sfogarty
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What motivates you to be submissive?
It's enjoyable, on many levels. There's the direct mental/emotional sensation of it (heavy and thick), the (necessary) pleasure of someone else enjoying my submission, the intense feeling of connection and attachment, the comfort.
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What needs are fulfilled by being submissive?
I'm not terribly good on 'needs.' I could probably never be submissive again and live a happy life, just as I could probably never have sex again and lead a happy life. But it wouldn't be as fulfilling. I'd miss it, and I'd miss the connection with people.
But there is a large part of me that needs touch, needs tactile and emotional contact, and submission certainly fulfills this. So does cuddling, but not necesarilly in the same way.
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Where does it come from?
My spleen?
My desire for harder scenes often comes from either seeing someone else cry (makes me want to get to cry), or the person I'm currently 'lightly(1)' submitting too wanting to hurt me more. That desire develops as a response.
My desire for light(1) submission is just a constant craving for human contact, and this kind is particularly... potent, and feels particularly right.
(1) By 'light' I do not mean trivial, but as contrast to 'dark' almost. Scenes/interactions that do not feel difficult, or 'traumatic' (in the good way), or hard, or emotionally draining. Please /please/ do not take this to mean they are at all less emotionally intense. In fact, without a conflict or struggle I can often move into the submission much sooner and go much deeper.
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What facets of your personality are you portraying thru submission / what facets are being hidden?
Well, I get called a pig reasonably often....
Seriously, there is a component of... wallowing in the submission, or the blood, or the connection. Lingering in that comfortable close tightly connected/bound to state. It's not something I'm particularly /useful/ in (I think the best I've managed was to keep track of a water bottle for the evening), so I think wallowing is a reasonable term.
There is also a strong desire to please/take things for the person. Also some significant guilt if I think they are doing things 'for me' and they 'don't have to'. This is quite silly, but fairly common. The desire to please can become almost a game, with silly things like someone putting a sharp stick in front of me and saying "Seth, walk forward." It's almost silly that I'll do it. It can also get to very non-gamelike (but still very pleasant) states where I'm upset that the other person has to stop... not that I want more, but I know they want more. (This is often bad in that they are stopping because, well, they want to cut a bit deeper than would be healthy, and living doesn't seem terribly important right then, compared to them being happy.)
Certainly I'm very tactile, very cuddly. I want to be close to and, preferably, touching the person I'm submitting to as long and as often as possible.
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Is fear a factor?
Fear, like sex and pain, is something that can be used to generate submission, flavor submission, use up submission in taking, etc. But non
e of them are /necessary/ to submission. A bit of fear can make me feel submissive to someone, a lot of it can require that I already be fe
eling submissive in order to take it. Enough submission and it's hard for me feel fear at all, because (as noted above), even dying seems (
while bad) like a less bad thing than them having to not do what they want.
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Why did you read this and choose not to answer?
Um, I did.
< Message edited by sfogarty -- 4/4/2006 12:27:06 PM >
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