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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 8:42:35 PM   
xxblushesxx


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It's actually why my first answer was couched the way it was...as a positive! "Go meet!!"

I feel for her and would hate to cause her any more pain. But sometimes the kindest thing you can do is to help remove the blinders.

Maybe.

I think...

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 8:48:12 PM   
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“the distance has made it difficult to find anything in reality”

"in reality", his pics aren't available and he isn't available.

Can anyone say "wife at the mall, kids at school, a six pack, a computer and another online Dom is born"


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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 8:48:17 PM   
DrkJourney


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ORIGINAL: pompeii

He might be a dog ...


perfect

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 8:58:52 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		Don't think there's any more to say that all have not said.  Really kind of hard to comment for me because I don't understand the online thing any way....I just need that human touch.

And now I see what RS has posted about your "daddy's" profile...he's basically saying that he's not intending to meet you.  And that passage he wrote about you doesn't do it...his whole profile is about him still trying to find someone, and it really doesn't look like it will be in addition to you.

And his disappearing...as long as you let him treat you like this, he will continue, I doubt seriously he's going to have some great revelation and start doing all that he promised.

I hope you wake up soon and actually find someone, if that in fact is what you want, cause I think this particular relationship is long over.  I wish you good luck

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 9:05:33 PM   
Hawkwindblues


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Michael and me were online and phoned for 8 months before we met and there were only 550 kilometres between us (less in miles).

And we said "I love you" before we met and it was right.

But i know more stories that started like ours that ended bad, because dreamlovers were created.

We are living together for 9 years that year, but most of our friends thought us crazy as we started, because we decided to live together after only 10 days spent together.

Online only on the other hand, i could and would not do. As a musican the voice is of utmost importance for me, i dare to say i never had any kind of sexual and/or sm contact without an attraction to the voice, therefore without phone calls i could not hold a contact without flesh.

DaddyDomsgirl, for me your dominant sounds like a player, who is in another relationship and i would try to move on. Take the good that you had with him and look for somebody who has the courage to meet you.

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 9:42:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been online in England with someone in Poland and we met within a month.

I've also been online in London with someone in Mississippi and that almost got to a meeting within nine months.

It's all relative but for me online isn't a substitute for a relationship but a prelude to a real time relationship.



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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 10:01:05 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: pompeii

He might be a dog ...



LOL!
 
A married dog.

OP, you seriously don't think he's in a committed relationship to someone else?

Or is it that you just don't care?

If you're not happy with how things are going, then change it up. Because obviously he's fine with having a pen pal.

I've spent scads of time in Arizona. Its a great state, but as others have mentioned, its not super-huge. If he'd have wanted to meet you, he would have.


Self-esteem: Get some. 



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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 10:25:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		2 months without a word would be way too long for me to wait for someone who is in essence an idea more than a reality. I don't think there will be any pushing aside done when/if (if he hasn't already) found someone else to play with because someone who will wait for the amount of time that you wait won't even notice.

Get rid of him. Get a more attentive virtual dom to take his place asap if that's what you got to do.

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 11:05:16 PM   
HisEvelyn


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Status: offline 		This definitely does not sound like a healthy relationship.  Disappearing for months?  I would go crazy if my Master did that to me.  Not to mention, that he would no longer be my Master.  I would assume after that long that he had moved on and so should I, however painful that might be.

Online relationships can work.  I've seen them work before.  Though they ultimately work best as a prelude to a real life meeting.  My Master and I are primarily online and phone calls together, as we are separated by 2100 miles.  However, I have already booked my trip to go see him in two months.  And we have more than that one trip planned for down the line.

On my experience, online relationships work best for when there is some reason why a real-life relationship is not feasible for whatever reason.  IE, money troubles, distance, other factors.  I do think love can grow over the internet, but being there in person is definitely a whole new level and much deeper.

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RE: being just online - 2/4/2010 11:55:39 PM   
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RE: being just online - 2/5/2010 2:30:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		i haven't posted since the oringal question because of my rt.....see since Him and i met here.....i was married at the time and just had a baby......so has been hard to find a way to meet when one half is married and has kids......i know all about His rt relationships......i understand what everyone has to say.....i wasn't so much as asking for people to help me get out.....was mostly asking to keep things going until the time comes for us to meet.....yes He is looking for a playtoy for when He does have time to play.....just as i'm looking for playmate that is closer to me.....thank You all for You answers......i won't be posting any questions again

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RE: being just online - 2/5/2010 2:47:37 AM   
Hawkwindblues


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Try to understand that a lot of posters used their experiences and answered you.

We needed 8 months and all was right, maybe the two of you need 2+ years and everything will be good eventually.

Keep in mind that nobody here wanted to hurt you, but you spend a long time without seeing each other. After 8 months the anticipation was killing us, luckily all went well. But you can believe me concerning that: All is decided in the flesh in the end. We did something, as we learned later, very clever: We mailed each other items of cloth that smelled like us, because if you can not stand the smell of somebody, there is no way to overcome that, except surgery to the nose or brain:-).

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RE: being just online - 2/5/2010 7:53:53 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DaddyDomsgirl

was mostly asking to keep things going until the time comes for us to meet
But why? He disappears for months at time without a word. He doesn't appear to want to make the effort to meet. He's looking for someone else. You say you're looking for someone else. Why keep it going? Why not just stop and go find someone that wants to be with you?

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyDomsgirl
i won't be posting any questions again
You wanted a bunch of cheerleaders egging you on. Instead, we looked at the reality. And because you didn't get the "rah, rah, rah, sis boom bah" answers you wanted.......

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 2/5/2010 7:57:23 AM >

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RE: being just online - 2/5/2010 5:12:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DaddyDomsgirl

since Him and i met here.....i was married at the time and just had a baby......so has been hard to find a way to meet when one half is married......


Ummm, don't you think that might have been an important piece of info to share from the beginning?  Are you still married?  It doesn't sound like it.  So what is the excuse now?

quote:


i won't be posting any questions again


Wow!  Did you just poke out your lip, grab your ball, and storm off the playground?  How juvenile.

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RE: being just online - 2/7/2010 11:52:15 AM   
lovmore


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Status: offline 		hello there ,
i am new here and BDSM,
is there any experienced women who wants to teach me talk me online about BDSM life,
since i am living in conservative society and lots of taboos,
it will be great to chat with openminded people.
i am very curious :)
(just send me PM i will add you or i will send my MSN or yahoo messenger to you.)

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RE: being just online - 2/7/2010 12:27:01 PM   
winterlight


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RE: being just online - 2/7/2010 1:13:33 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		Troll? Maybe not. Where else can he ask for help if not here? the chatrooms will eat him alive for even asking,right!

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RE: being just online - 2/7/2010 1:43:25 PM   
zephyroftheNorth


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Yeah, I was gonna say "What's his wife think?"


*eta:  After about 3 weeks of talking, we had a plan for me to go from the USA to Europe to meet him a few weeks later.  Why can't you get from Arizona to ... Arizona?


Exactly. He and I chatted for about a month, then I went to spend 5 days with him - he's in NY State, I'm in Quebec - and I'll be going back over Easter. You two are in the same state, and a small one at that, and you haven't found a way to meet in 2 years? My money says he's married.


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RE: being just online - 2/7/2010 1:55:11 PM   
lovmore


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quote:

chatrooms will eat him alive for even
quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

troll?

hi,
no i am not,  actually i do not know what troll means :)
but if i  understand true, you mean i am fake?
i agree there are some fake profiles but generally female nigerian scams.
i am real person and really very curious about BDSM life.

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RE: being just online - 2/8/2010 7:44:35 AM   
Hawkwindblues


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Find another place for your personal ads.

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