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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/1/2006 4:50:21 PM

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i read it and didn't answer because all the previous answers were as my own, only more eloquent, LOL

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/1/2006 6:16:57 PM

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Being submissive is just something I have always been. It makes me feel loved, secure and whole.

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/1/2006 8:35:10 PM

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Sumbitting centers me. It makes life clearer, bring everything into focus. Calms the chaos in the rest of my life. I feel like i've come home after wandering in the middle of a large city i've never been to before.
It it the other side of the coin that is my life. It is the release i need to stay sane.

And well i like the moderate pain and the lots sex too

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/1/2006 9:42:36 PM

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Wow, I really do not know how to answer these questions, not that I haven't thought about it quite a bit, because I have...

I could go back to childhood and say that this tendency has always been inside me. I have always wanted to please people that were important to me, never disappoint those whom I admired. I have always had sexual fantasies with a submissive component, and I have never been the Top in my fantasies.

I do not know what motivates me to be a submissive other than it just feels normal and right that someone I think well of enough to have sex with I also think well of enough to be in charge of things. It is something I have done in every relationship without realizing it (I mean my intimate ones). I just am this way.

I do not think that most people would guess me to be a submissive as I get older and more confident in myself. I am able to articulate a rational argument and I do not back down from a debate. I am not unsure of myself or my place in the universe. This is not what a submissive is stereotyped to be like. I even see it on the board here where a measure of submissiveness is measured in shyness, passiveness, and calmness. I do not see it that way, it is just how I interact with my mate. I am an extrovert, I am active, and I am certainly not passive about life. I do not see those as submissive qualities really, they are just personality traits.

I exhibit submissiveness in my desire to serve people that I care for in a variety of ways. If my loved one has a hard day I will try to anticipate what they might need and provide it for them, not just my dom, but my child, my mother or my friends.

The only way fear is a factor for me is that I have an anxiety disorder. I exercise and eat better to curb it, but it is still somewhat with me,.. but under control. Fears feed anxiety, and I DO need a dominant in my life that will not feed my fears, but try to help me face them. Before I bore everyone, thanks for the question.. it is a very thought provoking one.

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/2/2006 4:11:48 AM

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What motivates you to be submissivet?

The need to please and make her as happy as I possibly can. To be shown how I can make her happy during those times I can't figure it out. To sate the desires and fill the void that is behind the mask I wear for work, because those desires and filling that void are contrary to what I do at the moment, and yet I can't leave.

What needs are fulfilled by being submissive?

My need to feel safe and secure, as well as my need to give to and see to the needs and desires of another, even before my own. It fills the void left by work, and my desire and need to feel whole and complete.

Where does it come from?

Deep in my bones... it's part of who I am. I made the mistake before of trying to ignore and supress it, but never again. It is a part of me I can't ignore, and surfaces from the deepest reaches of my brain, body and soul.

What facets of your personality are you portraying thru submission / what facets are being hidden?

More of my sexuality and baser emotions. My need and desire to please and induce happiness even when it is at my own expense or when it is something I don't enjoy, but souly because it is asked of me. Those that are hidden... probably some of my more boisterous activitys and thoughts. I tend to be calmer, quiter and more of an indoor person when submissive. So I imagnine that those outdoor and active facets are a bit hidden.

Is fear a factor?

No, it is anything but. I feel exceptionally safe and trust her with out doubt. Daily life as more fear and anxiety then submission does, because I have to wear a facade.

Why did you read this and choose not to answer?

Very good question, I almost did this. This question force one to examine themselves and why they might choose to avoid a topic after already expressing interest by opening the thread.

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/2/2006 4:33:06 AM

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There isn't a motivation....submissive is what i am....it's also who i am and who i will always be..there isn't a choice, it just is.

the need to just be...i didn't choose submission, it chose me. the need to live and go forward in life, the need to be who i truly am...the need for no pretense.

it comes from my soul, it's what and who i am.

i think my true self is portrayed thru my submission. i think i hide it in the "real" world so that i can do the job that is expected of me. i am a supervisor and i struggle with that side every day.

Fear may be a factor...the fear of being alone and not having anyone appreciate the person i am.

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/2/2006 9:11:32 AM

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my motivation is knowing that something better awaits me. my journey... my goal is to be homebound. being homebound is what is best for me. Master, Sir knows that and my sister slave knows that. just the fact of knowing that my true self is waiting for me. to know that i am reaching my selfactualization as a slave. i couldnt ask for anything more. i thank Master, Sir and spankingbeauty for being so patient with me. it takes a lot. i appreciate T/them. T/they are all i need. i dont need a sports car. i dont need a big house. i dont want anything but to serve. i want to be completed.

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/3/2006 4:06:36 AM

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What motivates you to be submissive? there is no motivation, submissive is just who and what i am.
What needs are fulfilled by being submissive? i suppose there are many reasons that people are submissive -it makes me feel protected and complete. with my Dom i am whole.
Where does it come from? it is just who i am, there is no source.
What facets of your personality are you portraying thru submission / what facets are being hidden? nothing is being hidden, in fact i view it as being entirely truthful and honest, embracing who i truly am. it is not hiding but quite the opposite.
Is fear a factor? absolutely not.
Why did you read this and choose not to answer? i did answer ;)

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/3/2006 5:06:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: PookBaccus

What motivates you to be submissivet?
What needs are fulfilled by being submissive?
Where does it come from?
What facets of your personality are you portraying thru submission / what facets are being hidden?
Is fear a factor?
Why did you read this and choose not to answer?

I here inquiring Doms and subs Really Really wanna know.
PookBaccus

A natural instinct that I'm still trying to understand.

the need to let go and not worry about being in control, the freedom to just be who am

I have no idea where it comes from, both my parents were stong and treated their 40 years together as a partnership. It comes from the most core base of my personality.

The needs of the many over the needs of the few. It's more than a bit cliched but I don't know how else to put it. when I can submit I feel I can give the best parts of myself, the mosst intimate part.

Fear is not a factor in who I play with but in a fear of not being valuable enough.

These are very though provoking questions, thank you *S*

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/3/2006 6:38:15 AM

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Quote - why did you read this and choose not to answer?

I have to laugh at this question because by answering it i am replying - go figure.

I choose not to answer the questions you have asked because i don't think i know the answers well enough yet.

All i can say is i am what i am !

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/3/2006 6:50:11 AM

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in a nut shell its who i am im free when im owned

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RE: What motivates you to be submissive? - 5/3/2006 8:55:11 AM

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What motivates you to be submissive?

Nothing motivates me. I just am. It is like asking why you're an heterosexual rather then an homosexual..I had no choice in this.

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What needs are fulfilled by being submissive?

That's a good question...it's all around this idea of surrendering, the desire to be true to yourself and giving all that you have, the desire to be accepted truely for who you are and to become more then what you thought you were at the beginning. My need to give is what has to be fulfilled, in all aspects of my life.

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Where does it come from?

With that question, you're intering into some psychological depths, watch out...
I *guess* it came from my authority figure's father...and that desire to please on a basic state turned out, growing up, as a sexual desire to please? the oedipe syndrom more developped? (chuckles) i really dont know.