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RE: Getting letdown - 1/29/2010 6:44:21 PM

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That must be a bummer to find that women can't be arsed to take you anally with a strap-on.

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RE: Getting letdown - 1/29/2010 6:52:20 PM

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/Reports stella to the Pun Police/

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RE: Getting letdown - 1/30/2010 11:02:18 AM

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OP, let's put this in perspective. You say this has happened to you five or six times. Is that out of five or six times, and you're batting zero, or is it out of two thousand women?

If it's five or six times out of five or six times, then I wouldn't be titling the thread Getting Let Down. I would be titling it What the Hell is Wrong with Me?

I swear I thought that this thread was going to be about inducing lactation and not being able to get letdown.

You never know until you open the thread, do you.

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RE: Getting letdown - 1/30/2010 1:34:17 PM

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Ohhhh bubbles... pretty, pretty bubbles! Nice Winsome!

Bubbles? Are we referring to winsome or to your own luscious build? ~winks~ Hello beautiful...

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RE: Getting letdown - 1/30/2010 2:09:30 PM

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Maybe you butthole is extra stanky?

In all honesty, I was gonna post some smart-ass answer... but I can't top this!!!

ROTFLMAO!!!

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RE: Getting letdown - 1/30/2010 2:27:12 PM

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I've had maybe 5 or 6 people say "oooh!I've always wanted to do that to a man!" and have then said they are up for it.But when it comes down to it they chicken out.

I know someone else who had this happen with women that he played casually with. I was the first girl to take him in that particular manner. (And it was good, and he was a gentleman about it.) If your partners have never done it before, it doesn't surprise me that some of them backed down. For someone who is squeamish, I could see anal sex being more appealing in theory than in practice. And before I actually used a strap-on for the first time, I was very worried about the mechanics of it - it's actually much more natural and less awkward than I had expected.

So, if people that you're actively playing with or sexually involved with are expressing enthusiasm and then backing out, it might not be a bad idea to find out why. Gently, with empathy, and in a way that doesn't pressure them into doing something that they don't want to do. You might be able to address their concerns with, for example, an enema, or reassuring them that you don't expect perfect buttfucking form.

If you haven't actually met the people who you say are "chickening out," that's a whole different story.

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RE: Getting letdown - 1/30/2010 4:16:48 PM

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If you couldn't walk up to most females, ask them if they wanted to fuck, and get their agreement, why would you think strap on play would be any different?

I actually had a guy do that once - not at a BDSM club, just a gay bar I went to with some friends. First he asked me to hook him up with one of my gay friends, then started begging and pleading with me to do him with a strapon. I said no, and went inside. Over an hour later I went to go out to my car for something, and he was leaning against my car, drinking a beer. As soon as he saw me, he started in again. When I left for the night, I had a couple of friends walk me out, just in case he was still lurking. Really creepy.