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Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 4:04:40 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Although I totally don't agree with the thread from which this thought came, ir does inspire a question--that should provide learnings to all--
 
In your relationship ( D/s, s/D, M/s, s/M) what do YOU assume responsibility for the most--note I didn't ask who but what.
 

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 4:13:08 PM   
wytchywoman


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Status: offline 		I think I can safely say that I assume the responsibility to keep my owner happy. If that takes doing his laundry, giving him a massage, nagging him to keep his doctor or dentist's appointments then so be it.

I know the other thread you're speaking of. I will venture to say once more, that each person has a responsibility that is no less than the other persons. Each person in every relationship just comes at it from a different perspective, but ideally, both are content and boundaries are set as to proper protocol....even when the submissive has to "nag"  in order to serve. Just me though.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 4:14:28 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Nice question Mistress Hathor. Lets see...

*I assume the responsibility of being pleasing to Master. The "what" is the being pleasing part.
*I assume the responsibility of carrying through what he tells me to do.
*I assume the responsibility of accepting the repercussions handed out by Master.
*I assume the responsibility of my general well-being. What I mean by that is I take responsibility for my thoughts and feelings and actions. Ie. I cant blame Master if I throw a tantrum.


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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 4:57:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Although I totally don't agree with the thread from which this thought came, ir does inspire a question--that should provide learnings to all--

In your relationship ( D/s, s/D, M/s, s/M) what do YOU assume responsibility for the most--note I didn't ask who but what.



For knowing what I want and calling for those wants (or needs) to be meet by my slave.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 5:16:14 PM   
Wolfspet


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Status: offline 		I am responsible for running the household, keeping track of social engagements, scheduling appointments, shopping, laundry & occasionally saving him from himself  (he tends to be impulsive, lol)

He is responsible for maintaining financial records, paying the bills, yard/outdoor/indoor maintainence, taking out the trash, and occasionally saving me from myself.

Actually in short we work together.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 5:40:02 PM   
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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 5:46:50 PM   
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In your relationship ( D/s, s/D, M/s, s/M) what do YOU assume responsibility for the most--note I didn't ask who but what.
 


We are both responsible for keeping the power flowing in the proper direction.

We are both responsible for maximizing the potential our relationship.

We are both responsible for the health of our relationship.

We are both responsible for the growth of our relationship.

We are both responsible for our actions and inactions.

We are both responsible for exhibiting adult behavior.

We are both responsible for making allowances for imperfections.

We are both responsible for making sure our needs are met.

Neither one of us has more responsiblity than the other.. because it is not 'my' relationship or 'his' relationship ... it is 'ours'.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 6:02:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I make sure the bills are paid on time, that He gets to clinics and doctors and dialysis, that meds are taken when they should be. I monitor His blood sugar levels, make sure He eats even when He's feeling unwell and generally keep a watchful eye on Him. I do the cooking, dishes, laundry, grocery shopping and I've recently gotten someone to come in for a couple of hours a week to do the heavy cleaning. I also set the video if we will be out so He doesn't miss His favourite shows

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 6:43:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		MH Ma'am... lol.. sometimes it sucks being single.. can't play with others when post like this come up... 

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 6:47:14 PM   
MHOO314


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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

MH Ma'am... lol.. sometimes it sucks being single.. can't play with others when post like this come up... 


Mistress clears Her throat and says "ahem truesub" you have your ideas, so feel free to share---<hugs>

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 6:49:51 PM   
suitehousemouse


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Status: offline 		It is my responsibility to please my Master.  It is His responsibility to teach me how to do that.
 
"To please and to be found pleasing" is my highest law.  He and I will figure out what that means, and what works for us may well not work for A/all.  And we are fine with that. :)

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 9:36:35 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Assume that I have one or more slaves collared to House Iron Bear and/or to either Neets or I.

Assume that said slaves are 24/7 residential.

There will be a Weelky & Daily Duty Roster posted every Monday at 08.00 hrs. It will show all the routine duties which need doing, when they are to be done and who is to do them.

This is the skeleton of the workings of the Home. All duties have to have flexability and need to be shared with all members Free and slave. Some may be dependent on availabliity or physical; ability and may require others to assist.

All in all it is a simple excersise of management of available human resources. Some tasks may be allocated according to status and others according to physical attributes.(I'm a largish bloke so it makes sence for me to do things which my height makes easier and safer to do than aexecting someone who has less height (love the political correctness and not refering to "ducks disease" for short folk), and who would find such tasks difficult and have a higher risk of injury).

We're pretty laid back which is typical with Aussies and as long as the tasks get done properly most things can be negotiated, especially if a kajira has a better idea how  to do things (she may even earn a treat).... .

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 10:23:38 PM   
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quote:

Although I totally don't agree with the thread from which this thought came, ir does inspire a question--that should provide learnings to all--

In your relationship ( D/s, s/D, M/s, s/M) what do YOU assume responsibility for the most--note I didn't ask who but what.


for everything i take part in

<edited to add>  Arg.  Seems like everyone is listing the "responsiblities"  So i'll list mine

EVERYTHING  (heh)

i am responsible for myself
i am responsible for my little one
i am responsible for the animals
i am responsible the cleanliness of the house
i am responsible for the laundry
i am responsible for the food (buying, fising, providing, cleaning up after)
i am responsible for fixing any problems that might arise
i am responsible for all medical, dental, health issues that might arise in my house
i am responsible to make sure things go well (been doing a poor job of it)

i think i am jointly responsible for the car and completely responsible for the other one
i'm responsible for yard. 
i am responsible for the bills getting paid
i am responsible for the fiancial support of everyone
i am responsible to make sure everything is taken care of.
i am responsible for the schooling of everyone going to school in my house.
i am responsible for making sure everything is on the up and up.

This is just the basics i think.  There are of course all the little responsibilities.  Like making sure the cats dont eat the guinea pig and the guinea pig is doctored after he's been captured by the cats.. And so on when it comes to the small responsiblities. 



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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/25/2006 10:28:20 PM   
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In your relationship ( D/s, s/D, M/s, s/M) what do YOU assume responsibility for the most--note I didn't ask who but what.


The most... Making His life as stress-free as possible by ensuring the household continues to run smoothly and He has whatever He needs when He returns home.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/26/2006 1:54:09 AM   
Ariel


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Status: offline 		I can relate to this... So hard to play alone...., (well okie not all the time..)

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/26/2006 5:25:44 AM   
MHOO314


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


Neither one of us has more responsiblity than the other.. because it is not 'my' relationship or 'his' relationship ... it is 'ours'.

Celeste





Very powerful words and extremely well stated.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/26/2006 5:33:00 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		As the Mistress, I assume responsibility for everything.  Yes, everything.  The health and well-being of My slave, the health and well-being of our relationship, the finances and cash flow, the care and tending of the house, cats and ferret, the upkeep and maintenance of the car, keeping the pantries and freezer full and meals on schedule.

I then take most of that responsibility and delegate it back to My slave <grin>

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/26/2006 5:39:57 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		Okay, so that was said teasingly, but honestly, it's true! 

Yes, My slave will be responsible for many things... for instance, cleaning the kitchen after meals.  But it's My responsibility to see that he *does* it.  He'll be responsible for making sure we don't run out of milk, or bread or (God forbid!) meat <LOL> or the car run out of gas.  But if we do run out of (whatever), yes, it's his fault for letting it happen, but Mine for not 1) checking in with him to make sure he was paying attention, as well as 2) training him properly to be on top of things.

Now as far as responsibility in the relationship... it's true that for any kind of relationship to work, there must be communication, on both sides (unless you have a doormat, of course).  And My slave is responsible for his side of that communication.  But it is MY responsibility to create the "space" for him to be able to do so.  And to make sure that I know what he is thinking and feeling, what is going on in his subby head.  Because... as I often told my daughter when she was growing up... if I don't *know* there is something wrong, I can't do anything to fix it!  Therefore, the happiness of My slave, as well as the success or failure of communication, and the relationship, rests on My shoulders.  And if I have chosen wrong and gotten someone who is manipulative or has a hidden agenda, and in the end I am hurt by it... well... sad to say, that's also My responsibility, and I will hope to do better the next time.

I am the Mistress.  I am in charge.  However much I may delegate, whatever happens, it is on Me.  The buck stops here.

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/26/2006 5:46:48 AM   
MHOO314


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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

As the Mistress, I assume responsibility for everything.  Yes, everything.  The health and well-being of My slave, the health and well-being of our relationship, the finances and cash flow, the care and tending of the house, cats and ferret, the upkeep and maintenance of the car, keeping the pantries and freezer full and meals on schedule.

I then take most of that responsibility and delegate it back to My slave <grin>


<spews hot coffee across the keys>---ohhh LadyMorgynn---that IS priceless! Well said!

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RE: Responsibility...who does what? - 3/26/2006 5:55:53 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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Maybe we should stop from taking a drink when we see each other's posts come up... just in case ;)

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314
<spews hot coffee across the keys>---ohhh LadyMorgynn---that IS priceless! Well said!


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