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crazyml -> RE: how does online work? (2/21/2010 2:17:12 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Pick someone who understands about real life, who cares that you get enough sleep to function properly and so on.
You know that noobs come on all the time to say guys they've met are causing them to lose their jobs, outing them, causing family upset etc. So does knowing them in real life mean they're smart and realistic? Nope.
Same with online. You talk to them and see how realistic they are, how concerned with your well being they are.
The Man and I were LDR for about 3 years. We saw each other about every six weeks in good weather and every three months came winter. He still wanted to know about my real life; where I was going, what sports events I was taking the kids to etc. He understood that if I was escorting a school hiking trip then I sure wasn't going to be pantiless in a short skirt and heels. He would never have done anything harmful to me. And he insisted I sign off and go to bed at a reasonable hour.
Just because you've met them in real life doesn't mean they're good dominants and just because you haven't yet doesn't mean they're bad. It's up to the individual as always.
Rapturous applause!!!!
I've had a couple of very genuine and meaningful online-only relationships and loads of genuine and meaningful online-liny friendships with people I've met on fora, chatrooms etc.
In the former case - Yes, OriginallyFromLA is absolutely right - if you're not web camming there's always the possibility that she is munching a sandwhich and doing sudoku while assuring you that she's spankng her pussy and applying clothespins to her breasts... And I'm sure that lots of that happens, and I'm sure that it's happenned to me - But I have laughed with subs I've subsequently met about how ridiculous it was that they did go and change into a school uniform before calling me - even though I'd never have known if they hadn't - but in a genuine relationship you trust that your sub is obeying if she says she is.
Don't get me wrong - I'm absolutely certain that I've been fooled many times in the past, if someone isn't genuine it usually becomes clear fairly quickly, or the whole scene becomes boring..
OriginallyFromLA's comment did remind me of the early days of "cybersex" and IRC - in the late 80's and early 90's the internet was full of dudes, pretending to be girls, logging onto "bisexual female" chatrooms to cyber with people who were more often than not, also dudes pretending to be girls....
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