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CERCKL -> RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real people and they never bother to respond back? (3/27/2006 6:05:23 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Evanesce
OK, I've gotta jump in here, simply because I have this overwhelming need to protect the underdog, and I think y'all are being just a bit too hard on old HS.
I've known Scorpio in real life for some six or seven years. I will tell you that, while he certainly needs to take a basic writing course, he does not come across as a complete idiot in person. His biggest problem, that I can see, is that in all these years of attending munches and demos and events, he's not really grown past where he was when I first met him, and he's making the same newbie mistakes now that he did back then. It doesn't make him a bad person... just one who needs a little more education and a few people skills.
Granted, complaints are beyond annoying if that's all you get from someone, but I guess I keep hoping it gets better.
I'll second your opinion, Evanesce, because I've met Scorpio several times at Headspace workshops and at GLLA and other events.
I've seen him with a several partners but usually not the same one at two different events. Considering these encounters were easily months apart I didn't take it very seriously that he had different partners -- I'm all about testing things out and trying various people rather than just into the serious pool right away.
It was clear to me that he was trying to learn and meet people but something just wasn't working though I'm not sure why not. Since he didn't live in the same town as me, I couldn't really track very well. Plus I've never been sure of the etiquette for offering someone advice at a munch or workshop when you know you aren't going to see them for months.
(of course, look at how much "advice" I spin out here onine -- somehow that feels different to me)
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Fine...read several posts all complaining about why don't I get What/who I want? ...and if I don't get it, it must be their fault.
Could be, though I've never bought into the thought that what happens to Me is anybody's responsibility but My own...My wife left Me, her decision, tried to 'fix' it (outta habit?) didn't work...not all My fault granted and her choice to explore different areas of her life but I saw it coming when I was honest with My self...what does this have to do with the post? Take responsibility.
Know what you want, what you are looking for...state it clearly; when you email someone, be semi-articulate, engage interest...read her damned profile, all of it! Period. Realize that you are gettin no emails and she is getting 200/day or so...why does she want to spend her time getting back to you? If she does email back a reply, why would she want to continue a dialogue with you? If you 'click', why do you do so more than the other 500+ people who've emailed her?
I've been here less than a month; the fifth day I sent an initial email to she who is Mine now...I own her, I am training her, she is Mine...I looked back, of the only 20+ people I emailed, only six replied, of those I have one friend, one I email off and on with philisophical, spiritual dialogues and the one I own...you don't need a lot of replies, you just need the proper replies...
...another note; checked, no profile??? Why would they reply to nothingness? Agree with some thought put into your profile, leaver journal entries, this is how you leave an impression...and to another response; if they say they're busy, not looking, not interested, don't reply...make a note and continue; why waste your time or hers?
Remember too, this is the internet, it's a great tool and you might find who you seek but don't invest too much in it...if the statement of little personal growth is true, well, you can always develop interests but shure as hell don't expect anyone to come to you and accept you if you aren't confidant and comfortable with who you are and who you're becoming...My Self, I don't have the time or inclination to invest My time with anyone that there is not some return...creative, intellectual, spiritual, interests...too many souls out there.
...and if those are correct and you just have a habit of whining and not willing to take any pro-active steps...YAWN...maybe somebody else will find something of use.
C
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