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RE: Active Dominance....and follow through - 2/28/2010 5:57:04 PM

dove967

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This is a great thread! Many of the things I would bring up have already been shared, so, I'll just share MY experience. When Daddy and I first began 2 years ago, yes...things were much more intense on a more regular basis. It was a honeymoon phase, exciting a new. But, like any kind of relationship, as it progresses it does take a little work and creativity to keep things moving forward and growing in a healthy manner. But, one thing I am comforted by are the daily, regular , almost mundane tasks that have become second nature between us. Him having me sit on his lap facing outward so he can put on my collar when he arrives home. The way he kisses the back of my neck each time he puts it one and each time he takes it off. The way kneel to remove his shoes. Some evenings, he undresses himself to shower, some evenings he requests that I do it. But, I never know which it will be. Making sure I fix his plate and take it to him to begin eating before I fix my plate. Taking his dishes to the kitchen when he is done. Making sure he has coffee in the pot when he wants some. These are the little things that remind me daily of who I am and to whom I belong. He insists I come to him to light my ciggarets for me-never do so on my own w/out permission. When we go somewhere, I am to wait in the car for him to come around and let me out. Right now, he is dealing with some serious issues concerning his daughter, so, his thoughts are often very far away from lifestyle issues. It's my job to create an enviornment at home that is relaxing and enjoyable. But, this is also where it's vital in a 24/7 relationship that things are well rounded. We enjoy each other's company. We share common interests and ideas. We laugh at alot of the same things. That's why the relationship part comes before the D/s if anything is to endure.

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RE: Active Dominance....and follow through - 3/1/2010 2:54:44 AM

MasterBelial

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My subs both write journals every day. I read them on my phone, and never let them know if i read them. but I do solve problems and insecurity if there are any. They are extremely honest about everything. how the day was, feelings and such. They talk about world events, or the bottom of the butt iching.

One time they asked me about it, and i pretended to have forgotten about the journals. to later observe their responses. you may not know your master is watching, but he most defiantly is.

At least I always am.
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RE: Active Dominance....and follow through - 3/1/2010 4:05:22 AM

DesFIP

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So you lied outright to them? Great way to make a strong and secure relationship, not.

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RE: Active Dominance....and follow through - 3/1/2010 6:16:58 AM

lucylucy

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
So you lied outright to them? Great way to make a strong and secure relationship, not.

I had the same reaction.

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