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being just online - 2/1/2010 1:30:22 PM

DaddyDomsgirl

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just wondering how many others are just online with thier other half.....my Daddy and i have just been online for almost 2 yrs now.....we live in the state yet can't seem to find time to meet up....guess i just wondering how others keep it going?.....how does someone keep the romance in it.....the fun....the excitement....mean i get excited everytime i see Daddy sign online....just at times i wonder if He is as excited to see me...this past yr has been hard on us both.....life changing decisions have been made and broken....so guess i'm just looking for alil way to show Daddy how much i do love Him,and see that He does love me to....am always looking to find someone to U/us to play with......or different people for each of U/us....but i guess that kinda scares me to....that if He gets a playmate.....i might be pushed aside....yes i know i'm a mess...lol

thanks for listening to my rambling....

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 2:31:23 PM

CalifChick

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Arizona isn't that big of a state. After two years, it doesn't sound like he wants to meet up. I would say "neither one of you", but you still sound a bit hopeful.

A friend of mine has a good rule to live by... never say "I love you" to someone you've never met in the flesh.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 2:33:53 PM

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Yeah, set something up for Valentine's Day!!

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 2:37:48 PM

sexyred1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Arizona isn't that big of a state. After two years, it doesn't sound like he wants to meet up. I would say "neither one of you", but you still sound a bit hopeful.

A friend of mine has a good rule to live by... never say "I love you" to someone you've never met in the flesh.

Cali
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Not a party pooper, just lives in the real world.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 2:52:43 PM

playfulotter

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Since your last journal entry from April 2009 mentions he was MIA for two months I would really take that as a major clue to his intentions...

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 3:10:44 PM

juliaoceania

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I was online with someone who lived 2500 miles away from me. It took a year to meet. It took 3 months later to end because it was too intense and the relocating would be too involved at that point for both of us. It was a frustrating and painful experience.

How did we keep it going? Well, we didn't. We didn't intend to start something up in the first place and it was an unexpected attraction. I would never again invest myself in such a situation. The next dom I was involved with was in the same state, and it took us 4 months to meet. I was not submissive at all to him before we saw each other face to face.

The reality is that sooner or later this will end unless you take it to a new level, and there is no excuse he could offer if he lived in the same state yet refused to meet me. If you are okay with this, well keep on doing what you are because there is no advice I can give to you to make an unsatisfying situation more so...

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 5:07:40 PM

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Juliaoceania summed it up for you pretty much more than anyone else could I think.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 5:09:35 PM

Aileen1968

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My money's on him being married.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 6:56:41 PM

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Yeah, I was gonna say "What's his wife think?"

*eta: After about 3 weeks of talking, we had a plan for me to go from the USA to Europe to meet him a few weeks later. Why can't you get from Arizona to ... Arizona?

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 7:08:10 PM

UniqueRaven

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i couldn't do just an "online only" relationship - i need real physical touch, closeness, i need to *feel* his intensity in person, not just over chat, or the phone. If a potential Owner couldn't meet me within a few weeks to a month or so, i would find it very difficult to continue in an "online only" status.

And you're experiencing the two side effects that make it impossible for me: 1) the lack of physical contact causing physical frustration (not just sexual, could just be "i need a hug") and; 2) the questioning of what he's *really* doing when he's not chatting with you, causing you to have doubts and fears that you constantly need to chase away, no matter how reassuring he may be.

So to answer your question, how many have online only relationships, you can put me into the "real life only" column. The other stuff, i don't know that you're asking for advice, just for someone to listen, so i will say i do understand, and wish you the best on your journey.....good luck to you as you feel your way through this.

ETA - and like sunshinemiss, i have flown, and had potential Owners, fly to meet me within a few weeks. i live in TX currently and have gone to both coasts....and them here. Distance isn't the obstacle, the mindset to overcome it is......

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 7:23:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyDomsgirl

just wondering how many others are just online with thier other half.....my Daddy and i have just been online for almost 2 yrs now.....we live in the state yet can't seem to find time to meet up....guess i just wondering how others keep it going?.....how does someone keep the romance in it.....the fun....the excitement....mean i get excited everytime i see Daddy sign online....just at times i wonder if He is as excited to see me...this past yr has been hard on us both.....life changing decisions have been made and broken....so guess i'm just looking for alil way to show Daddy how much i do love Him,and see that He does love me to....am always looking to find someone to U/us to play with......or different people for each of U/us....but i guess that kinda scares me to....that if He gets a playmate.....i might be pushed aside....yes i know i'm a mess...lol

thanks for listening to my rambling....

But the reality is that you love an "idea" of someone, not the real live person, because you have never seen the real live person.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 7:26:54 PM

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OP: I would consider waiting until you've been together, before you start looking for a third. Preferably, for a year or so, full time, and everything is running smoothly. While you're apart, have never even met, and are both a mess emotionally.... not a good time to go poly.

Just my advice.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 7:27:00 PM

Rochsub2009

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyDomsgirl

my Daddy and i have just been online for almost 2 yrs now.....we live in the state yet can't seem to find time to meet up....

Ummmmmmm, please expound on this. i just don't understand how it could be possible that two people who live in a relatively small state can't find any way to meet over the course of 2 years. All kinds of alarms should be going off in your head.

Nobody works every day for 2 years. So on his off day, he should drive (or catch a bus) to your town to meet you. It's pretty simple.

Are both of you terminally ill and hospitalized? Do each of you only own bicycles? Are one or both of you in jail? If not, then i just don't understand how your situation can possibly make sense.

i don't mean to sound mean, or to rain on your parade, but i don't think he wants to meet you. i think he prefers to sit at home and masturbate while you call him "daddy" on the telephone.

BTW, if you say that he doesn't allow you to call him at home and you only communicate on-line, i think i'm going to have to pimp slap you.

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RE: being just online - 2/1/2010 9:46:35 PM

afkarr

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

My money's on him being married.

And not very resourceful to boot. If married people are really serious about playing for real on the side, they can find a way. The fact that he hasn't in 2 years pretty guarentees he never will.

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 6:30:00 PM

BalletBob

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I would love that, since I am married, and just don't have the time for 24/7. I met MADAM that way, and had a lot of fun together, after we finally met. We had about 5 sessions over 3 years, but had to end it. I then became friends with a few Females here (A Mistress & a Switch), and they too had fun with me. They told me what would please them, and then I done it, as long as it wasn't a Hard Limit or would cause any hardships at home.

Most people hear the word "ONLINE" and then go nuts. It is like real life. It is what you make of it. I would love to do that again, but don't dare mention it in my profile. Too many negitive responces. If you are not having fun doing things for a Master/ Mistress or telling a Sub online what to do, then it isn't worth it. I feel both parties have to have FUN, or it isn't worth doing. What harm is it telling a sub, what to do, that pleases you? Just because you aren't looking at their face, doesn't mean they aren't doing it. Now all Masters/Mistresses don't have time for it either, and if they can just do it a couple times a week (through e-mail or chat) and still have time for theirselves, then it is even better for them too.

Missing a Mistress, sub BalletBob

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 6:48:27 PM

ramalamaDingDong

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2 years and can’t find time … lets see, 730 days go by and you cant find one to spend on each other?

You get what you go after in life and you are going nowhere fast with this partner as far as real contact goes. How can you expect me to believe you are worried about being “pushed aside” when you aren’t at his side in the first place?

As Mr. T says . . . stop talkin’ smack fool!

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 7:07:50 PM

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He might be a dog ...

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 7:51:36 PM

GraciousLady

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What Aileen said.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

My money's on him being married.

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 8:28:47 PM

xxblushesxx

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Two years ago you said you all would be meeting "as soon as possible".

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1958032/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1958032

He's not making you a priority.

At all.

So what's going on? Which one of you is making 12 gazillion excuses as to why you can't meet?

This does not make sense.

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 8:37:32 PM

Rochsub2009

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Have you noticed the OP hasn't been back since she left her original message? i think everyone is dying to understand what has prevented them from meeting for 2 years.

i read the 2 year old thread that you posted, and it looks like nothing has changed for her. If you read her journal, you will see that "Daddy" has actually even disappeared for months at a time, and then suddenly reappeared, only to be welcomed back with open arms.

i never like to say mean things about people, but the more i read about her situation, the more i think that she is either naive, stupid, vulnerable, lonely, desperate, or all of the above.

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