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RE: what not to say - 2/15/2010 7:49:58 PM

Kaiel

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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don't ever say this if you meet a sub. it's a bad idea. when a sub wants to meet in a public place it's for their safety. they will just blow up at you and make you feel even more insecure then your sorry ass already was.

YOU HAVE SAID NOTHING TO MAKE ME WANTTOO MEET YOU AT A PLACE OF YOUR CHOICE

WE CAN MEET A PLAY PLACE BUT OF MY CHOOSING THIS IS NOT LET ME A DEAL GO TO SOFT WEAK ONE BUT IF YOUR INTERESTING IN ME I DECID E THE WHEN OR WHERE IF THAT A PRPOBLEM STOP AN GO FIND WHAT YOU WNAT ELSE WHERE

DO YOU FOLLOW MEE

Sorry....had to vent people!

Errr DarkSteven, translation please?! LOL

Sure!

It's a bunch of incoherent yelling saying "We're gonna meet where I say!", with some blustering thrown in.

Wonder if I could get a job as a D/s translator...

ohhh, Gosh... and I thought I spoke D/s.... dammit.

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RE: what not to say - 2/15/2010 8:35:11 PM

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What not to say to a woman:

"You sound just like your mother."

"Why yes, you DO look fat in those jeans!"

Its bad ju ju man, let me tell ya.

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RE: what not to say - 2/15/2010 8:51:17 PM

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I have been raped by a woman and i did not feel safe.

At Starbuck's, when you first met?

I believe you, and I'm sorry you had that experience. However, the word "meet" means "to meet." It doesn't mean, "to take all your clothes off, get tied up, and not know whether the other person will respect your limits."

You might want to slow down a bit. Just because you meet a domme doesn't mean you play. I've bought a plane ticket and a meal, and had a woman want to have sex with me, and I still said "No," because I realized I wasn't interested in her. (I've been rejected plenty of times too, don't get me wrong.) Just because you're next to someone kinky doesn't mean you automatically do the nasty. Not a law of nature. Do what is best (and safest) for you.

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RE: what not to say - 2/16/2010 1:46:49 AM

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At Starbuck's, when you first met?
Not the nicest thing I have ever seen. There is nothing in this world that guarantees safety the 4th, 5th or 6th time you meet someone. Believe me, I know. Even vanilla friends of the family can do that nasty little deed.

The rest, however, is most excellent advice.

You might want to slow down a bit. Just because you meet a domme doesn't mean you play. I've bought a plane ticket and a meal, and had a woman want to have sex with me, and I still said "No," because I realized I wasn't interested in her. (I've been rejected plenty of times too, don't get me wrong.) Just because you're next to someone kinky doesn't mean you automatically do thze nasty. Not a law of nature. Do what is best (and safest) for you.

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RE: what not to say - 2/16/2010 5:45:10 PM

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This is a bit offtopic, and I don't mean to hijack this thread, but the title basically covers my current concerns. (If I should make a new one, please let me know)

Is being polite and respectful in your first couple of messages to someone a turn off for submissives? I ask because I was recently accused of basically being a weakling who wouldn't know a dominant if he walked in and stomped on my balls (only slightly paraphrasing here). My message consisted of introducing myself, inviting her to look at my profile, and if she were interested in chatting a bit. I'm a bit new to all this so I thought that would be a safe bet to get some responses. I am doing something wrong here? Should I start every message addressing them as a slave or some such and simply demand them to obey me? Something wrong with my profile that comes across the wrong way?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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RE: what not to say - 2/16/2010 6:13:56 PM

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lack of using a spell checker is the first big turn off.

One who doesn't know how to spell should at least check their spelling.

it makes them look retarded otherwise

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RE: what not to say - 2/16/2010 6:18:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: CruelSpanker

This is a bit offtopic, and I don't mean to hijack this thread, but the title basically covers my current concerns. (If I should make a new one, please let me know)

Is being polite and respectful in your first couple of messages to someone a turn off for submissives? I ask because I was recently accused of basically being a weakling who wouldn't know a dominant if he walked in and stomped on my balls (only slightly paraphrasing here). My message consisted of introducing myself, inviting her to look at my profile, and if she were interested in chatting a bit. I'm a bit new to all this so I thought that would be a safe bet to get some responses. I am doing something wrong here? Should I start every message addressing them as a slave or some such and simply demand them to obey me? Something wrong with my profile that comes across the wrong way?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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RE: what not to say - 2/16/2010 6:34:28 PM

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Not the nicest thing I have ever seen. There is nothing in this world that guarantees safety the 4th, 5th or 6th time you meet someone. Believe me, I know. Even vanilla friends of the family can do that nasty little deed.

The rest, however, is most excellent advice.

You can say that again. I was not hurt but one evening someone I had known over a year and played with several times became very volatile.

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RE: what not to say - 2/17/2010 11:06:55 AM

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I have a better "what not to say"...

"I've just shit and pissed my pants, reached in to that squishy goodness, and am in the process of using my hands to write your name on my bedroom walls with my own filth... I will then be making you a sandwich; what time will you be home for lunch?!!"

Somewhere in the world, maybe even on this forum, someone just fell in love.......

LOL... ya might be right?!!

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RE: what not to say - 2/17/2010 11:09:03 AM

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...made my happy meal sad....

I'm stealing that!!! LOL

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RE: what not to say - 2/17/2010 11:24:34 AM

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However, the word "meet" means "to meet." It doesn't mean, "to take all your clothes off, get tied up, and not know whether the other person will respect your limits."

Oh.
Shoot.
So that's why HM was surprised when I showed up at the restaurant wearing only red stilletos and a ribbon.

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RE: what not to say - 2/17/2010 11:38:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: CruelSpanker

This is a bit offtopic, and I don't mean to hijack this thread, but the title basically covers my current concerns. (If I should make a new one, please let me know)

Is being polite and respectful in your first couple of messages to someone a turn off for submissives? I ask because I was recently accused of basically being a weakling who wouldn't know a dominant if he walked in and stomped on my balls (only slightly paraphrasing here). My message consisted of introducing myself, inviting her to look at my profile, and if she were interested in chatting a bit. I'm a bit new to all this so I thought that would be a safe bet to get some responses. I am doing something wrong here?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

No it is not a turn-off, it is to be expected. Perhaps this person was just in a bad mood, or annoyed at something else. Maybe she did not like your profile. Who knows. But remain polite. Taking the opposite tract will get you alot more nasty emails, trust me.

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RE: what not to say - 2/18/2010 5:05:56 PM

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THE ONE ABOUT THE RAPE, definately good advice but in my situation I had played with this person at a local kink club that i'm a (well during that time span i was) regular at and a mutual friend had sort of told me they knew each other and stuff. We played in the main room and then again in a private room...then had sex. So it wasn't our first meeting, and i still should have had a safe call...but i thought i was super sub who could take anything DONT EVER MAKE THAT MISTAKE and my friend had known her...nehoo yeah. I guess i do agree ....

the other one...damn what was it... oh....my happy meal is now depressed because it turned sad and then you stole it from me.It's all gone to shit. I'm going to burger king to where i can be king...get my paper crown....and my whataburger. Maybe an archie comic. We're gonna have problems if you have a go at my paper crown. I'm a king damnit.I'LL SICK MY FLAME BROILED GOODNESS ON YOU! A WHOLE DAMNED ARMY OF IT!

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