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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/7/2010 1:43:42 PM

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The fact that they know you are new and yet have not explained any of this is a red flag imo. They know you don't know the right questions to ask yet they plan to have you lose your home and be dependent on them before they tell you what is ahead. That's a bad thing.

They shouldn't be in a hurry to have you move in. They should be taking their time to make sure all three of you are on the same page. They should be writing down everything they expect you to do, and what they will do. You ought to be able to consider this at length.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/7/2010 1:53:47 PM

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thanks Celeste! I've set the time frame, not them and I would not give up my home for anyone but me. My long term plan is to be near my adult kids. I would just like to have a little fun and connect with people. They have explained allot and insist they will adjust to my needs rather then theirs. I"m still waiting to talk with the lady of the house. my visit with them will of course determine if there is chemistry.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/7/2010 2:28:04 PM

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I am owned by a married couple. All of my discussions in the 2-3 years prior to meeting them were with him. He was to be my primary owner. I accepted his collar before meeting her & lots of people here told me that was a "red flag", that I should never have accepted it without meeting her first. I did meet her & we are as close to each other as he said that we would be, in fact perhaps closer than he imagined. I love them both & they both love me & it's turned into the best relationship I have ever had. I say follow your instincts. You're a big girl. And talk to them about what is expected of you. I don't think anybody here can answer that for you. All we can do is tell you about our experiences. I hope it works out for you the way that you wish.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/7/2010 3:38:25 PM

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My back up plan is to move south and be near my adult kids and grand kids. always was.

Why is this a "backup plan"? Are you having trouble making it on your own economically and thinking of this situation as a means of support? If so, this would seem like a red flag for them in my opinion... if you are investigating this as a means of support, well, it probably isn't going to work out well, and it gives them a lot of power over you...

If you are seeking this for other reasons, well my bad.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/7/2010 7:15:52 PM

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I believe I already answered that Julia, thank you for your concern!

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/8/2010 3:58:42 AM

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I have to admit that I'm curious as to how a female can be a sissy. I would suggest finding out beforehand.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/8/2010 6:03:00 AM

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What makes you think they may be the ONE?

If you have no experience with any of the above, how can you judge? I am just thinking that if all you've done is online that you might want to do some realtime with someone before taking on such an intense situation.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/8/2010 7:06:15 AM

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What makes you think they may be the ONE?

If you have no experience with any of the above, how can you judge? I am just thinking that if all you've done is online that you might want to do some realtime with someone before taking on such an intense situation.

I feel they are the one,, I don't know yet. I've been talking with many couples over a few years now. Many just stop communicating because of the "gotta have it now" way so many people are. Also in all my talks with couples I make it clear that I may find it's not for me but I would still be looking for a couple. They agree, me "daughter", They "parents" all the fetish stuff is really secondary to that.

What's a sissy? I'd say a topic for another discussion! They even have sissy outfits for puppies! Sure a submissive, dominated male is one if that's the persons turn on. I'd call it a fetish costume. I'm sure a genetic female put is such an outfit and treated as a sub will still qualify as a sissy too.(fetish?) I think the British call all tg women sissies or tannies. Sure I'm a woman in society, that mean I can't have a little fun? I like the idea of playing dress up to do housework, let a mature lady enjoy my girlishness. How do I know what I want? I've a friend in the "business" she runs a TG transformation biz. she's a very close and dear friend that also happens to be DommyMommy. Also, I've been around the TG lifestylers for many years, even though I didn't particpate.
I've pretty much done all the things necessary to make it in life.
Now that I'm reaching a point in life that will allow me to explore my submissive inner girl I eventually will. If, d/s, being a ladies sissy and man's fetish maid is too intense I won't have to stay with this couple. how does anyone know until they try?
thanks everyone I really do appreciate the input and I'm taking much of it very serious.
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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/8/2010 9:39:40 AM

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I think the British call all tg women sissies or tannies.

Generally 'tranny' is an offensive word, and no sissy is used as an insult to men not fitting masculine ideals. A woman can be a sissy in a fetish concept, think bad cross dresser outfits generally, too much pink puffy skirts that kind of thing. I think again it may be another terminology issue and is kinda irrelevant. The issue was more your not knowing what it was but knowing it was expected of you

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/8/2010 5:05:28 PM

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In the U.S. a sissy would be a male, not a person who identifies as female. We may be misconstruing things on this end of the pond due to that.

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RE: what to expect as a live in for a "pansexual&q... - 2/8/2010 5:24:01 PM

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Also in all my talks with couples I make it clear that I may find it's not for me but I would still be looking for a couple.

To be honest, if you have been talking to people for years, now are contemplating a situation where "they will adjust to you", where this "may not be the thing for you", where you "have a backup plan", and you begin by mentioning a pansexual couple, then tell us you do not know what that means... You state you have no experience, which, if you've been talking about it for years, means you have no desire to actually even try, well... I think it is all in your head, and none of it will ever happen - every question you're asked you have a way out, and to me that spells "no commitment". Doesn't mean you can't be here fantasizing.. but that is all it is. If you spend three years talking about getting your driver license, when the DMV is down the block, guess what...

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