

Personally, if I choose to write to someone, I create a personal letter and then forget it immediately after I push send. Answering a profile is about the same as saying hi to someone at a party. There are a million reasons a person could choose not to respond, and it's nothing to get worked up about.

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who were interested in online toilet service (whatever the hell that is - staring at pics of poop?)

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ORIGINAL: stoni23

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who were interested in online toilet service (whatever the hell that is - staring at pics of poop?)

In case you weren't being sarcastic.

Online toilet service:
Typically involves eating one's own excrement on webcam for the viewing pleasure of said Dominant. The act is usually reserved for those that are willing to do it (and have done it on their own), but too afraid to actually meet someone in person to be a real life toilet. In my experience, it's typically a stepping stone to doing the real thing (just like most online slave oriented activities).

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

One thing I have noticed is that males, dom or sub doesn't seem to matter, send emails that either require very little response, or else require ME to initiate topics of conversation.

I don't have a long list of questions unless I have some interest, beyond my standard: Are you married/attached?

So the fact that you've written what is to you a long well thought out email doesn't mean you've written one that is easy to respond to.

And yeah, the compliments on looks get old real fast. As does the completely ignoring specifications in your profile, such as local only.

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<pedantry>

It's not hypocrisy anyway.

Saying 'I will not accept one-line emails' and 'I think it's ok for me to send one-line emails' simultaneously is not hypocritical; saying 'I think nobody ought to send one-line emails' and 'I think it's ok for me to send one-line emails' would be hypocritical. Hypocrisy isn't not practicing what you preach, it's claiming to hold one set of beliefs while actually holding another.

</pedantry>

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: MargueriteV

The length of my reply depends on how many things I can comment on in the message.

Wisely said. When I get an email which is 200 words of praise on my profile, the only thing that comes to mind is *thank you*.

Oh, did you want to engage me? Then engage me! Ask me questions! If I'm interested, I often use the first few emails to ask questions. If they don't ask me any in return, I can comment on the questions asked, but that's pretty much it.

And to be honest, a man that doesn't show me that he's inquisitive by asking questions is a turn off. A man that asks too many questions is overwhelming. I'd say 1-3 questions per email in a well thought out email is a good balance to get a nice conversation going.

- LA

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ORIGINAL: Arturas

Hmmmm...so next time I need to engage a beautiful woman across the room I need to think up the right questions?

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Arturas, that is NOT what LA said in her post. Look at the actual words.

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Oh, did you want to engage me? Then engage me! Ask me questions! If I'm interested, I often use the first few emails to ask questions. If they don't ask me any in return, I can comment on the questions asked, but that's pretty much it.

And to be honest, a man that doesn't show me that he's inquisitive by asking questions is a turn off.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: Arturas

Hmmmm...so next time I need to engage a beautiful woman across the room I need to think up the right questions?

Well you'd certainly need to be capable of actual conversation, which is a give and take. Lecturing a woman about how good you'd be for each other is not conversation.

Seriously? This concept is new to you?

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And Elan, you are easily impressed. [;)]

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Arty you seem to forget something. Women get approached by men. Most all women. By a lot of men. It works differently than the reverse. We have more choices. This is where it really does not matter what the power dynamic is, the women are still getting approached by the men. It is the nature of the animal.

Women will decide whether or not to bother with men. Just because HE believes he is awesome, doesn't mean the woman he is approaching believes the same thing. If he doesn't convince her he is, she won't bother with him.

My profile pretty much promises a guy that he is wasting his time writing me but that doesn't slow the blue in-box section of my email down. Most get deleted unread. If I recognize the name, I will give it a quick scan. If there is something that requires an answer, I do. Otherwise I..........don't bother.

So yeah.....a guy has to have the right questions, say the right things. As women, our brains usually have to be engaged before our cunts. Unlike men who appear to only need their brain engaged enough to follow the dick that is already charging ahead.

Not a slam against men, just the way it seems to work.

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ORIGINAL: Arturas

Your smile tells me you don't really believe I mentioned "lecturing" a woman about anything, that's your word you threw out to perhaps...should I say it with a hopeful and inviting smile, yes... "engage me"?

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...wrote you about himself and expressed interest in you and did a good job explaining why you two are good for each other but failed to ask a question...

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And Elan, you are easily impressed. [;)]