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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/12/2010 9:13:45 PM

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i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait?

Hi and welcome to the Forums... :-)

What you should do is step back a little for a reality check. Since you haven't said as much, I'm gonna assume you haven't even met him in real life. And believe me, real life is the true measure of how well you relate to someone and whether that feeling is mutual.

At the moment, what you seem to have is an attachment to a romanticised notion of who and what this person is - a most common submissive "rookie mistake". It's all very well if this person is pushing the right D/s buttons within you only for you to discover in real life that he's 20 years older and a hundred pounds heavier than he's presented himself. And then there's the missus blah blah....

Hey, it happens all too often to naive newbies so you start by getting "all your ducks in the right order".... If he's so special to you, step one is to arrange a face to face meet - and be prepared if he's suddenly a bit reluctant, too. Some just like it online....

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/13/2010 7:03:48 AM

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i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait?

If you don't tell him, he'll never know.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/13/2010 1:33:31 PM

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Most people know that communication is necessary for a relationship. But then they refuse to admit that they themselves are not communicating or worse, are doing it badly.

As a guy, I can easily recognize bad communication in women (and as a guy, I probably miss it a lot among men).

Here are several stereotypical communication errors that I have seen.

1. Trick question/statements (Do I look fat/good/nice in this? Did you look at that other women? Why do you want me to do THAT? Do what ever you want to do.)

2. Telepathic partner (I want him to do/say it without me telling him to. If you have to ask, it doesn't matter.)

You are doing the classic #2. Men are not telepathic. You need to tell us anything that you want us to do. Not just the first time either, you may need to make the request more than once.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/17/2010 8:43:22 AM

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i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait?

This seems important to you and no, you should not wait

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/17/2010 3:50:00 PM

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Talk to him. Open communication is is vital to all relationships, but especially relationships with a power exchange dynamic.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/19/2010 11:03:22 PM

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You could always just ask him. Say... "I'd like to call you master. How do you feel about that?"

*laughs* But that would make everything so simple.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/19/2010 11:23:03 PM

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Does he want to be a master?

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/19/2010 11:25:14 PM

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He calls me His girl

His girl ~ her Master
when he calls you "his" then he made him your Master.
Just call him that.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/22/2010 7:35:20 PM

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i have been talking to my Sir for a while and He calls me His girl. At times i want to call Him Master as i truly want to give myself to Him, but He hasn't asked. i ache at the thought of not being able to talk to Him and i dream about belonging to Him. Should i tell Him how i feel or wait?

It's always a good idea to hide information from the one you consider your owner or master. This way, it keeps him on his toes! It also invites little surprises popping up in the relationship and making things more interesting.

For an added bonus, don't tell him you're menstruating until it's too late. He'll LOVE it!

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/22/2010 7:38:50 PM

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when he calls you "his" then he made him your Master.

If calling someone "my girl" makes me their Master, does calling someone "my friend" also make me their Master? How about "my uncle" or "my teacher"?

Using the word "my" doesn't make one a Master.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 9:53:21 AM

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when he calls you "his" then he made him your Master.

If calling someone "my girl" makes me their Master, does calling someone "my friend" also make me their Master? How about "my uncle" or "my teacher"?

Using the word "my" doesn't make one a Master.

friends has nothing to do with MAster...neither would you want to own your Uncle...
girl is often used for a slave or sub...the "my" makes it yours.

Perhaps I misunderstand english..but that is how I read "my"

If a D calls a sub/slave "my girl" then it is pretty clear. If not..then he used the wrong words.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 10:41:49 AM

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Doms are psychotic, not psychic.

Priceless quote of the day!

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 12:32:53 PM

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Better to ask for forgiveness than permission I always say. Besides you will never know unless you try.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 12:34:12 PM

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I would just call him Master, worse case he says you shouldn't and you get a spanking...how bad is that?

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 1:06:29 PM

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Better to ask for forgiveness than permission I always say. Besides you will never know unless you try.

Don't give the subs/slaves bad ideas!!!!!! lol

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 1:12:29 PM

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Give credit where credit is due! That's paraphrased from the inimitable Admiral Grace M Hopper :-) She was a hoot!

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Better to ask for forgiveness than permission I always say.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/23/2010 6:49:07 PM

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Have you met him yet?

To me everything hinges on this unanswered question.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/24/2010 6:23:20 AM

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Better to ask for forgiveness than permission I always say. Besides you will never know unless you try.

My Boss said that once with regards to his Boss.... I just smiled and told him not to worry about it unless you get caught. He was quick to clue in and nervously asked me what I did.... my only response with a smile was "oh nothing that you know about"

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/24/2010 11:02:56 AM

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Have you met him yet?

To me everything hinges on this unanswered question.

Yea, but the chances of it getting answered look slim to none. I think I am going to stop replying to posters with 1 post. They never seem to come back.

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RE: in need of a Master's opinion - 2/24/2010 10:46:18 PM

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It seems to Me from your post you not only want to call Him Master you want to be Mastered by Him.

As a Master I would say: Beg for the collar. But dont grovel. If he says to stop begging then stop. If He says No then stop and look elsewhrere. You dont have to stop being friends just stop begging.

There was one girl I really liked as a friend but she kept begging Me and it hurt everytime I said No. I had to end the friendship to end the begging.

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