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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

i agree with Blushy that you are as cute as a button!!

My advice...stop looking for someone that wants exactly the same things you want (it will not happen). Instead, keep your heart open for the one you can grow with. He is out there and you will find him!

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19
I would pass you up. I see a girl topping from the bottom. I would think you are exactly the same way outside the bedroom in your vanilla relationship, always the one in control.

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

if anyone makes you feel ignorant, then feel free to ignore them! It's sometimes best.
I perved your profile. You have a lot there! Personally, I would thin it out a bit. You have left yourself a bit too open and exposed. Besides, part of the fun of a relationship is getting to know someone and you have left me thinking, what else is there to ask when she knows it all, already? Rule one (yeah, I am being a bit stereotypical here) romantic, monogamous men like to chase and take the lead, your profile takes that away from them.

Master also read your profile - he says that the 'fiercely monogamous' statement gives him the impression that if your man took so much a little look at another woman, he would probably lose his balls to you. 'Absolutely monogamous', he suggests, is a far less threatening and dominant statement and if single, he would find that far more attractive(as a monogamous man himself). He asked me to pass on that he means that kindly.

Right now, you seem less about control and more about an authority. You stated that you want your free spirit to be allowed. That to me, is the difference between authority and control... if that makes any sense?

I would disagree with the whole 'get to events' suggestion just yet, due to the content of your profile. Although we get to events and go out, I wouldn't recommend them for someone who is so new, they are having worries about communicating... unless you can go along with someone you already know or trust. You cannot 'learn' the kind of Ds that you have given me the impression of at an event. But that's just my personal opinion.

the.dark.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Blows kisses to the lovely dc.... and the ever so handsome RC!!!

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Sara -
Real world events don't have to be what some would consider "lifestyle". Often they are just lunch or dinner or meeting for a movie at someone's house or whatever.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

And if you get a chance to meet Simply Michael - he likes middle eastern food and can keep you laughing all night!!!

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And they all sang kumbayah....

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

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ORIGINAL: SarasSecret
I'm sorry if this is going to sound ignorant and perhaps even stupid. But can you please explain the difference of the two? Perhaps you can give examples/scenarios. I have a feeling you are right but am just unsure of your definitions and how it would change what I am searching for.

thank you!

If anyone makes you feel ignorant, then feel free to ignore them!  It's sometimes best.
I perved your profile.  You have a lot there!  Personally, I would thin it out a bit.  You have left yourself a bit too open and exposed.  Besides, part of the fun of a relationship is getting to know someone and you have left me thinking, what else is there to ask when she knows it all, already?  Rule one (yeah, I am being a bit stereotypical here) romantic, monogamous men like to chase and take the lead, your profile takes that away from them.

Master also read your profile - he says that the 'fiercely monogamous' statement gives him the impression that if your man took so much a little look at another woman, he would probably lose his balls to you.  'Absolutely monogamous', he suggests, is a far less threatening and dominant statement and if single, he would find that far more attractive(as a monogamous man himself).  He asked me to pass on that he means that kindly.

Right now, you seem less about control and more about an authority.  You stated that you want your free spirit to be allowed.  That to me, is the difference between authority and control... if that makes any sense?

I would disagree with the whole 'get to events' suggestion just yet, due to the content of your profile.  Although we get to events and go out, I wouldn't recommend them for someone who is so new, they are having worries about communicating... unless you can go along with someone you already know or trust.  You cannot 'learn' the kind of Ds that you have given me the impression of at an event.  But that's just my personal opinion.

the.dark.

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I would pass you up.

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ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

sara, you took all the stuff about your fantasies out of your profile. I thought that was among the best parts.

When I said I would pass you up, that's because I'm not looking for a woman to worship. I didn't mean to imply that worshiping you was ridiculous. You could find a guy to worship you in one minute if you advertised better. You are pretty and young. Good selling points.

A guy wanting to worship a Woman would like to know your fantasies so he knows what he would be expected to do. Especially the CBT.

You are not sure how to describe yourself. I would suggest Sadomasochistic Mistress in the bedroom and Vanilla Mistress at other times.

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If anyone has words of wisdom for me please share them!