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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 6:30:21 AM   
MistressTonya2u


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Status: offline 		I agree with the others, I would suggest meeting halfway, if He refuses to meet you, then just move along and find someone else who can be more accomodating.

Meet in a public place, and tell Him upfront that either you can only stay an hour or so, because of your schedule at work, or simply suggest a better time to meet, such as the weekend.

Him wanting to meet you doesn't mean that there is something wrong/scary/stalker with Him.

Maybe he just wants to see if there is chemistry, ect.

I do not like long email correspondences, I want to email a few times, talk on the phone and then meet in person. The truth is, like someone else said, you can learn a lot more in face to face encounters than you ever will online.

My best to you.

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:34:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wandersalone

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ORIGINAL: PyrotheClown

so does this mean I won't be seeing you thursday night?aw, but mother was soo excited to meet you lol


Pyro!!!!!! Where have you been hiding?  Oh so this is how it is hey..... this is how I find out that you have found someone else hmmpphhh? 



Oh Shit, she caught me!
hehe

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 6:05:47 PM   
winterlight


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Status: offline 		Bottom line i am not comfortable with this ...period..

I am new to this...

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 6:09:21 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		New to what?  Dating?  Meeting people in broad daylight in a public place?  You are on a site where many people are looking for various activities, including dating, relationships, and hookups.  It seems strange to be going all weird about it.  No one is suggesting you endanger yourself.  I have a date on Saturday, with a guy from another dating site, whom I've been chatting and talking on the phone with for a few weeks.  Dinner, public restaurant, I am so looking forward to it, regardless of the outcome.  No expectations with the exception of a few laughs and dinner.

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 6:16:09 PM   
winterlight


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Status: offline 		Katy that is the point you have been chatting a few weeks. That i can understand....talking on the phone even. I haven't even had that..

One paragraph and then a message Can you meet me at ________________ is not the same.

Everybody has different comfort levels, mine is saying get to know this person don't just get into a car and meet somewhere.

I would be more comfortable in the daytime than at night. That isn't backpeddeling that is being safe. I am not much for bars either.

I talked to a sub friend about this last night and she understood where i was coming from..

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 6:16:18 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: winterlight

Bottom line i am not comfortable with this ...period..

I am new to this...

Well, speaking as a man whose primary form of dating is from online sites, one of my filters is that I won't spend time talking with a woman who is afraid to meet human beings quickly in real life.

Seriously.  Why have a profile up, saying you are looking for someone, if you aren't?  Unless you are only looking for "Online Romance."  If you really think it's dangerous to go to Starbuck's or Olive Garden, stop pretending to "date" and go play Second Life.  (And hell, even on Second Life, people meet one another.)

Meanwhile, if you don't want to meet this particular guy, tell him no.  Or tell him, "I'll meet you Saturday at 10am at this place, where you do most of the driving," and see what he says.

Fear of living in the real world is not sexy.


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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 7:25:05 PM   
wandersalone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

Bottom line i am not comfortable with this ...period..

I am new to this...


Winterlight I am confused as to why you posted this initial question as it seems you had already made a decision not to go.  Did you hope that everyone would agree with you and tell you how he must have been an axe-murdering loser for suggesting you both take this offline?

Others have suggested ways to take back some control, suggest you both meet on the weekend at a place closer to you and then leave it up to him.


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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 7:40:09 PM   
Lockit


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I would not meet someone who sent me a first or even a second or third email with a couple paragraphs, with no knowledge of them! What the hell? This guy hasn't even talked to her and just tells her to meet him? Wrong! I would laugh at him. What kind of person does that?

Please don't make someone feel guilty/bad/whatever for being here with a profile to meet people and not wanting to meet them until they know them a bit.

This rings of a polite kneel bitch to me.

< Message edited by Lockit -- 1/28/2010 7:41:47 PM >

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 7:48:34 PM   
Jeffff


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This seeks only a picture if the Mistress's' gash.


How was that?... probably not good enough huh?

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 7:51:24 PM   
Lockit


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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:03:04 PM   
winterlight


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Status: offline 		Ty Lockit!

The bottom line nobody is looking out for my safety but ME!

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:12:30 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

New to what?  Dating?  Meeting people in broad daylight in a public place?  You are on a site where many people are looking for various activities, including dating, relationships, and hookups.  It seems strange to be going all weird about it.  No one is suggesting you endanger yourself.  I have a date on Saturday, with a guy from another dating site, whom I've been chatting and talking on the phone with for a few weeks.  Dinner, public restaurant, I am so looking forward to it, regardless of the outcome.  No expectations with the exception of a few laughs and dinner.


Good lucky Katy, hope it goes well!!!

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:52:28 PM   
KatyLied


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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:53:44 PM   
sunshinemiss


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Good lucky Katy, hope it goes well!!!


Hey Red - how'd the date go with the colonoscopy passive dude?


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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:54:26 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Ha! I have tried, and failed. NO vanilla for me. I will be an old lady on a walker with cuffs on rather than vanilla. LOL

Edited to answer sunshine: he was ok, I am seriously NOT into him. I like him as a friend and he wants more. I just cannot go there. I need someone to spank my ass, not the other way around.

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 8:59:22 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I can move easily between both worlds.  Sometimes I think dominants are overrated.  I know that's bad to say here, but oh well.

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 9:00:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PyrotheClown

so does this mean I won't be seeing you thursday night?aw, but mother was soo excited to meet you lol



LOL! 

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 9:09:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I can move easily between both worlds.  Sometimes I think dominants are overrated.  I know that's bad to say here, but oh well.

You bad bad subbie

I hope you have fun!


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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 9:11:17 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I can move easily between both worlds.  Sometimes I think dominants are overrated.  I know that's bad to say here, but oh well.


I always think that as well, perhaps instead of dominant I should make sure they are kinky devils?

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RE: Dom contacts me here on cm and a few sentences perh... - 1/28/2010 9:20:41 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		I swear kink is the new nilla.  Or maybe I give off a kink-dar now.  I don't know.  I don't think there's any reason to limit searches to kink sites, though.  I don't know about guys, but I've had women say, "I'm not kinky, I just like doing whatever my partner wants, and I'm willing to try anything."  They think kinky is S&M CSI-style, where you're encased in four inches of latex, and you end up in the morgue.  Spankings and a dog collar?  Everybody knows Pink does that.  What's the big deal?

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