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RE: separation pains.... normal? - 2/20/2010 9:15:00 PM

Missokyst

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Gad what a bitch.
Master slave, boyfriend girlfriend, what the hell is the difference?
Do you think it is more sacred somehow? BS.
Yes, you will suffer. Hopefully long and hard for a years.
And in the meantime he will live happily without you, move on to the next target until his wife catches on.

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If you don't give a shit then I have to wonder why my lack of concern was publicly noted.

Thank you oh wonderful Aquaticsub for your bitchy remarks. I daresay I am hoping for responses from people that don't lump the whole world into one pie crust and call it a quiche, tomorrow.

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RE: separation pains.... normal? - 2/20/2010 9:53:13 PM

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He doesn't have anymore right to sell you off or hand you off to someone else then he did in insisting you got involved in him in the first place.

Who you fuck is entirely up to you. He doesn't want you anymore, you're a free agent.

If he tries to force you, call the police. But just as you chose to be with him, you get to decide who is the next dude or dudette you be with.

Oh and as for evidence? She knows all about you. She's got your number off his cell phone. A couple hundred dollars and a detective would have the needed evidence. So please, you want to live in denial - go for it. But the rest of us aren't ever going to buy into it.

Your post.... Even though it has some of the better advice so far.... Made me giggle so I had to say something.
It was a mutual decision that we discussed in advance to transfer me.
We don't fuck. Just play.
And lastly.... He IS the police.

tnpainslut, I'm not sure why you're so smug about your situation. Your original question--"Is this a normal feeling? Will I grow out of it with time?"--was simple enough, but you really seem to be gleefully parsing out the details for us in a way that makes me suspect you didn't really want answers to your questions so much as you want something else. I can't quite put my finger on it, but there's an element of exhibitionism here, I think. You're awfully pleased with yourself, I think, and I'm not sure why. It also seems to me that you feel superior to all of us chumps who are trying to be understanding of your situation, and that I don't understand either.

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RE: separation pains.... normal? - 2/20/2010 11:47:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: lucylucy

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ORIGINAL: tnpainslut

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
He doesn't have anymore right to sell you off or hand you off to someone else then he did in insisting you got involved in him in the first place.

Who you fuck is entirely up to you. He doesn't want you anymore, you're a free agent.

If he tries to force you, call the police. But just as you chose to be with him, you get to decide who is the next dude or dudette you be with.

Oh and as for evidence? She knows all about you. She's got your number off his cell phone. A couple hundred dollars and a detective would have the needed evidence. So please, you want to live in denial - go for it. But the rest of us aren't ever going to buy into it.

Your post.... Even though it has some of the better advice so far.... Made me giggle so I had to say something.
It was a mutual decision that we discussed in advance to transfer me.
We don't fuck. Just play.
And lastly.... He IS the police.

tnpainslut, I'm not sure why you're so smug about your situation. Your original question--"Is this a normal feeling? Will I grow out of it with time?"--was simple enough, but you really seem to be gleefully parsing out the details for us in a way that makes me suspect you didn't really want answers to your questions so much as you want something else. I can't quite put my finger on it, but there's an element of exhibitionism here, I think. You're awfully pleased with yourself, I think, and I'm not sure why. It also seems to me that you feel superior to all of us chumps who are trying to be understanding of your situation, and that I don't understand either.

It's really quite simple. She is 22, and thinks that because his wife is 51, she must be old, wrinkled and a complete and total bitch while the OP is the young, beautiful, ever obedient little slave. She fails to grasp the concept that the wife was quite the cougar to become pregnant at 35 by a guy who was 20. She isn't "fucking him," and apparently is deluded enough to believe that somehow makes what they were doing so much more "special" and that this "master" who was having other affairs (hell he is probably fucking anything that will let him) is the best thing that happened to her, so much so, she is willing to let him pass her off to someone else. It's really kind of sad. Her first experience within the complex world of BDSM was a philanderer who convinced her that this was how things worked and she is gullible enough to continue to believe that she is one of those "twue" slaves. Can you imagine how terrible her life will be, likely being passed from one married cop to another until they tire of her, and since somehow she is in a job where their paths cross, how she will never be taken seriously because she thinks that no one actually knows what they are doing, when most likely the whole police department is talking about it?

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RE: separation pains.... normal? - 2/21/2010 12:51:01 AM

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Hello.
I'm fairly new to all of this as I was only discovered in the last year, hiding my desires from myself, by my first and only Sir. Our relationship has always been a secret because of his marital status. We have come to a point that it will soon be too difficult to maintain secrecy and Sir has expressed his desire that I find a new dom. While I know we can no longer give each other everything the other needs and keep it a secret, I am saddened. I know he wants what is best for me but I've grown to trust him so wholly that I can't stand the thought of serving someone else. Is this a normal feeling? Will I grow out of it with time?

oh, baby, never get involved with married men. PERIOD! I know you're hurting right now. Give yourself a break and don't do this again. Men can say lots of things, they don't think like we do. Never, ever, ever get involved with a married man. For no other reason than you may be causing another woman harm. I know there are some people that disagree with this, but I can't in good conscience do something that I know is going to inadvertently cause harm to another. Of course, when you're very young, you don't think to look beyond to that point. You just hear the things that that person you're enamoured of says and you want to please him. And you don't think for a second that he may be lying cause he wants what he wants. Poor sweetie, trust me on this.

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I'm 22, he is 36, she is 51.

Ok. After seeing this, do you think he didn't know how old she was when they MARRIED? I'm sure that it was not a state secret! All the more reason to stay away from this guy. That is exactly why I won't go out with younger guys! They all say that they won't do that, but here I am running across this same bullshit line again.

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There would not be a divorce granted on her terms. Period.

Think again, sister! He knew what he was getting into when he got into it. This is a prime example that age is just a number, as all these little boys are so prone to tell me when I reject them on age! I will NEVER date a guy younger than me based on this shit here! You know what? If I were you, just think, what kind of excuse is he going to make to that next girl about you? And why she should be understanding ofhis wanting to cheat on you? Stop being so naive.

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I knew about his other affairs. He never denied they existed.

Ok, I confess, I'm doing this as I read along, but seriously, if he's had that many affairs, no, he does not care about you. You are nothing more than another notch on the bedpost. I wouldn't even look for another dom with him. He's not a dom, he's just a cheating husband. And he probably just wants to pass you on to his friend, who is probably also married. What an ass! Fuck, I can't do this, and it appears that you don't really want to listen to those who might be wiser than you, here. I hope you figure this shit out pretty quick and save yourself a great deal of heartache, little sister.

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