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Why do I notice so many complain not finding real peopl... - 3/26/2006 8:56:41 AM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		I have notice so many complain they keep getting players or no real people in the lifestyle. Here is a clue may be if you take the time to respond back to them and strike up a conversation with more than one e mail response. If you do not do that you will never know they are the one for you or not a player.  Also the profile is not written in stone what they are looking for it is a general information that people have a hard time expression what they want or looking for in a relationship. I understand you get allot of hits but you will never know the one you did  not responded to was the one you were looking for.  You can not tell every thing you need to know about the person in one or two e mails unless they come off has a jerk.  Also you may be passing up a good friend in the end that you would benefit from.
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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:18:36 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		HoosierScorpio, are you aware that almost every single one of your posts here are to complain about people not answering your mails. Geesh, get a fucking life already.

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:20:06 AM   
stef


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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:21:07 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		LMFAO Stef, that is priceless indeed

/salutes Stef

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:25:32 AM   
PlayfulOne


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Hands a Hoosier a big plate of cheese,

you do realiaze the submissive ones do not find complaining and whiny an attractive trait in a dom?

K

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:27:52 AM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		hahahaha!! nice one stef.

but seriously, why bitch about people not answering emails?? i mean, i have just recently started getting into these boards because the annoying RSS scroller catches the attention of my ADD. i don't have time to worry about people who don't respond, that is really their perrogative. Perhaps you come off just as whiny in your profile, thus they won't actively seek you out... or maybe you come off too much as a cyber nerd without a life... (it happens to everyone from time to time)..

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:40:47 AM   
justjill


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Status: offline 		Playersl, fake, wannabees and other terms. Are sites full of them sure, but these terms have also have become sad over used terms for people to use on both ends for not replying to messages or if someone does not agree to their beliefs.

Not getting replies or only getting messages from players then I suggest changing your profile and what and how you message someone. In my search I found a lot of  "real" people.

One tact that I do not believes will work though is the one that too many men choose. Very little information about them in their profile and message, then wanting a woman to start communicating to see if there is a match. This is not a bar and you have major competition. Treat it like a job search. Get a great resume together (profile) and a good and customized cover letter (intial message).





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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:43:51 AM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		that's how i feel about it jill. it is a job search. it is also a buyer's market so to speak. male subs way out number female Dommes on here, so really, to be taken seriously, a male, or female sub should try to wow a Domme in their emails and profiles if they are serious to start.

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:45:44 AM   
JohnWarren


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Status: offline 		It could be the person takes one look at the note and knows that the sender is a complete and useless idiot or goes further and sees that the sender doesn't have the brains to put up a profile. 

That might be several good reasons for not responding.

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 9:56:26 AM   
MasterRenegade77


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jill this is not always the case the letter I send for an initial contact is up front & informative as is My Profile... I put it all up front so there's no doubt & still get very few replies, hell from what I see in My mail many never even bother to read it!!! Also whatever happened to the Old School Courtesy of a simple "Sorry i'm not interested" reply... 


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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 10:04:48 AM   
truesub4u


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Status: offline 		Hold on 1 sec.... it's hard to respond to you when i'm spending all my time returning e-mails telling others... i'm not interrested... because they're too stupid to realize... no response... means same damn thing.... 

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 10:10:08 AM   
justjill


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quote:

jill this is not always the case the letter I send for an initial contact is up front & informative as is My Profile... I put it all up front so there's no doubt & still get very few replies, hell from what I see in My mail many never even bother to read it!!! Also whatever happened to the Old School Courtesy of a simple "Sorry i'm not interested" reply...
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77

I think I have written about this a few thousand times. I do not blame you at all for this belief and attitude. Although this is the female sub/slave version of whining, you need to understand our experience on these sites.

For example, even though in my very first line in my profile here I put not loking for anyone I still got over three hundred messages the first coulple of days. It can and near immpossible to reply to all of them. I am sure that most females on these boards have had the same experience. When I do reply with a nice "thank you, but I ma not interested", I then mostly get replies telling me I am a fake and much more unflattering words or men who will continue to write no matter what I wrote. Unfortunately you soon learn the easiest way is not to reply at all.

Unfortunately for the gentlemen and serious men on these sites, they are caught in the crossfire. I am sorry for you guys. While I do try to reply to these paritcular men it sometimes still will not happen.



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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 10:15:39 AM   
preciousgem


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Status: offline 		why should any one want to bother with people how dont take the time to read the persons profile and journal when alot of us have what we are looking for and some even put in there not to send a email with just line. i know i wont answer a email that has just one line. you want to talk to me and get to know me then you should show that in your email. this is not a bar and i dont respond well to one liners. 

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 10:37:34 AM   
EvilGeoff


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Status: offline 		I was going to check out HS's profile and see if there was something there that might be putting off all these potential submissive soul-mates he's so desperately whining about not answering his emails.

There's no profile there to check, nothing to respond too.  Geeez, why in the name of whatever Higher Power you have faith in, would someone respond to a non-profile kinda guy?  No profile = no response in MY play book, for sure.

So I'll echo steph's appropo sound bite in my own way.

Quit yer bitchin'. 

YIK
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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 10:41:03 AM   
Kiledar


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Status: offline 		There are many times I tried to strike up an email conversation and have not recieved any response.  It could be because they have alot going on in their lives and do not have time.  It could be that something in My profile unerved them.  or it could be that they have had a bad experience with white bald men.  The point is it does not bother me or upset Me.  the only time you should be concerned that your emails are not being responded to is if you had a relationship already of some sort with the individual.  And if that is the case  the question would be  what did you do to upset the person.

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 10:47:20 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		In agreement with Stef and Geoff..... Untill you get a profile up and running......
ShutTheFuckUp


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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 11:00:24 AM   
MsPersephone2


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Status: offline 		Very often I get messages from men who very clearly didn't take the time to read my profile because they will mention they are looking for in me something I mention I am not at all offering. That is not only irritating, but it is also insulting. I took a lot of time articulating what I am seeking  in order to provide clarity for anyone who wishes to get in touch with me.

For someone to message me who doesn't manage to take the time to get past my photos, asks me if I need a 24/7 sex slave in France when I say I only seek local men, no sex slaves or 24/7 expecting a reply is too much to ask when there are those who DO send me polite, detailed and informative messages that tell me how they fit in with what I am looking for.


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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 11:10:26 AM   
dave1212


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

I have notice so many complain they keep getting players or no real people in the lifestyle. Here is a clue may be if you take the time to respond back to them and strike up a conversation with more than one e mail response. If you do not do that you will never know they are the one for you or not a player.  Also the profile is not written in stone what they are looking for it is a general information that people have a hard time expression what they want or looking for in a relationship. I understand you get allot of hits but you will never know the one you did  not responded to was the one you were looking for.  You can not tell every thing you need to know about the person in one or two e mails unless they come off has a jerk.  Also you may be passing up a good friend in the end that you would benefit from.


Well HoosierScorpio i have just clicked on your "profile" 3 times and all i seem to get is "profile not found" 
Would actually help if you had one perhaps

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 11:22:26 AM   
shygirldesires


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Status: offline 		besides all the replies and reasons...maybe its because MOST dont seem to give a damn and certainly dont hear the whining on the forums..... i have Stef's "dont whining" droning in the back ground.... is too good, girl !!  Sounds like Master telling me to stop whining about all the nonreplies i get cause folk dont take the time to either send an automated reply out of R E S P E C T or they DONT give a rats ass.

i am in a foul mood... i do apologize but this is like beating a dead horse

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RE: Why do I notice so many complain not finding real p... - 3/26/2006 12:33:31 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77


jill this is not always the case the letter I send for an initial contact is up front & informative as is My Profile... I put it all up front so there's no doubt & still get very few replies, hell from what I see in My mail many never even bother to read it!!! Also whatever happened to the Old School Courtesy of a simple "Sorry i'm not interested" reply... 




I don't know about the profile because it's pending, but your journal entry states emphatically that you don't want 'obese, ugly or scrawny' slaves. Some who are only 5 or 10 pounds over weight consider themselves obese. The most beautiful person in the world can have self-esteem issues and they read that journal entry and think.. why bother, I'm ugly so he will be ashamed of me. Your journal automatically cuts off so many people, that it's not surprising that you don't get a lot of answers.  Being picky is not at all an issue, but as you narrow the parameters of what you will accept, so narrows the field of available slaves and because you don't define 'ugly, obese or scrawny', it's up to each individual to define themselves by unknown parameters, and most probably won't bother.

Good luck in your search.

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