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ORIGINAL: lally2
i have to say its the ones that creep up on you slowly - you dont really see them coming at first, theyre steady and appear to be in no particular hurry.

its like theyve spied you and theyre slowly drawing in the net until suddenly you realise that theyre right up close and breathing down youre neck

that gives me a feeling of safety from the off, its a reflection of how they operate, how they go about things, methodical, thought out and considered.

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..."Can you tell me what qualities you have found, not just want or desire, but have actually FOUND in a Dominant on CollarMe or other chatlines, that make them the exception to what is so often found here?"...

He insisted on meeting, in a public place, with no expectation of any sex or scenes breaking out, within 2 weeks of knowing each other existed via the internet. He insisted that this slave pick the place, close to her hometown and also arrange a "safe-call", which He had to explain, because this slave didn't know what a safe-call was.

He gave this slave His contact information, including the website address to the company that He worked for, which included His picture and the 800 number for the business. He encouraged this slave to call the 800 number and ask for Him BY NAME.

He gave this slave His home address and brought her there within 2 weeks of meeting in person.

He is, in person, the same person He represents online...only more so.

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ORIGINAL: DistantThunder


"Can you tell me what qualities you have found, not just want or desire, but have actually FOUND in a Dominant on CollarMe or other chatlines, that make them the exception to what is so often found here?"

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ORIGINAL: lally2


just saying that there has been a recent thread on this, but, never mind that, its youre question too, so cool

i have to say its the ones that creep up on you slowly - you dont really see them coming at first, theyre steady and appear to be in no particular hurry.

its like theyve spied you and theyre slowly drawing in the net until suddenly you realise that theyre right up close and breathing down youre neck

that gives me a feeling of safety from the off, its a reflection of how they operate, how they go about things, methodical, thought out and considered.

i have been rushed at too, and that was fun, but it gives you very little time to really work out what theyre about before youre in at the deep end and swimming for youre life. thats good too, but you can get out of youre depth fast.

so, i would say that its the guys who are gentle and careful, who are intelligent enough to keep a few steps ahead, who find ways around rather than just blast through and consider what the sub needs as being of equal importance. their Dominance is often understated at first, just a quiet little throb going on in the back ground that you can pick up if you listen for it.

sometimes i can get skittish and will see spooks when theyre arent any and whats horny is when a guy is so tuned in that he can pick up on that spook and make it go away in one easy checkmate.

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just saying that there has been a recent thread on this, but, never mind that, its youre question too, so cool

i have to say its the ones that creep up on you slowly - you dont really see them coming at first, theyre steady and appear to be in no particular hurry.

its like theyve spied you and theyre slowly drawing in the net until suddenly you realise that theyre right up close and breathing down youre neck

that gives me a feeling of safety from the off, its a reflection of how they operate, how they go about things, methodical, thought out and considered.

i have been rushed at too, and that was fun, but it gives you very little time to really work out what theyre about before youre in at the deep end and swimming for youre life. thats good too, but you can get out of youre depth fast.

so, i would say that its the guys who are gentle and careful, who are intelligent enough to keep a few steps ahead, who find ways around rather than just blast through and consider what the sub needs as being of equal importance. their Dominance is often understated at first, just a quiet little throb going on in the back ground that you can pick up if you listen for it.

sometimes i can get skittish and will see spooks when theyre arent any and whats horny is when a guy is so tuned in that he can pick up on that spook and make it go away in one easy checkmate.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I still have not found the ONE here, but what I like in the Doms I somewhat know here are a combination of intellect, insight, humor, honesty, sarcasm, passion, romantic in a down to earth way, compassionate and hot. They have multifaceted lives and don't deal with the pretention that sometimes exists with people in the lifestyle. They make it their own.

The ones who turn my head combine all that with the ability to make me feel respected, intellectually stimulated, they give me honest feedback, are caring but blunt, show interest, and turn me on like a total kinked out whore, all simultaneously. To be so smart and in the next second make me catch my breath and throb with desire...that is a total unique feat.

Now, what those people are lacking are proximity or they are taken.

One can still hope that if these elusive Doms exist somewhere, they may yet appear here in NJ or NYC.

The caveat here being that these above men I have not met in real life so I have no clue whether they are like that in reality or just give really good cyberchat.

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ORIGINAL: DistantThunder

I began this topic in my own journals, thinking I would get no responses to it and discovered that not only was I WRONG, but that people on this chatline want to discuss this topic and to discuss it to the point where my Email explodes... That'll teach me I guess.