What turns you off about bdsm?

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winterlight -> What turns you off about bdsm? (1/30/2010 10:05:59 PM)
Is there anything that you cannot stand in regards to it as far as play, people or anything else?

sexyred1 -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/30/2010 10:07:53 PM)
Yes. I cannot stand people who try to make it this mythical land where people possess magic powers of morality, integrity, ethics, honesty and character. People who claim that those into BDSM should be held to a higher standard. People are people whatever they are into, BDSM or vanilla.

susie -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/30/2010 11:08:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Yes. I cannot stand people who try to make it this mythical land where people possess magic powers of morality, integrity, ethics, honesty and character. People who claim that those into BDSM should be held to a higher standard. People are people whatever they are into, BDSM or vanilla. You beat me to it.

stella41b -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 1:53:44 AM)
The sanctimonious neonazi attitudes from those purporting to be 'enlightened' or 'aware'. Aware my left foot.

rockspider -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 2:52:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b The sanctimonious neonazi attitudes from those purporting to be 'enlightened' or 'aware'. Aware my left foot. Yeah, they are are just a big pain in the ass as the reborn christians, the creationists or the rest of the residents of the bible belt who all seems to have the perfect recipee on how i must live my life. They can have my right foot, but that right up the ass with considerable force [:D]

Level -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 4:05:34 AM)
The only things I can think of are: some of the costumes, and when a woman's breasts are "roped", just not an appealing look, at all.

EbonyWood -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 4:55:19 AM)
Those to whom it is sanctified to the point where going to buy milk needs to involve some bdsm/D/s principle of behavior. Unless you're living in Castle Lash, people have vanilla things to do in their lives. That, and no sense of humor. Those people should be killed.

Loki45 -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 4:57:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: winterlight Is there anything that you cannot stand in regards to it as far as play, people or anything else? Geeee, there is so much. Where to start? How about those who think the lifestyle and those in it must be ultra-serious all the time and never ever ever laugh or make jokes. Hell I dated one girl once to whom I spoke almost entirely in a Tony Montana-esque accent. She found it hilarious and would answer me the same way. She was my Elvi. Then I had others who would delibrately try to piss me off just to make me take a 'serious' tone with them. Yep, the tone got serious alright, when I said "Good bye." Let's see....what else? Ummm how about those who think their way is the ultimate and they 'earned their leathers, spurs, etc.' and are somehow superior to you because you never found it necessary to join some group with made-up rules in order to be a twue dominant. And I suppose the biggest thing, which can and often does encompass or stem from the previous two -- DRAMA. Life is too short for drama, bullshit, or game playing. Speak your mind, have fun and laugh at yourself.

intenze -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 5:44:39 AM)
Sometimes the "preciousness" of some folks really gets to me. When form becomes more important than substance, it really gets annoying. The words "high protocol" just stick in my craw for some reason. My opinions only.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 5:48:09 AM)
Certainly what Red said, and also the experienced brigade, all the 'I am like totally extreme and you arent so you are just shit'

lusciouslips19 -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 5:51:40 AM)
Same type of people bother me in both BDSM and Vanilla. People who dont take their meds![:o]

ResidentSadist -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 5:55:12 AM)
Leather maintenance.

VampiresLair -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:02:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Yes. I cannot stand people who try to make it this mythical land where people possess magic powers of morality, integrity, ethics, honesty and character. People who claim that those into BDSM should be held to a higher standard. Hear Hear! quote: ORIGINAL: Loki45 how about those who think their way is the ultimate and they 'earned their leathers, spurs, etc.' and are somehow superior to you because you never found it necessary to join some group with made-up rules in order to be a twue dominant. Yep And the group of people who insist that in order to be a good dominant you MUST be a submissive first otherwise you dont understand your subs and therefore cant handle them properly. I dont need to have been a man to be able to be in a good relationship with one, so why do I need to have been a submissive to be in a good relationship with one? Then theres the ones who say anything you do that isnt their way is likely abuse. The subs who want to tell you how they will serve, when they will serve and what exactly you will do to them, all when they worship you. I hate being a prop. Oh, and the last but not least the male doms who think every female dom is really a sub who hasnt found a "good enough" man to teach her how to submit. Ditto for the female doms who think that way about men. DV

GabrielleSlave -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:03:24 AM)
Those folk who are so insecure that they use BDSM to try and hide themselves and then become downright dangerous when they take out their shit on unsuspecting subs who think they know what they are doing.... Also what lillyofthevalley says about 'experienced' people, well anyone really who looks down on those who don't play to the same levels of extremity as they do.... i mean damn just because i don't want my Master to cut my boobs and make the blood flow all down to my feet, doesn't mean the play that Wwe do like is any the less because of it... gabrielle

derangedmaniac -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:05:49 AM)
Know it alls.

intenze -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:10:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VampiresLair Oh, and the last but not least the male doms who think every female dom is really a sub who hasnt found a "good enough" man to teach her how to submit. Ditto for the female doms who think that way about men. DV Oh my! yes yes yes.,..."You would be a perfect slave girl, if you found the right man!" [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]

Phoenixpower -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:14:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: intenze quote: ORIGINAL: VampiresLair Oh, and the last but not least the male doms who think every female dom is really a sub who hasnt found a "good enough" man to teach her how to submit. Ditto for the female doms who think that way about men. DV Oh my! yes yes yes.,..."You would be a perfect slave girl, if you found the right man!" [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif] and not to forget the ones who blame you as not being "twue" when you dare not to address them online as Master and as Idiot instead...

MrMister -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:18:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: derangedmaniac Know it alls. Yes, these pseudo-geniuses seem to be pretty commonplace nowadays, and I do agree with you - they do become intolerable rather quickly.

Tantriqu -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:34:24 AM)
1. married guys; doms & switches masquerading as subs; and other liars 2. guys only interested in their own fetish / looking for a pro-domme session and/or who otherwise thinking they can top from the bottom 3. blue-ovary-ers who, after 'wanting to go slow' and you do, chicken out from meeting at the last minute as 'it's too intense' [or are probably also #'s 1 and 2] 4. cowardly trolls 5. 1st msg is a half-erect cockshot panning down to old white cotton socks But fortunately the list of what I love about BDSM is much, much, longer, deeper and thicker!

CarrieO -> RE: What turns you off about bdsm? (1/31/2010 6:56:50 AM)
People who use bdsm or D/s as an excuse to suspend rational thought or as a escape from dealing with real life. Along with pretty much everything else mentioned so far.

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