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BLoved -> RE: A legend returns ... (2/18/2010 8:58:42 AM)
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Here is another study for you to attack, and even though you will not accept it, others reading it may get something out of it...
http://journals.lww.com/neuroreport/Abstract/2000/11270/The_neural_basis_of_romantic_love.46.aspx
http://jn.physiology.org/cgi/content/abstract/94/1/327/
There is more going on with "love" and "lust" than you suggest. Lust and love are important to the continuation of the species.. to suggest lust is damaging is just silly talk
Neither appears to be talking of love vs lust. Both are talking about the physiology of "romantic love", the areas of the brain that are stimulated and how that may encourage the development of love.
Your insistence lust must accompany love ignores situations where sexual experiences are either impossible or no longer important, such as might exist for the aged or those who suffer from certain illnesses/injuries.
Lust is about me worrying about whether my physical needs will be satisfied. Lust plays no role in love as a beloved will always concern him/herself with the needs of their beloved, including physical, emotional and sexual needs.
In other words, in love, I need not concern myself with getting my needs met because my needs are important enough to my beloved that she will do her best to meet them, just as her needs are my concern and I would do the best I can to meet her needs.
In love, there is mutual giving and thus no need for selfishness or selfish concerns.
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Who is persecuting whom for his beliefs?
I have no problem that you believe lust is damaging for you and some of the people who have been attracted to conversing with you. I do have a problem with you universalizing this experience as applicable to everyone... which is unfounded. It does not matter what I "believe", it matters what the facts bear out, and you have none....
As you've not read my essay, you don't know what I have.
You, on the other hand, have not produced any facts, despite your repeated claims to have them.
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You choose to selectively believe a few people who have reported something unfavorable to you and ignore those who posit that they have experiences contrary to your belief structure. I do participant observation and interviewing in my work, I attempt to at least try to believe what people tell me, and not view their experiences through my belief system...
Considering the immature and very public demonstrations made by those who claim to be having positive experiences, I consider the validity of the information in light of the behaviour exhibited.
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