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pyroaquatic -> How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 7:10:23 PM)

There is a great deal I would give up.

Above all else there is the sacrifice to Time. Time is also a great equalizer of Matter.

Which may be forward-thinking to say "My submission to You is Immaterial".

Any person can give your Dominant their favorite patterned piece of Matter.

It means multitudes for this thing to come from a Dominant's submissive.
It is-to both parties-time well spent.

Why?

(Anyone can answer, I am curious to read what the responses are and to see if my assumptions are correct.)

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VaguelyCurious is right.




lovingpet -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 7:19:11 PM)

Intimacy and bonding are two of the main elements that determines if my time was well spent.  The other is whether or not I walk away saited in those specific areas of need that only he fills.  Hopefully he is filled just as adequately by having spent time with me as well.

lovingpet




littlewonder -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 7:21:52 PM)

There's quite a lot I would sacrifice to be with someone I loved...my home, material items..they're all just things and not that important to me....where I live, my job if he required it of me, certain friends and family possibly if that's really something he felt was what was needed for us to live a cohesive calm peaceful life together.... I trust him to know what's good for me and for us.

There's very few things I can think of that I wouldn't give up for him...some of my family, some of my friends, my belief in God, my morals and values.

But this is why we should choose very wisely who we involve ourselves with.





elleX -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 7:29:25 PM)

it is related to the dept of the relationship,, different when you live with  ,, i gave a lot,, and he gave a lot , to invest me,,,




littlebitxxx -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 10:08:12 PM)

Willing to sacrifice?  Everything.   Or else it's not worth even starting.




GreedyTop -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 10:56:25 PM)

I am planning to give up the country of my birth, the proximity of my Mom,  and everything I've ever known. 




Wolf2Bear -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/17/2010 11:10:35 PM)

I am willing to sacrifice whatever it takes so long as it doesn't compromise my basic morals and integrity. 




SimplyMichael -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 6:34:27 AM)

Sacrifice?  The math should be 1+1=3 not 1-1=0!

In another age it would be called "moving heaven and earth" to be with someone. 




Aileen1968 -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 6:38:48 AM)

I walked away from a marriage and half of my time with my children. I walked away from financial security and a secure retirement. I walked away from twenty years of shared friends. I walked away from a home I helped build.
I walked into a maxed out credit card. Zero dollars in the bank. My own business. My own home. These last two things I needed to do for myself and could only do them once I left the marriage. I don't know why this is, but it is.

I don't regret a single thing. I am the happiest I have ever been at a time in my life where I should be stressed out beyond belief.
It's all because of him. I have sacrificed everything stable in my life to be with him and I have received nothing but love and support from all of the people surrounding me. So it has turned out to not really be a sacrifice at all, but where I'm supposed to be at this point in my life.




FelineFae -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 6:53:28 AM)

Master is my greatest desire. i am Master's greatest desire.
So if if the choises are; Master or ' variable ', Master has and will always win.
In this, we both win, always.




Mercnbeth -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 7:43:43 AM)

this slave was and is willing to give up everything but breathing in and out.




ownedkatt -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 8:27:35 AM)

id be willing to sacrifice whatever i had to so that i could make Him happy.. one of my hard limits was public humiliation and calling Him Master in public.

He had me call him Master in public and i have gotten used to it, but He never made me go out lewdly dressed in public or do anything that would draw attention to myself; but because i knew it would make Him pleased and happy, i have almost completely gotten over being stared at in public by some unorthodox ways.

i have lost friends because i chose to be with Him, i have lost family as well. i havent worried about it because i would do anything for Him.




windchymes -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 2:30:59 PM)

If I'm getting to be with him, I don't consider any of it "sacrifice". I think of it as "stuff I have to take care of before I can move", lol.




littlebitxxx -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 10:04:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

If I'm getting to be with him, I don't consider any of it "sacrifice". I think of it as "stuff I have to take care of before I can move", lol.



Know that feeling completely. 




NuevaVida -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/18/2010 11:03:52 PM)

The gain is much greater than anything I could consider a sacrifice.




afkarr -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/21/2010 12:09:03 PM)

I've been known to give up free time, nap time, and the cost of the secret squirrel blackberry so we can send each other sneaky mails.




agirl -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/21/2010 12:34:56 PM)

 I'm not sure to be totally frank. People outside my relationship would be able to list things THEY think I've sacrificed.

If I'm *giving up* something that pales in the light of what I'm gaining , is it still a sacrifice? I had to look up sacrifice to check myself..... the OED defined it as.....
"An act of giving up something one values for the sake of something that is more important."

I've sacrificed things in the past with other people....with M I've never been remotely expected or asked to. The things that are important to me are imortant to him. I think that might be why I quite like him.

agirl






littlewonder -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/21/2010 3:17:08 PM)

Thank you for saying that agirl.

Exactly.


So tires of hearing how boring "vanilla" is.





ourmsbetty -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/21/2010 3:28:42 PM)

Most, as you have read, are willing to give up everything or most everything.

However, I firmly believe sometimes there are reasons NOT to let a submissive do so.

An example: My bunny lives in another state. We see each other about two weeks a year. He would move here to me if I asked, he even offered without prompting.

But I will not let him.

Why? He has a daughter. He does not have custody of her and only gets occasional visits. However, he is the only security she has ever known. I  cannot and will not take that from her...from them. He needs to be close enough to be there when she needs him and to me that is more important than having him kneeling at my feet, so he stays.

Some can and do give all, but only when it is right for that particular person to do so. There is no fault in giving less if your circumstances are different.

Also keep in mind that for many the decision to give everything came after a long time of knowing the Dominant. Take time. Be sure.

Ms. Betty




lucylucy -> RE: How Much are you willing to sacrifice to be with Your Dominant? (2/21/2010 4:17:54 PM)

I agree with what others have said about it not being "sacrifice." To me it's more about making changes to facilitate our relationship and his pleasure. The only changes I won't make are related to time spent with my daughter.




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