|
Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Forced Bi? (2/4/2010 2:48:50 AM)
|
GiveandGive,
Welcome to the CM message board jungle. This thread has been a popular one lately and I've not posted anything on it. You appear to be a straight up level headed guy through out the whole thread. Anyways, it's not in me to be all sarcastic/snarky/smart-assed towards you nor this topic.
Anything having to do with Male Bi-Sexuality is a rather controvesial topic. Female Bi-Sexuality is far more acceptabled. It was pointed out earlier on the thread, that bi-sexual Dudes are shunned by both Gay and Straight guys. That they are dudes that can't make up their minds.
I really don't know what the true stats are on this, but many (not all) "straight" guys have had bi-sexual experiences or even moments in their life. However, for "straight" guys to talk about it and share these experiences with others, it's at the risk of Social Suicide. That they become branded as Gay or as TRUE bi-sexuals. This is a touchy gray area that many a self respecting "Straight" dudes that have had bi-sexual moments in their life don't dare admit.
To be honest with you, what you wrote "Every guy that I've talked to about it just wants to fuck my girlfriend, and would only be interested if he would get to bang her. =/" does not suprise me one bit.
I don't know if what I'm about to write will make a lick of sense to anybody, or if it will connect with anybody mentally. I'm crossing my fingers that it does. It's the concept of a "Straight" dude, who is not attracted to men on their own. Meaning, they have zero interest in men sexually, just as any "Straight" dude normally does. However, will switch on to a bit of a full Bi-Sexual Mode if there is a women involved. But, there are conditions and limits to how far they will go with Bi-Sexual Activities. I'm not certain what kind of label should apply here, because the kind of dudes I'm talking about are not Really "Bi" they are generally pretty "Straight" however, under circumstances with a women involved, they play outside of their normal sexual ball park a little. I don't think the label "Bi-Curious" is a good label, because these guys are not really sexually attracted to men. They don't get turned on by looking at guys, nor have fantasies of having sex with men. However, when adding the element of a sexually attractive women to the mix... things start to become a little confusing.
Back to the whole bit about "Straight" guys having Bi-Sexual experiences. This is the kind of shit that can happen in their younger years while talking about banging girls with their buddies, getting turned on together while looking at girls in porno magazines. Where a group of guys get together, talk about banging girls and look at porn together, then start jacking off and end up doing a few questionable things. However, the whole time talking about and thinking about banging girls the whole time. (It's a rather confusing abstract concept). In fact it's a bit of an Oxymoron or Sexual Paradox. Then again, will somebody please explain to me what the difference is between a Gay or Straight She-male is? (a little humor).
Anyways, this was my attempt at giving you an explaination as to why you are encountering guys that are willing to engage in this activitity provided they get to bang your girl. Some of them probally ain't truely Bi, but will bend in that direction with a set of limits if there is a woman involved. I suspect this is a little more common than is openly admitted or talked about.
For you to really know for certain, you can always talk and ask these guys. If they are comfortable enough in expressing an interest in engaging in this activity with the provisions of banging her. They are probally open to talking about things that they might not otherwise talk about to their "Straight, Gay, or even Bi-sexual friends". Because the kind of Dudes I just described in this post would be shunned and very misunderstood by Straight, Gay and Bi-Sexual men.
Anyways, I hope this post makes sense to somebody. Probally will raise a few eye brows even.
|
|
|
|
