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Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/19/2010 8:02:31 PM   
Lorenzo19


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Status: offline 		I'm asking this from a Daddy Dom persective. But, I suppose it would relate to most any fem sub lifestyle.


Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? If so, why or why not? (excluding pain sluts and pain objects. just little girls in general.)


I know My opinion and pretty sure I'm right about it. A lifelong little girl told Me this a few years back and it really made Me think. I am still thinking about it but not wrestling with it if you know what I mean. So, really, I'm just looking for stimualting ideas on the subject.
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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/19/2010 8:20:43 PM   
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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/19/2010 8:26:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's like most other things.  Some little girls do and others it would be a very negative thing in that space.  Some need it to enforce boundaries, structure, and expectations.  Others it brings up past abuse, destroys intimacy and trust, and could shut down the little girl side altogether.  One would have to get to know their partner to better acertain which is appropriate.  I don't think there's a one size fits all here.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/19/2010 8:30:02 PM   
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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/19/2010 8:45:23 PM   
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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/19/2010 11:46:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		The last little girl I had loved to be spanked/paddled etc... so it was more for play than punishment. If I wanted to punish her I needed to do something else. I don't personally believe in punishment for punishment's sake if that's what you're asking.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 12:15:27 AM   
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I don't personally believe in punishment for punishment's sake if that's what you're asking.


I guess you could put it that way. the little girl who told Me this put it a little different - naughty girls get naughty girl spankings and good girls get good girl spankings. the difference is the disappointment and shame.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 5:04:28 AM   
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I am not a pain slut either, in fact i hate pain for the most part but Daddy does hurt me when he does the crop over and over on the same spot or does breast torture/play. It hurts but since he likes it... Punishments ,for us, are things i hate doing like wearing pants, cleaning the shower, or not having certain foods for a time. They are not funishments like spankings or hair pulling. I do not have to be bratty or sassy to get a spanking or play, I just ask.

What I first thought you meant was hurt as mind games. Emotionally hurt or humiliation of some sort. If that was the case, I would have to say NO. My relationship with Daddy would be over and i would be more destroyed inside if he were to do that than if any other vanilla man were to do that, not my Daddy.  But that was the thing I thought you meant. Good luck!

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 5:49:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		it depends so much on the lil girl and her particular needs.  For some a little OTK is quite sufficient to maintain good behaviour.  Some, on the other hand, need Daddy's cane!

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 7:39:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		i need to be hurt regularly. But for me it isn't about "bad girls get punishments," it's about reinforcing the sense that i belong to him, and that all the choices are his, for me, even if he chooses to hurt me and/or play with me.

It also is good for me because it is a way that i know i am pleasing him, without question or doubts, and that he's having fun using me for his fun and amusement. It is a reinforcement that this is my purpose, why i was created on this earth - to serve his pleasure. It is a very simple action, very girly, and exists purely in the physical.

Add to that the overarching need i have for intimacy - which is the primary reason why i would ever show my "girl's heart" to anyone - and pain is a very important part of my dynamic.



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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 11:54:28 AM   
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I just beat her when I feel like it...I probably am not going to ask for her opinion lol

Its all about me that session...

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 11:58:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Some do, some don't. He's not a sadist and I'm not a masochist. We don't have a punishment dynamic. So what good would this do me?

I'm betting that whoever told you this had received corporal punishment when young and grew up believing that corporal punishment meant love. Which may be true for her, but not necessarily for anyone else.

Anytime you say that something is universally true for all people in the world, you are going to be proved wrong.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 11:58:20 AM   
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What I first thought you meant was hurt as mind games. Emotionally hurt or humiliation of some sort.


No. What the little girl meant was physical hurt. The girl had emotional hurt inflicted in her life and felt that was very bad for her. So, did I. I should clarify that in the OP.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 12:09:47 PM   
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your post most closely answers the sense of the little girl's statement in the OP.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 12:22:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

i need to be hurt regularly. But for me it isn't about "bad girls get punishments," it's about reinforcing the sense that i belong to him, and that all the choices are his, for me, even if he chooses to hurt me and/or play with me.

It also is good for me because it is a way that i know i am pleasing him, without question or doubts, and that he's having fun using me for his fun and amusement. It is a reinforcement that this is my purpose, why i was created on this earth - to serve his pleasure. It is a very simple action, very girly, and exists purely in the physical.

Add to that the overarching need i have for intimacy - which is the primary reason why i would ever show my "girl's heart" to anyone - and pain is a very important part of my dynamic.




This.  Beatings are to show me my place or to remind me of it if I should need reminding. They reinforce that I am his slave, there is nothing fun about them.

I agree with you julie, there is nothing "bad girls need punishments" about it. Rather it's about the choices being his, not mine. I don't determine what happens, he does.


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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 12:25:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		There's something very special about being a big girl for Daddy and Him spanking me to tears, then consoling me, telling me how good I was.  There's a different kind of "head-fuckery" that goes on when Daddy says He's going to hurt His little girl because He wants to, and don't you want to make your Daddy happy? If I'm in that head space though, emotional/psychological hurting is very very bad and it's not something He or I need to experience to know that. 

We have a different sort of dynamic, very fluid, Master/slave, Daddy/little girl, verbal debate sparring partners, and everything in between.  There is no "and now we're going to be this way" it just comes from understanding the communication and energy that flows between us, and the words, tone and feelings that we are attuned to in each other, which dictates the direction of our dynamic from moment to moment.  There are other opportunities for Him to play with emotional/psychological pain outside the D/lg piece of us, so there is no need for those things to overlap.  Others may handle it differently, but this is what works for us.  

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 12:27:23 PM   
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It also is good for me because it is a way that i know i am pleasing him, without question or doubts, and that he's having fun using me for his fun and amusement. It is a reinforcement that this is my purpose, why i was created on this earth - to serve his pleasure. It is a very simple action, very girly, and exists purely in the physical.


Most masochist men I've met have said the same thing, except instead of saying it was girly, they said it was viril and manly ;-)

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 2:23:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		It really depends on the little girl. I would think that a certain amount of punishment is always needed in ageplay.

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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 3:41:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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It also is good for me because it is a way that i know i am pleasing him, without question or doubts, and that he's having fun using me for his fun and amusement. It is a reinforcement that this is my purpose, why i was created on this earth - to serve his pleasure. It is a very simple action, very girly, and exists purely in the physical.


Most masochist men I've met have said the same thing, except instead of saying it was girly, they said it was viril and manly ;-)

- LA



That's very interesting, because many of the times where i have most felt girly was when i was being used and hurt. Sitting in the tub after, collared, bruised, bitten, hair messed up.........takes me to that "girly" place. It's quite peaceful, really.

i was not spanked much as a child. So i can't say where this comes from - other than from my very earliest daydreams i always knew that i was meant to be kept by a man for his pleasure - one of the reasons i say that i am "wired" this way, from birth. Perhaps that has a lot to do with it.

It definitely isn't a "submissive in general" feeling - and it isn't masochistic, either. i'm not much of a masochist, even though i love taking pain for my Owner's pleasure - it isn't the pain that is fun for me, it is the pleasing of him, and again, that is part of my "girly" side.


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RE: Do little girls need to be hurt regularly? - 2/20/2010 5:48:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xjacquix

It really depends on the little girl. I would think that a certain amount of punishment is always needed in ageplay.


Why?

Or do you think that all real children need to be punished? Because some of us weren't beaten and don't beat our offspring.

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