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ashyia -> first meetings (2/4/2010 3:49:41 PM)
So am I completely wrong for thinking the first time you meet someone should be in a public place for coffee or such?? I can't tell you how many times some "Dom" tells me I have no clue how to be a sub/slave/little girl because I don't invite them to my place for the first meeting. Since when does being safe mean I am not a sub/slave/little girl? "I can be over at 4 and you can sit at the door with a blindfold on" and I was chastised for not understanding... I would love to hear what others think...

Navina -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:51:29 PM)
I'm thinking these people you've been speaking to are complete idiots, to be honest. They're not only putting you at risk, but they're putting themselves at risk.

littlewonder -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:52:08 PM)
Depends. I've met men in private settings with not a single soul around. I'm still alive. I'm one who feels that most people for the most part are pretty safe..in fact, most couldn't work their way out of a paper bag lol...but I digress. Do what you feel comfortable with. If you're the type that likes to meet in public, meet in public. If you have a good head on your shoulders then meet privately. There is no rule book.

DianeB269 -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:53:08 PM)
No, you are completely right wanting to meet in a public place...The dom that contacted you is a moron... Diane

Brownsugasub69 -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:54:23 PM)
I make'm buy me dinner, get my nails done and pay 4 my car note. Sugga dont play.

RedMagic1 -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:55:05 PM)
Perhaps if you had a different main profile photo, it would help. Your current selection screams "I want to be treated like a piece of meat."

ashyia -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:56:44 PM)
RedMagic.. I just put that one up. What the excuse when I have normal vanilla photo up??

Cuffkinks -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:58:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia Since when does being safe mean I am not a sub/slave/little girl? It doesn't. Go with your gut. Be safe.

Jeffff -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:59:26 PM)
I can be there by 3:30.... be blindfolded..... have your purse near by.... if you are a good submissive you WILL obey! Jeff

RedMagic1 -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 3:59:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia RedMagic.. I just put that one up. What the excuse when I have normal vanilla photo up?? My real question to you would be: why on earth are you spending any time at all talking to men who are so full of red flags? The more time you spend talking to "idiots," as Ms. Diane puts it, the less time you have available to talk with men who will treat you with respect. Could you be blocking men faster than you currently are?

ashyia -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:02:13 PM)
stuffs all her cash in Jeffs undies Anything else you need ?

DomImus -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:02:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia So am I completely wrong for thinking the first time you meet someone should be in a public place for coffee or such? That's certainly one way to do it. If you said that is the way that it should happen on every first meet for everybody then I would say you are completely wrong.

ashyia -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:03:43 PM)
LOL that is a good point. I may not be using the block feature soon enough. Though you don't realize they are such "idiots" sometimes until you get to the meeting in person part. Some folk talk a good talk online you know.

ashyia -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:05:36 PM)
People should do what htey are comfy with. Though as a Dom and a girl states she would like to meet in person at a public place would you refuse to meet her?

FukinTroll -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:05:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia So am I completely wrong for thinking the first time you meet someone should be in a public place for coffee or such?? I can't tell you how many times some "Dom" tells me I have no clue how to be a sub/slave/little girl because I don't invite them to my place for the first meeting. Since when does being safe mean I am not a sub/slave/little girl? "I can be over at 4 and you can sit at the door with a blindfold on" and I was chastised for not understanding... I would love to hear what others think... For your own edification the first meeting is always in the basement, right next to the very deep cistern, you should always bring twine, a basket, lotion and a long water hose.

RedMagic1 -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:06:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia you don't realize they are such "idiots" sometimes until you get to the meeting in person part. I agree. I think this is a very important lesson, and it took me a while to learn. (And I'm a guy, who meets women. Women can be tricky too.[;)]) At this point, I really don't much care what people say about themselves online, or on the phone. Sure, if they say certain things, I put them on Ignore. But in general, it's not real unless they show up at the restaurant for the first time.

ashyia -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:06:54 PM)
FukinTroll .. good thing I sell avon.. i have a years supply of lotion!

FukinTroll -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:08:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia FukinTroll .. good thing I sell avon.. i have a years supply of lotion! Well a'right then... is the basket big enough to hold the lotion?

ashyia -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:08:38 PM)
quote: I agree. I think this is a very important lesson, and it took me a while to learn. (And I'm a guy, who meets women. Women can be tricky too.) At this point, I really don't much care what people say about themselves online, or on the phone. Sure, if they say certain things, I put them on Ignore. But in general, it's not real unless they show up at the restaurant for the first time. quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia you don't realize they are such "idiots" sometimes until you get to the meeting in person part. I agree. I think this is a very important lesson, and it took me a while to learn. (And I'm a guy, who meets women. Women can be tricky too.[;)]) At this point, I really don't much care what people say about themselves online, or on the phone. Sure, if they say certain things, I put them on Ignore. But in general, it's not real unless they show up at the restaurant for the first time. I have decided to adopt the rule all people on the internet are trained monkeys until I meet them in person. Then again in person some are still monkeys..

VaguelyCurious -> RE: first meetings (2/4/2010 4:18:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ashyia Though as a Dom and a girl states she would like to meet in person at a public place would you refuse to meet her? Never, but that's because I'm five foot three and a half, so I tend to prefer to meet in public too... People don't have a right to make you uncomfortable unless you've already consented to humiliation, in my book. Anyone who doesn't see that doesn't sound like my cup of tea...

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