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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 2:59:20 PM   
Wolf2Bear


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ORIGINAL: osf

but he is into some things you're not

a do you pass him by

b suck it up an be his slave


Pretty much boils down to the fact that if those incompatibilities aren't grossly interfering with the dynamic, compromise is the answer. So long as neither one of us have compromised to much where we lose a sense of self then I don't see any problem.


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 5:03:10 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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I enjoy surrender, but not constantly and not for things that I really do not care to do, there is little satisfaction for me there and it builds resentment. I don't need it, I have enough other stuff going on in my life.


Exactly!

I get the sense (correctly) that part of osf's thrill is getting women who do not like X or Y or Z to do those activities.. it is about making someone do something they don't want to, and that right there wouldn't work for me... because it would mean a life of doing shit I don't wanna...


Considering he can't find anyone, it apparently doesn't work for him either.

But what osf doesn't understand, no matter how many times we have all explained it, is that we are capable of being happy single and would prefer to remain single then settle.

If the only shoes in the store I like fit badly, I won't buy any. I am not so desperate that I have to settle for something that doesn't work for me. And no woman worth having is that desperate either.

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 5:24:23 PM   
juliaoceania


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Considering he can't find anyone, it apparently doesn't work for him either.



According to him, he is swimming in slave flesh


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But what osf doesn't understand, no matter how many times we have all explained it, is that we are capable of being happy single and would prefer to remain single then settle.


I am beginning to think he is in a catch 22, he doesn't really want someone who wants to do everything he wants to do. He wants someone who will do what she doesn't want to do... like almost bordering on the nonconsent line without actually crossing it, due to legal concerns....

quote:

If the only shoes in the store I like fit badly, I won't buy any. I am not so desperate that I have to settle for something that doesn't work for me. And no woman worth having is that desperate either.


Oh wait, there are women that will wear ill fitting shoes to make their ass look better and legs slimmer... there are podiatrists all over America that can attest to that.... just like there are women out there who would put up with anything in order to get crumbs of attention.

If Osf  is having trouble finding someone, it isn't because there are not women out there desperate enough to play this sort of game, it is because he lacks the bait with which to catch one of them... he lives on a farm in the middle of nowhere, so it would have to be a desperate someone that was willing to be isolated. If I remember, he likes em young, so it would have to be a young woman willing to be isolated. Finding younger women willing to be isolated and living a harsh life without much reward, this is a tall order... even amongst the desperate there might not be many takers....

PS, I like the way you changed my post from "incorrectly" to "correctly"


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 5:26:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Julia - I am so envious.  On another dating site, most of my best matches are in CA.  sighs

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 5:27:03 PM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		ffs, we havent married him off yet????....i called Grapevine Slave-A-Lot last week and ordered him a three-hole, full service slut....sent her COD....nuthin???

im calling the BBB......

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 5:31:01 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Julia - I am so envious.  On another dating site, most of my best matches are in CA.  sighs


You could always move out here... more fish in the pond, nice weather, and plenty to do
                                                                 
Or

You could always relocate to osf's farm?




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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 5:46:54 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL:
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ORIGINAL: osf

lets say what he want wont injure you, make you sick, get you arrested or make it difficult for you to function publicly or at or with career , family and friends

it's just some perversion you'd rather not or something more painful than you'd like





osf, you have NO idea if whatever "some perversion" will do or not do, whether it will injure you, make you sick or make it difficult for you to function publically.

I have no intention of telling you what happened, but suffice it to say, I was reluctant to try something with my ex who kept asking and asking and asking me to do it, and not that day, not next week, but 2 weeks after, I ended up in the hospital for 7 days and almost died.

I had submitted to his desire in 3 parts: 1/3 turned on, 1/3 scared, 1/3 grossed out that we were even trying such an edgy thing.

And look what happened, and try explaining why to doctors, friends and family.

The moral of the story is to watch out for what you wish for, even as a Dom, because even if your sub submits to it out of loyalty to you, you could lose her and she could almost fucking die.

Otherwise be safe out there boys and and girls.

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 6:21:22 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: agirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

lets say what he want wont injure you, make you sick, get you arrested or make it difficult for you to function publicly or at or with career , family and friends

it's just some perversion you'd rather not or something more painful than you'd like


That covers quite a lot..lol

There are tons of activities I'd rather not do with some random guy that I just *like*. Not only would I *rather not* .....I just wouldn't.

Taking part in filthy, perverted things isn't the *thing* itself at all...... it's the who. I don't have any objections  to much at all........ but *you* quite possibly might not be the one I'd be that way with.

agirl







Pretty much my view.  The relationship needs to develop first.


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 8:23:22 PM   
QuirkyAnne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

but he is into some things you're not

a do you pass him by

b suck it up an be his slave


If the things he's "into" are absolutely things he can't live without on a regular basis that are either acts that I'm only into once in awhile, or even on my list of hard limits, then yes, I pass him by, however, I'm nobody's slave as I don't care for the 24/7 aspect of BDSM.

Btw... How many times are you going to ask this question only rephrasing it?  This is about the third time you've asked this.


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/10/2010 11:39:11 PM   
WestBaySlave


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ORIGINAL: osf

lets say what he want wont injure you, make you sick, get you arrested or make it difficult for you to function publicly or at or with career , family and friends

it's just some perversion you'd rather not or something more painful than you'd like


Then a definite yes from me, though it might be hard finding a thing between:

1. Kinks I'm willing to do and enjoy.

- & -

2. Things I'm not doing, ever.

Because I tend to enjoy pleasing a guy first and foremost. Chances are if he's having a good time and I'm not dying, I can see the fun in something...

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 3:00:05 AM   
ranja


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I have no intention of telling you what happened, but suffice it to say, I was reluctant to try something with my ex who kept asking and asking and asking me to do it, and not that day, not next week, but 2 weeks after, I ended up in the hospital for 7 days and almost died.



This is not on and it certainly does not suffice...

Did he make you eat copious amounts of his diarrhoea?

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 3:51:19 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Plus there is mental illness. What he wants may not cause him debilitating panic attacks but it might cause that in someone else.

Suspension can be totally safe or it can cause death. You have to be very good at it not to cause impairment. And the person wanting to do it could easily not be as good at it as he thinks he is.

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 7:02:10 AM   
badlilthang


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 8:48:54 AM   
osf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

Considering he can't find anyone, it apparently doesn't work for him either.



According to him, he is swimming in slave flesh


quote:

But what osf doesn't understand, no matter how many times we have all explained it, is that we are capable of being happy single and would prefer to remain single then settle.


I am beginning to think he is in a catch 22, he doesn't really want someone who wants to do everything he wants to do. He wants someone who will do what she doesn't want to do... like almost bordering on the nonconsent line without actually crossing it, due to legal concerns....

quote:

If the only shoes in the store I like fit badly, I won't buy any. I am not so desperate that I have to settle for something that doesn't work for me. And no woman worth having is that desperate either.


Oh wait, there are women that will wear ill fitting shoes to make their ass look better and legs slimmer... there are podiatrists all over America that can attest to that.... just like there are women out there who would put up with anything in order to get crumbs of attention.

If Osf  is having trouble finding someone, it isn't because there are not women out there desperate enough to play this sort of game, it is because he lacks the bait with which to catch one of them... he lives on a farm in the middle of nowhere, so it would have to be a desperate someone that was willing to be isolated. If I remember, he likes em young, so it would have to be a young woman willing to be isolated. Finding younger women willing to be isolated and living a harsh life without much reward, this is a tall order... even amongst the desperate there might not be many takers....

PS, I like the way you changed my post from "incorrectly" to "correctly"



julia, i'm not doing that bad believe me

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 8:49:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: badlilthang

at least he feeds his duck....:-)


and the domme goose

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 8:58:15 AM   
juliaoceania


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julia, i'm not doing that bad believe me


A) It is not important whether or not I "believe" you

B) You say you have women lining up to move in with you... well go you.


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 9:20:12 AM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

julia, i'm not doing that bad believe me


A) It is not important whether or not I "believe" you

B) You say you have women lining up to move in with you... well go you.



one wants to come for a visit, thats a start

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 9:24:29 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: osf

one wants to come for a visit, thats a start


Yay for you?

Why do all your vague, "not about me really" threads turn into a discussion of your kinks, how hard it is to find women into them and how many woman you have interested in you?

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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 9:29:45 AM   
juliaoceania


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one wants to come for a visit, thats a start


All that is important or relevant for me in that sentence is I am not the one that is coming for a visit... just sayin'... there is a forum for people who do meet from CM, called "positive experiences".. once she has graced your doorway you can regale us of the tale on that forum....

Good luck


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RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant - 2/11/2010 9:37:07 AM   
osf


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

one wants to come for a visit, thats a start


All that is important or relevant for me in that sentence is I am not the one that is coming for a visit... just sayin'... there is a forum for people who do meet from CM, called "positive experiences".. once she has graced your doorway you can regale us of the tale on that forum....

Good luck




is that a kiss and tell forum ?

i've probably already said too much

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