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what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:38:35 AM

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I have only a vague idea of what vanilla means.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:41:16 AM

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It's a tasty way to add flavor to baking and cooking.

It's also a way to refer to the non-kinky that I, personally, have issues with.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:42:51 AM

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Anything which isn't kink.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:44:40 AM

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it's general connotation is "plain"... in this conext it's generally those people that are not into BDSM. hope this helps.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:46:46 AM

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I believe the word vanilla was originally used to mean something plain, and derived from those ice cream shops that sold masses of different flavours. Vanilla was the 'basic' variety, everything else was more exotic.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:50:58 AM

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I believe the word vanilla was originally used to mean something plain, and derived from those ice cream shops that sold masses of different flavours. Vanilla was the 'basic' variety, everything else was more exotic.

Also when you mix vanilla with almost any other flavor it goes well together... or you can make vanilla into a scrumptious sundae, or put little sprinkles on top... vanilla is versatile

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:52:23 AM

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I believe the word vanilla was originally used to mean something plain, and derived from those ice cream shops that sold masses of different flavours. Vanilla was the 'basic' variety, everything else was more exotic.

Also when you mix vanilla with almost any other flavor it goes well together... or you can make vanilla into a scrumptious sundae, or put little sprinkles on top... vanilla is versatile

Mmmmm.... french vanilla just barely drizzled with a bit of caramel...

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:53:50 AM

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I like Rocky Road or Moose tracks...

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:55:10 AM

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It's just the easiest way for folks to say non kinky. As Aquatic said, a lot of people don't agree with the term (another example of this is "lifestyle") but when you use it, most folks have at least some idea of notion that you are referring to the non kinky activities or people.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:58:25 AM

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Johmey, please don't get too worried about "vanilla" everybody has none BDSM interests. We all have lives and everything we do is not BDSM 24/7.

Vanilla when in context of activies would be - Dinner, Movies, going to the Park etc.
None Vanilla activities would be - Bondage, Spanking, Humiliation and etc.

Now you can take Vanilla activities and incorperate BDSM into them if you like, or just do those activities without elements of BDSM (like how ever body else does).

Don't panic, and think there is any thing wrong with Vanila aspects of things.

In fact, at times it's best to apply Vanilla common sense and experiences to BDSM? Why because they are general life experiences.

I'm all for the Blending of Vanilla and BDSM because that's realistic. It's okay you don't have to be BDSM 24/7...

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 9:59:54 AM

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Mmmmm.... french vanilla just barely drizzled with a bit of caramel...

But you really know you're kinky when it's topped with CHOPPED NUTS.. :-)

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:00:43 AM

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Vanilla when in context of activies would be - Dinner, Movies, going to the Park etc.
None Vanilla activities would be - Bondage, Spanking, Humiliation and etc.

I did not think of it like that...

I thought of it as regular old fashioned sex, not nonsexual activities....

I like vanilla sex... it is yummy and comforting... and then he pulls my hair to get me into position,.... OOOOO ... those yummy sprinkles

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:00:50 AM

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It's a tasty way to add flavor to baking and cooking.

It's also a way to refer to the non-kinky that I, personally, have issues with.

Agreed...given the history and exotic locations the vanilla bean is sourced from... http://www.nielsenmassey.com/historyofvanilla.htm I've always found it interesting people use the word to describe some as plain.

I'm partial to vanilla with chocolate and raspberry swirls and a dusting of nuts

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:02:01 AM

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If you are neither totally "vanilla" or really "kinky", you can be Mint Chocolate Chip or MCC for short.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:05:00 AM

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It is a secret code and a composite of 2 meanings. “Van” is symbolic of secrets, like the secret spy vans with all that electronic equipment. The "nilla" part is a reference to the manila ropes we use. So “Van-nilla” refers to someone who is in our secret bondage society.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:05:19 AM

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It's a tasty way to add flavor to baking and cooking.

It's also a way to refer to the non-kinky that I, personally, have issues with.

Agreed...given the history and exotic locations the vanilla bean is sourced from... http://www.nielsenmassey.com/historyofvanilla.htm I've always found it interesting people use the word to describe some as plain.

I'm partial to vanilla with chocolate and raspberry swirls and a dusting of nuts

That's always been part of my issue as well. I mean, if we want to go for a plain food stuff shouldn't be we going for something like grits? Without adding anything to them, I find them fairly flavorless.

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But you really know you're kinky when it's topped with CHOPPED NUTS.. :-)

With a few exceptions, I find that I don't actually like nuts on or my food. I guess I'm not kinky enough....

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:06:31 AM

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I keep my Vanilla Ice cream in a state of Frozen Bondage and pull it out confinement only for my pleasure and enjoyment. I'll proceed to man handle it, by force I open it up and expose it to view. (i may have a slight smile of anicipation). Licking my lips. I proceed to take a spoon and penetrate it, It resists at first, then with added force It's subdued to my will. For it will be forced to Serve my Appetities and Tasty pleasureful lusts. It will begin to melt in my mouth as I swirl my tounge around it... Yummy..

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:08:26 AM

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I have only a vague idea of what vanilla means.

Vanilla is a kink conducted by people who have obscene sexual desires that I just can't get my head around.

I think it used to mean something but in the modern world it means very little since we now live in this age of sexual liberation. Probably you'll struggle to find anyone that hasn't engaged in some form of kink to some degree. So nowadays it's probably considered more kinky to not have any kinks of any kind.

Although I'm probably biased, perhaps some people do actually have this form of sex life.

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:09:21 AM

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If I were wearing panties I'd have to change them now.

(Seriously, you can't post that in a thread were ice cream is also being discussed and not have some squirming going on.)

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RE: what does vanilla mean? - 2/11/2010 10:24:40 AM

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That's always been part of my issue as well. I mean, if we want to go for a plain food stuff shouldn't be we going for something like grits? Without adding anything to them, I find them fairly flavorless.

Excellent point. But does anyone eat plain grits?

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