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ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

Hi Goddess   Thanks for your reply, what you say and believe, is improtant to me. I do search for your posts, and look forward to them. I probably did not put things in the right perspective before. What I meant to infer was that if I relocated to serve, i would be available 24/7, but not 365. I plan to move out of Salt Lake after I retire, but hope to still visit my familly occaisoinally, just to be with them. If  i should be fortuntate to finally meet someone, i hope this will be negotiable. Ideally they might even enjoy traveling, and accompany me, with visiting  them as a sidetrip. Traveling when I am retired is something I hope to do, but meeting the right woman, could change everything. I believe,as in the vanilla world, when you meet that certain person, your whole life is subject to change, as per there wants and desires. Do you desire service from some slaves more than others? I believe I would submit to the degree the Domme wanted me to, but might enjoy some things with one, that might not be enjoyable, or as enjoyable with another.  I try to be totally honest about  to what extent, i am able and willing to be used. To me nothing would be worse than failing to keep a promise or a committment. So I have not said "please use me Ma'am" although it is what i desire, i may not be able to totally comply. I a  trying not to offer more than I am positive i will be willing to give. Can I still fantazise or hope for 24/7 320 or maybe 340? You are a Goddess, and i treasure your input, immensly.  How do I get that litttle in reply to at the lower right corner?

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ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

I would like some clarification on the differance between sub, slave, boi,boys, etc. Differant Dommes seem to have differant excepectations, from each classification! Not sure how to direct a post to a particular Goddess, but for GoddessDustyGold, the only acceptable excuse for a boy not bringing  you a Starbucks coffee, is it might cost him his job. It should not matter how attractive a domme is to the sub, but I believe most of you will agree many men are guility, especially in the vanilla world. I must confess there a some posting on here, that being there slave would come under the statement "it would be too good too be true". Ah! to be younger and wealthy again. But Goddess DustyGold, you ask where are these boys? I have checked your profile (many times), and you state you are not seeking at this time. Should they ignore your request and write anyway?  I am sure there are too many us who wish they could be used by you. I also confess since I feel I am addressing Goddess'es and Dommes, I find I am tremnbling as i try to type an intelligent post. That you exist out there is excitilng

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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

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D/s is Dominant/submissive. It means power exchange. In my mind power exchange means one giving up control to another, i.e. superior/subordinate. But you separate the two ideas. Would you be so kind and explain to me what you feel are the differences

 
Hi Teego, not at all ... after spending a fair amount of time on these boards the general consensus seems to be that the d/s dynamic doesn't have to have a superior/subordinate element, with many finding the idea extremely offensive... but for the record I feel the same way you do and for me it does have an inequality to it, always has and always will... perhaps its the fem supreme/Goddess stuff I enjoy that lends itself to an inequality of roles. particularly gender defined, in the relationship, but even that doesn't cut the mustard as to why I entertain the idea as I felt this way before I discovered anything to do with fem supreme/Goddess worship, etc.  
 
So for clarity, I like to clarify my stance so people get an idea of what side of this particular fence I am coming from to better understand why or what I have to say. 
 

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"... and I like nothing more than using a sub for my own end."

I love that, it really gets me going.

Gets me going too ;)  so does this :-
 

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what I have I freely give. Freely and joyously, I might add.  I really do enjoy it.

 
;)
 

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Demanding is no problem, unreasonable would be another thing

 
I greatly appreciate when a sub does do something for me that I know is a hard ask for them..whether that simply be racing me a coffee from Starbuck's (Dusty I love that and I would make them do it) during their lunch hour or something as out there as making them take line dancing lessons so they can lead the crowd at my nana's wedding.  One sub I had spent three months turning up every Friday to put my garbage out and if my schedule allowed he would be invited inside for foot worship, but no gaurrantees.  And I loved that if he was going to be late or couldn't make it, how much that guttered him...I love that whole so not wanting to let their Mistress down. 
 
But yeah unreasonable is not cricket...everyone has limitations and it is my responsibility to find out what those limitations are and find ways to work within them for a mutually beneficial lifestyle exchange. 
 
Dusty thanks for your input, am looking forward to more responses too :)
 
lol Proud, my Mum would have loved you, Dad was a golfing widow too!  In retirement, at his beck and call, unless it was the third Monday of the month and every second Wednesday when she was swinging clubs on the green :)
 
Tammyjo I love this!
 

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[He] has the right to offer an alternative to what I want based on the guiding rule that he is here to make my life easier and better.

 
Like the Starbuck's scenario, if he just can not deliver it in his lunch hour then I'd expect an alternative suggestion of how he might accomplish this particular task, say later in the day or after work...which kind of implies they do wish to serve fully and are thinking on their feet about how they can do just that ... but like you said, if it's no go for you to change what it is you want and/or how then I'd expect him to do his utmost to fullfill my request as stated.  Back to the unreasonable thing though, I wouldn't be unreasonable if his need to suggest an alternative was due to circumstances out of his contol but if there was no good reason for it then I could be quite unreasonable and demanding about them doing it or face a not so nice consequence or two.  But if I wanted to push the envelop so to speak then I could be just as demanding and unreasonable just to see how they fare under distress.
 
Crouchingtigeress ... yes it is ;)
 
Starymists I do like how you put this, stairway to heaven comes to mind :-
 

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I accept the challenge that takes my service to the next level. And I feel cared for, supported and safe as more and more of the journey becomes available to my view.

 
'Tis one of the things I like about being demanding of my sub/s time...sometimes my requests might just be random whims but more often than not they are calculated steps to help those who are willing to trust in me move forward within their submisson/service/subservience to me.  I know what it is I want but it takes time for a d/s dynamic to evolve where it is safe for me to reveal the journey so to speak... doms need to feel cared for and supported and safe too...and every challenge accepted tells me that I am.  Thanks for your post Starymists, enjoyed reading what you had to say.  Hope you enjoy many more moments for growth, security, love and support.
 
Brightspot, yum yum seducing in a sensually demanding way ;) and agree it can be a very mutually satisfying dynamic.
 
lol Texas, hope bobbi got to read that.
 
Cloudz...yum yum subservience...its all that I am about... those who see me as their superior to their subordinate make my world go round.
 
Realone, I think you hit it on the head, and so did Starymists when you both speak of security...and I'll add appreciation.  So while I may sound demanding and bolshy and egotistical and submission to me is all about me ... I know people don't thrive without a) knowing they are appreciated and b) secure in their place in my world.
 
Thanks all for your responses :)

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"To learn the art of submission a slave must first give up the desires that drew him to submission in the first place." Mistress Jasmyn Jan 2005.

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"To learn the art of submission a slave must first give up the desires that drew him to submission in the first place." Mistress Jasmyn Jan 2005.