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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 3:51:29 PM

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Upon some consideration, you ladies might have a point about it being the South. Then again, Mama raised me to be polite and friendly to everyone, so I do tend to bring out the best in folks, if only because I don't give a damn if you're going to be cold and standoffish, you're still going to tell me what I want to know... when I get it in my head that I want something, I'm a very determined kitty. So someone goes, "You want to help? Buy a ticket!" - I go, "Alright, but is there anything else I can help with? This is something that looks interesting, and I'd like to help it succeed." You don't really say no to me, because I don't listen.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 3:52:14 PM

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I was going to PM you UniqueRaven but it seems I can't. feel free to drop me a line, I've lived all over this great state and probably know where your owner is. Always nice to meet new people in the area!!!

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 3:55:32 PM

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. So someone goes, "You want to help? Buy a ticket!" - I go, "Alright, but is there anything else I can help with? This is something that looks interesting, and I'd like to help it succeed." You don't really say no to me, because I don't listen.

I need to learn this skill. Someone shoots me down and I look like my ice cream cone just fell on the ground.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 3:57:01 PM

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. So someone goes, "You want to help? Buy a ticket!" - I go, "Alright, but is there anything else I can help with? This is something that looks interesting, and I'd like to help it succeed." You don't really say no to me, because I don't listen.

I need to learn this skill. Someone shoots me down and I look like my ice cream cone just fell on the ground.

Work customer service. Between pushy customers and other departments that don't want to be helpful, it's a skill you develop quickly.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 3:59:05 PM

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Yes, my Owner wants my profile OFF right now, even though he is fine with me participating on the boards. Some changes coming up for me. i'll message you on the other side.

julie

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 3:59:31 PM

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. So someone goes, "You want to help? Buy a ticket!" - I go, "Alright, but is there anything else I can help with? This is something that looks interesting, and I'd like to help it succeed." You don't really say no to me, because I don't listen.

I need to learn this skill. Someone shoots me down and I look like my ice cream cone just fell on the ground.

Work customer service. Between pushy customers and other departments that don't want to be helpful, it's a skill you develop quickly.

Oh I have, and professionally am quite good at it (I used to do student accounts for an Ivy League school, "WHAT DO YOU MEAN I OWE YOU 30K & CAN'T REGISTER UNTIL I PAY IT!?!?!") but personally when I'm putting myself out there, my sensitive widdle self goes into kicked puppy mode.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:00:42 PM

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...goth festival...

I've been surrounded by Goths wearing my own attire with attitude. A misfits amoung misfits per se. Kind of interesting reflecting upon those moments in time. Because I did'nt really look Goth, perhaps partly Goth, perhaps a little punk, perhaps a little Heavy Metal. Bright colors in the middle of a lot of black, makes one stand out. Neon Colors tend to fuck with the image of Goth, while the Jewerly might remain the same. I used to make a lot of Jokes about creating a Neon Goth movement. Now days, I'm rather normal vanilla looking, sort of like Trent Reznor is in day to day life.

Now what the Hell was I going to say, Oh yeah. I had some Goth Girl threaten to beat me the Hell up because her girlfriend liked the way I was dressed up. (Seems I disturbed their Rocky Lesbian romance with my attire). I was exceptionally friendly during this encounter, she threaten to do all kinds of things to me. I remember making some Smart Ass Masochistic comments about how I actually might enjoy the pain. She actually had placed her hand around my throat and I was smiling saying "Oh Yes, I love it when girls enjoy playing rough"... I mean, if she was gonna kick my ass or try to, she would have been doing already instead of this verbal threat tap dance game.

I was wearing a pair of skin tight white Parachute pants from the 80's, a Neon Green Tank top, with black cloth rope webbing tied around my legs and upper body. (see self bondage thread), cross ear ring, with cross necklace, and a very short hair cut, along with my MOJO jacket, which was an overload Demin blue jean Jacket.. covered in all kinds of decorative ear rings, jewerly and crap. Had this cute little gold pendant mouse with green eyes. Evil but cute looking. There were a few patches and buttons on it too. This damn jacket, was so unique looking and often would become the center piece of attention. (Okay enough of my Freakisms). Clear not a Goth, not a punk, not a Heavy Metal head. Sort of my own WTF statement.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:04:46 PM

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yeah it wasn't exactly my cup of tea either, but they had an art show, and I was one of the exhibiting artists, so I kind of had to make an appearance for the reception. People need to relax!

Oh and re: the neon, stop by hot topic if you dare, it's a riot of neon these days, goth, punk, emo, vampire, whatever you want to call it has now merged....

But I doubt you could find a evil/cute gold pendant mouse there. THAT is personality!! :)

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:07:18 PM

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If you did not advertise in some clear and evident way you where there for every one to touch or poke, then leaving you alone is proper etiquette because it's dungeon rules you do not touch someone or their things, nor, do you invite yourself into someone else's scene with out permission. Unless it was some kind of event where you could walk up and touch whomever you wanted with out permission, Poking and prodding a woman in the cage if it was not known that's what you were there for would violate this rule and get them a serious talking to if you were actually not willing to be poked and prodded at by all who found it their taste to do so.

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It is a bit sad. At one point during an event we were at my ex locked me in a cage in the public dungeon space that was supposed to make me available to all to touch, poke with sharp thingies, whatever, and i was completely ignored by everyone but him - i'm not unattractive or difficult on the eyes.....it seemed as if everyone was just there for their own scene, and nothing else. And it made us very uncomfortable about interacting with others in supposed public play spaces as well.....you just didn't know what to do.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:11:39 PM

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If you did not advertise in some clear and evident way you where there for every one to touch or poke

As a side note, how does one do that exactly? I mean no disrespect but Master's talked about wanting to do something like what Unique said, and all I can picture is some carnival caller "step right up ladies and gentleman and poke the lovely slave" which is humorous, but not very practical...

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:16:51 PM

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That's a very good question, and I'm not being sarcastic either. At one event there's objectification girls, and it's clearly well known they're there to be used because they're set up at certain stations and the doms are told which stations those are, but one person and their partner alone that wouldn't really work.

Maybe bring a sign and put it on top of the cage if you were caged or maybe the dungeon Moniters making the announcement before the party started.

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As a side note, how does one do that exactly? I mean no disrespect but Master's talked about wanting to do something like what Unique said, and all I can picture is some carnival caller "step right up ladies and gentleman and poke the lovely slave" which is humorous, but not very practical...

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:17:19 PM

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If you did not advertise in some clear and evident way you where there for every one to touch or poke

As a side note, how does one do that exactly? I mean no disrespect but Master's talked about wanting to do something like what Unique said, and all I can picture is some carnival caller "step right up ladies and gentleman and poke the lovely slave" which is humorous, but not very practical...

In this particular circumstance it was advertised as the "Poking Cage" or some such thing (not really that, but i don't really remember). It had signs up and was open to all - it was clear that it was intended that whoever was in the cage was available for all to poke, touch, whatever.

i was not the only one ignored - the general activity seemed to be a flop for all who participated. And i think it really ultimately was that people were just too shy and uncomfortable to participate. But that's ok. It was still fun.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:21:24 PM

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That's a very good question, and I'm not being sarcastic either. At one event there's objectification girls, and it's clearly well known they're there to be used because they're set up at certain stations and the doms are told which stations those are, but one person and their partner alone that wouldn't really work.

Maybe bring a sign and put it on top of the cage if you were caged or maybe the dungeon Moniters making the announcement before the party started.

It's the party planner OCD part of me, I obsess over all these little details and there's a LOT when it comes to all this public stuff I haven't even considered. dios mio!

As a side note, how does one do that exactly? I mean no disrespect but Master's talked about wanting to do something like what Unique said, and all I can picture is some carnival caller "step right up ladies and gentleman and poke the lovely slave" which is humorous, but not very practical...

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:21:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

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If you did not advertise in some clear and evident way you where there for every one to touch or poke

As a side note, how does one do that exactly? I mean no disrespect but Master's talked about wanting to do something like what Unique said, and all I can picture is some carnival caller "step right up ladies and gentleman and poke the lovely slave" which is humorous, but not very practical...

i think ultimately you have to do this sort of thing with friends, or at least people you know.....while the fantasy is hot, in real life people are people and typically very few are bold enough as some (looks at Aqua hee hee!) to just dive right in and press the flesh of someone they don't know.

LadyPact might have some other experiences to share, though, as her experiences seem to be different from this.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:26:00 PM

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Well, that makes sense then, and is all the more the pity nobody took ya up on it. I would of most certainly come over and poked and proded someone in the poking cage cause I am a pervert like that lol. I am awful at being more than happy to grope or other wise consensually molest those who're willing. Daddy always jokes he can't take me anywhere cause I'll always be up to some naughtiness with someone, every time he turns around.

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In this particular circumstance it was advertised as the "Poking Cage" or some such thing (not really that, but i don't really remember). It had signs up and was open to all - it was clear that it was intended that whoever was in the cage was available for all to poke, touch, whatever.

i was not the only one ignored - the general activity seemed to be a flop for all who participated. And i think it really ultimately was that people were just too shy and uncomfortable to participate. But that's ok. It was still fun.

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:28:13 PM

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I think it'd be kind of hot to be paraded naked through the party by your master with a collar and a leash and a sign around your neck saying feel free to ask about groping or something like that hehehe.

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It's the party planner OCD part of me, I obsess over all these little details and there's a LOT when it comes to all this public stuff I haven't even considered. dios mio!

As a side note, how does one do that exactly? I mean no disrespect but Master's talked about wanting to do something like what Unique said, and all I can picture is some carnival caller "step right up ladies and gentleman and poke the lovely slave" which is humorous, but not very practical...

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:35:45 PM

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I think it'd be kind of hot to be paraded naked through the party by your master with a collar and a leash and a sign around your neck saying feel free to ask about groping or something like that hehehe.

Oh my don't give Him ideas!!!!!

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:38:35 PM

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who meeeeeeeeee? *innocent look that some how doesn't look quite right*

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I think it'd be kind of hot to be paraded naked through the party by your master with a collar and a leash and a sign around your neck saying feel free to ask about groping or something like that hehehe.

Oh my don't give Him ideas!!!!!

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:40:15 PM

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I've had similar, early experiences with some events, but the coolness tends to wear off after a couple of visits - although, the last couple of times I've gone to a new munch I've been invited by one of the regulars, and that definitely made things easier.

I think people are, perhaps understandably, wary when someone new turns up, not that (IMHO) that excuses being impolite to people in the way these people seem to have been to you.

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ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium
They mentioned running a separate event next month, and I went up to the organizer and asked if I could help in some way, and was pretty much rebuffed with "help by buying a ticket."

On this point, I think that if I were trying to organise an event and a complete stranger offered to help - I'd initially say more or less the same thing, since I don't know how committed/reliable/safe you are at this stage.

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Master also got some nasty looks from ppl, I assume b/c of the way He was dressed (street clothes, jeans, button down and a blazer) there was no stated dress code though. Sort of weird to be judged at such an event.

Argh - this annoys me - I agree with you - it's a bit weird to judge someone's choice of dress when there's no dress code!

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The only people who were nice to us really were the vendors, and a few people I had arranged to meet there that I already knew which struck me as really odd. I go to the grocery store and people are more friendly to me. It felt very insular and clicky to me, which, honestly, seems a bit high school. Master said hello to a few people He had met at play parties before He and I met, and they looked at him strangely and acted really uncomfortable. It wasn't like He walked up and said "Hi I've seen you naked" or something rude, He's very polite.

Sigh -that's a bad sign, I think you're "clicky" diagnosis may be spot on.

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Anyway, I'm not sure what I expected. My sense of community at events like this tends to be a jam band hippie thing, (my background) where people are friendly, kind and outgoing. I guess that's what I expected, and really was surprised to find different.

Or maybe I'm projecting? I don't know, I was nervous, but got there and felt pretty comfortable. Anyway, other people who have had experiences like this, I'd love to hear about it, even if it's just to say I'm projecting, LOL!

Nah, I don't think you're projecting!

Depending on how "closed out" you felt, you might find it gets easier after you've been (and been seen) there a couple of times - Once you become a "regular" you're generally more welcomed.

Although, if people you or your Master have met before seemed clicky then it might be a waste of time.

I can't speak for Beantown these days but when I lived there in 1999, there were a few events in MA and RH that were really welcoming - so don't let this experience deter you!

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RE: The Scene? My first community experience - 2/14/2010 4:47:04 PM

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Neon Goth movement.

Sounds fun, count me in!

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