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osf -> you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:08:48 PM)
but he is into some things you're not a do you pass him by b suck it up an be his slave

AquaticSub -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:17:08 PM)
Too vague to answer. I'd have to consider what the things were, how much he liked them, how much I disliked them, how much I like him as a dominant (To be honest, if it's just liking him as a dominant, I'm not likely to be with him. I want to love it.), how well we work in "vanilla" life, etc. There are so many factors that come into play when deciding who to be with and who not to be with. X when paired with Y can outweigh Z but not B. Throw in some C though and you've got a deal...

xxblushesxx -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:17:56 PM)
Absolutely to vague. Although I tend to bend rather than to break.

sunshinemiss -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:20:19 PM)
The problem osf is that your questions all have the same answer... It depends on x, y, and z. Get out man. Seriously, go meet some people.

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:22:39 PM)
I'm bored, so I'll give this a stab. But, since I'm not submissive, I'm going on the premise that it's a submissive man I'm speaking with. While he may have interests that I do not share, so long as they aren't things I consider hard limits, I may still get to know him further, conditionally. The conditions I'd have to get to know him further are as follows: First, the 'important' things we match up on. Second, he understands that if his other interests really do nothing for me, then they ain't gonna happen. So long as he is clear on that, I may give him a go. The rest would depend on further compatibility and chemistry.

kiwisub12 -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:33:15 PM)
I can't do new math and x's and y's and a's and b's so i would have to give him the go-by. sigh Its hard to be math phobic.

juliaoceania -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:37:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf but he is into some things you're not a do you pass him by b suck it up an be his slave Depends on what "things" those be..... If he has to have things that are my hard limits I pass him by

LillyoftheVally -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:39:04 PM)
If he likes clubbing seals at the weekend i pass him by if he likes two sugars in his tea then id give him a bash and then there are variants in between

AquaticSub -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 1:39:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 I can't do new math and x's and y's and a's and b's so i would have to give him the go-by. sigh Its hard to be math phobic. Awww but Al the Gebra loves you! (I can't be the only one on here who read that book as a kid.)

Elisabella -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:04:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf but he is into some things you're not a do you pass him by b suck it up an be his slave c. become his submissive girlfriend d. try to do some of those things if they're not too awful (because I love him not because I'm property) e. make it clear that if that's not enough he is free to do those specific things I won't do with someone else f. marry him and live happily ever after. Oh is this choice? I thought it was a list.

osf -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:13:16 PM)
you supply the things and answer it was vague on purpose to stir discussion i know i have dark things not many would like, but thats not part of the discussion , hey i claim to be a dom and the question was for the subs

agirl -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:20:03 PM)
I can't imagine too many things in a kinky sense that would put me off someone I admired, liked and respected. agirl

LillyoftheVally -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:21:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf i know i have dark things not many would like, but thats not part of the discussion , kinda is, flip it around are there things that you are into that you can understand would put someone off, and if so what?

osf -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:34:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally quote: ORIGINAL: osf i know i have dark things not many would like, but thats not part of the discussion , kinda is, flip it around are there things that you are into that you can understand would put someone off, and if so what? if it puts them off that much , i don't bother and you can get an idea before you go into much detail

juliaoceania -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:53:38 PM)
quote: two sugars in his tea A tea drinker? Definitely have to pass, only coffee drinkers for me

AquaticSub -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 2:55:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf you supply the things and answer it was vague on purpose to stir discussion Doesn't seem to have had the intended affect. I'm not going to write other people's posts for them. quote: i know i have dark things not many would like, but thats not part of the discussion , hey i claim to be a dom and the question was for the subs Making it about you again. Fishing for more dates?

lizi -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 3:42:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: osf you supply the things and answer it was vague on purpose to stir discussion Doesn't seem to have had the intended affect. I'm not going to write other people's posts for them. quote: i know i have dark things not many would like, but thats not part of the discussion , hey i claim to be a dom and the question was for the subs Making it about you again. Fishing for more dates? It is ALWAYS about him. Doesn't matter what the topic is or where the thread is going whatever input he gives is always about him. It's extremely off-putting.

littlewonder -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 4:59:18 PM)
Depends on what he's into. There are some things Master is into that I am not. They are not dealbreakers for me though. They are not limits. I may not get anything out of those activities but I deal with them and do my best to remind myself I do them because they make him happy and it's not about me. I don't see it as sucking it up to be his slave. I see it as making him happy and desiring to be with him for more than just a few kinks.

WestBaySlave -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 6:05:39 PM)
There are very few kinks that would put me off a man. There are a number of personal viewpoints that do and have put me off men in the past ( for example: racism, sexism, homophobia - yes, common enough among gay guys ). It's all about what those "things" are.

Kaiel -> RE: you meet a man you like as a dominant (2/9/2010 6:34:52 PM)
depends on what He's into and what you are willing to compromise... I think we need more info :)

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