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sunshinemiss -> RE: A legend returns ... (2/17/2010 4:52:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: JoePNY707
Hello Bob,
I've read the pages of this thread with interest. I'm going to make the--perhaps misguided--assumption that you fundamentally mean well, but are alienating others with your dogmatism. Herein then...some advice...
First....there is nothing wrong with believing in principles...but when you say that your principles are the ONLY and RIGHT way of having a healthy relationship, I would point out that people who cannot consider any other viewpoint besides their own are generally flirting with madness.
In reading your manifesto, you keep pointing out how to behave ethically (your way) whilst denying any validity to people who disagree with you. The fact that you seem unable to see that in this debate--as with many others--that other opinions are valid, or have some validity bears all the hallmarks of supreme egotism...and blindness.
You like to argue in absolutes, so let me use a math analogy. In math, there are absolute truths, like 2+2+4. If even one example of a exception exists, then it would no longer be considered an absolute truth. There are quite a few people on this site--some of whom I know, and others whom I only know by their posts--whom have had positive and healthy relationships while engaging in activities that you have labeled 'wrong.'
Unless you are going to label all of them as liars, you should concede--if you are intellectually honest--that there ARE more ways that yours to engage in healthy..and ethical sexual practices.
I myself--before I got married--had a healtly and diverse sex life. I also passed up going to bed with women when I thought it was a bad idea. This is not meant to make me out as a saint, but rather as someone who has certain standards and a certain level of maturity.
I believe that many in this community share those standards, and as a result, find your comments offensive. You seem to presume that only you have a sense of and valid code of ethics.
I've only been a member here since 2008, so I do not remember your previous incarnations on CM. Work and RL eat up most of my time, but I do try to visit CM every so often, and enjoy the discussions on the forums.
If you truly want to engage in discussions on this and other philosophical topics, then you will find many here who will engage you as thoughtful peers.
If you continue to presume to lecture people as the' font of wisdom' you will soon find that you are preaching to an empty room.
Think about it....
Very nicely said Joe. This thread was worth reading just to meet you!
Have a lovely day,
sunshine
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