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if a Dominant can feel that theyre sub or slave belongs to them, can a slave or sub feel that her Dominant belongs to her.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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if a Dominant can feel that theyre sub or slave belongs to them, can a slave or sub feel that her Dominant belongs to her.

Not to get caught up in semantics, belonging is very different than owning. When I've been in great D/s dynamics, I felt we belonged together. My heart did belong to him, there is no doubt.


- LA

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ORIGINAL: lally2



if a Dominant can feel that theyre sub or slave belongs to them, can a slave or sub feel that her Dominant belongs to her.

personally i would never say that my Dominant belongs to me. i have never actually been someone who believes a man belongs to me. hell, i dont even feel that i own my animals, though i am responsible for them.

is it a sub thing to feel they 'belong' to someone and is it a Dominant thing to 'own' someone and never to trespass across those delineations. if so why not. would it interfere with the psychology of owned and owner, would it change the dynamic.

i would never want to 'own' my Dominant in the sense of 'he's mine and noone else can have him' and yet, in a way, if youre not poly, that is, kinda how it is. i would never say 'my Dominant belongs to me, his life is mine' and yet in an odd way, entering into a relationship with someone you are kinda hoping that he'll stick around and be truely youres forever.

it was just one of my random thoughts today.

right now my feeling is no. i cant and do not want to own any living thing, i see each living thing as a free spirit, designed to follow their own path, best they can.

what does ownership even feel like [:D]

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

There is no ownership, on either side of the kneel.  Period.  End of story.

So now that we've eliminated fantasy, let's talk about reality. 

D/s relationships are just like vanilla relationships.  There is a bond that is formed, and possessiveness is often a natural outgrowth of that bond .  There may be mutual agreement to allow others to come between that bond (e.g. poly households, or cuckolding situations), but for the most part, that possessiveness tends to flow both ways.  Why else do you think so many subs/slaves want to marry their Dom/Domme?

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ORIGINAL: sodsta

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

There is no ownership, on either side of the kneel.  Period.  End of story.

So now that we've eliminated fantasy, let's talk about reality. 

D/s relationships are just like vanilla relationships.  There is a bond that is formed, and possessiveness is often a natural outgrowth of that bond .  There may be mutual agreement to allow others to come between that bond (e.g. poly households, or cuckolding situations), but for the most part, that possessiveness tends to flow both ways.  Why else do you think so many subs/slaves want to marry their Dom/Domme?

This.

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ORIGINAL: lally2
is it a sub thing to feel they 'belong' to someone and is it a Dominant thing to 'own' someone and never to trespass across those delineations. if so why not. would it interfere with the psychology of owned and owner, would it change the dynamic.

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ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Yes, you can own a dominant. Get a cat [:D].