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Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 4:46:06 PM   
Learn2ServeU


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           After a forum posting, I've been ordered to post an entry that demonstrates proper use of paragraphs.  Obliging Joyfully.  ;)  Thank You, Ma'am, for the order.        
          
           Writing and the Friend/Sub paradox.  I love writing, and I want that intellectual connection.  But I find myself in the friend zone over and over.  Which makes sense, given the reticence in my last entry/post.  And this is an observation that carries over from vanilla dating sites in any case.         
         
           Are women turned off by talk/writing?  Strong silent, is that the ticket?  I'll keep it brief, and I'm not looking to criticize anyone, people are absolutely entitled to their desires.  But again, is talking during sex a fantasy or turnoff?

Respectfully,
L2SU.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 5:00:42 PM   
Dominasola


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Status: offline 		Firstly, I think what she meant by "demonstrating proper use of paragraphs" is to actually insert a space  between each one so that your post is easier to read. 

As for talking during sex...that all depends on what is being said.


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 5:06:34 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Those are not proper paragraphs.
Bad boy!
Do it again!

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 6:23:33 PM   
littlewonder


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 6:32:45 PM   
LadyOddsworth


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Status: offline 		I love the English language, spoken, written, or read. Though I can really destroy it.

Talk to me baby. I like a man to express himself. If it is his opinion about a movie, or dirty, filthy pillow talk!  A man who is expressive is my preference.



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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 6:48:47 PM   
AnimusRex


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Status: offline 		Talking I enjoy:
"Oh God MORE MORE MORE! OH MY GOD YES!!

Talking I don't:
"Wow, I never realized the ceiling needed painting."


Um, the second one is hypothetical.

Really.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 6:53:44 PM   
Dominasola


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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex


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I once said, "Did you know that you have a crack in your wall?"




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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 8:19:39 PM   
Smutmonger


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 8:52:03 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		myself I'm not a very vocal person during sex but my wife enjoys my talking during sex so i have been working on doing it more for her, and my Mistress enjoys my being vocal during play i was not vocal at first during play but as She enjoys it i have become more vocal.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 9:42:51 PM   
antipode


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But again, is talking during sex a fantasy or turnoff?


Are generalizations useful?

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 10:44:00 PM   
wandersalone


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ORIGINAL: Learn2ServeU

Hello,       
          After a forum posting, I've been ordered to post an entry that demonstrates proper use of paragraphs.  Obliging Joyfully.  ;)  Thank You, Ma'am, for the order.        
         
           Writing and the Friend/Sub paradox.  I love writing, and I want that intellectual connection.  But I find myself in the friend zone over and over.  Which makes sense, given the reticence in my last entry/post.  And this is an observation that carries over from vanilla dating sites in any case.         
        
           Are women turned off by talk/writing?  Strong silent, is that the ticket?  I'll keep it brief, and I'm not looking to criticize anyone, people are absolutely entitled to their desires.  But again, is talking during sex a fantasy or turnoff?

Respectfully,
L2SU.


why are you writing when you are having sex?  I would boot the person out of bed if they did that


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 11:07:48 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		Current S.i.T. (sub/slave in training - once I decide which he is, I'll let him know) goes into such a deep, deep head-space, very hard to get him to vocalize anything.  Good thing I've got some experience under my belt and can "read" him pretty darn well, even if I say so myself.  I am having some <limited> success with counting strokes, but our sessions have been more far-ranging than "just" flogging.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 11:09:52 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		What like this?

'Is it in yet?'

'It's come off.'

'Can you get it out?'

'It's okay, I've got it.'

'Thank God for that.'

'Let's have a smoke and try again in ten minutes.'

'Could you possibly...?'

'Of course darling..'

'Careful... it's not a gearstick. You have to be gentle.'

'It's too small.'

'I'm uncomfortable..'

'Sorry.'

'Is it in yet?'

'Nearly.. almost there..'

'Oh shit..'

'I'm sorry.'

'Not to worry darling.'

This is all of course made up. Honest.



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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/23/2010 11:20:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		He hates it when I'm on the phone during sex...

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 11:03:50 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Talking during sex i can barely get enough breath to say Master usully all i can get out. It's all good though. Master does not talk during sex uaually though when he is driving me crazy i hear his wicked laugh. I am very vocal with sounds not words.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 12:19:24 PM   
ForeverOwned


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Status: offline 		i love it when he talks dirty to me, but i don't like doing it back. i'm grateful he has never asked me to.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 4:53:11 PM   
Zadie


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 5:18:04 PM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		...hearing him talking to me . dirty , or gently about me during sex is such a turn on for me,,,
it add to the pleasure , a real caress to my mind and soul

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 5:23:36 PM   
Kaiel


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Status: offline 		I don't enjoy talking from My sub during sex. I do the talking... However, I do like hearing him moan and groan! 

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 10:19:33 PM   
DarlingSavage


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Status: offline 		I like it, I like it a lot! I like to talk dirty to him and I want him to call me dirty names. I want him to take charge and take utter and complete control of me. I want to surrender myself to him utterly and completely. I want everything I do to give him pleasure. Yeah. *sigh* Now, I just need this guy to show up in my life! YAY!

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