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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/24/2010 10:40:15 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		My not yet ex-husband and I were on a marriage retreat, at a 4 star hotel, having sex.

I am staring up at the ceiling, and say " they really need to dust those air ducts"
He just growls, flips my ass over onto my knees and starts banging me doggy style.  So there I am staring over the edge of the bed and say,
"you should really see all these dustbunnies down there!  ewwww!

Is that the sex talk you are referring to? 

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/25/2010 5:30:11 PM   
brattykajira


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Status: offline 		I would have to say a turn off, unless your cumming.. Lol.. but that's more of a sound if your loud. Not really a conversation during sex. Now if my master was instructing me to do something while he is doing me that is a different story. I guess it depends on what the conversation is about. Is it a regular conversation? Is your dom/mistress ordering you to do something during sex? If its just a regular conversation for my personal input I do not think it would be a turn on to me at all.
-sugar

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/25/2010 7:58:05 PM   
ceebee


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/25/2010 8:00:51 PM   
impishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		I have a really hard time concentrating on conversation during sex. It's just such a distraction for me.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/25/2010 8:40:28 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		It just depends. Sometimes it's a turn on, sometimes I like the strong silent type. Depends upon the mood, how things are going, etc.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 2/25/2010 9:41:41 PM   
petmonkey


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    If it is about the subject at hand, the sex, then fine.  If it is about one's day or tasks to be done later or the meal We had for dinner, then something is "wrong". If someone is distracted while having sex with you; what the h*ll is the point of your presence, really? Unless you are playing a game of Distraction on purpose, of course.
    i was with someone who over-talked a long time ago, eventually i realized it was because they had more experience with watching porn than having sex. After a while, i left them alone with their collection. Dirty words have more power for me when used sparingly.
    Short commands during sex, on the other hand, push my buttons--especially if done in a manner that improves rather than impedes the flow of the experience. "Touch me here." rarely fails; "Get me a beer." usually does. :P


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/9/2010 5:13:59 PM   
sabis


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quote:

But again, is talking during sex a fantasy or turnoff?
Respectfully,
L2SU.


Nope.

He *especially* loves it when I weave fantasies aloud for him, confessing those filthy, dirty, humiliating desires that I have kept suppressed my whole life, that only HE has ever heard of, spoken aloud...

And I particularly love it when he tells me in graphic terms of his pleasure in my body, how I make him feel, his love for me...

In His service,

~sabis

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/9/2010 5:48:12 PM   
Kana


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/11/2010 10:44:48 PM   
NefertariReborn


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Status: offline 		I'm strongly auditory.  Dirty talk from him? YES! Dirty talk from Me? YES!

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/11/2010 11:04:28 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Since I could only cum when he told me to, I really appreciated when he talked to me during sex!!

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/12/2010 12:04:51 AM   
Elisabella


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Status: offline 		Depends on what the words are. Dirty words are a turnoff. Certain phrases are a turnon. And those phrases are so not being posted in public.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/12/2010 3:44:33 AM   
eyesopened


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After seeing this, my Master and I try to incorporate it into our play as often as we can!

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/12/2010 8:29:02 AM   
takemeforyourown


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Status: offline 		Apparently, my pussy is connected to my vocal cords. Not so much for talking but there sure is a lot of uncontrollable vocalizing. Some guys find it a huge turn on, I've had at least one partner who shushed me right up.




Edited for extraneous consonants.

< Message edited by takemeforyourown -- 3/12/2010 8:30:49 AM >

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/15/2010 3:16:52 AM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I love the words from both sides - I live for words.  I am allowed to say anything I want during sex as long as it is never a complaint - LOL - and there is never any reason for complaint.  I am normally prim and proper but not during the act.  I beg, I encourage, I tell him how much I need him, and I can feel how much he enjoys it.  He is not as verbal but when he growls something at me in that voice that is reserved only for sex it sets off skyrockets for me.  Phrases like "who do you belong to?" make me wild to show him how much I appreciate that I belong to him.

There have been a few occasions when circumstances deemed that I be as silent as possible and I find that I lose much of the joy of the act when that's the case.  That has made me truly appreciate what a wonderful gift I've been given to be able to speak freely during the act.  I'm even allowed to make requests with my begging, most of which are granted, though outside of sex I would never dream of trying to top from the bottom in any way.  It's permitted because he knows that I have his utmost pleasure in mind so it works out very well for both of us.


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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/15/2010 7:38:45 PM   
DomBlade64


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Status: offline 		Talking is great!

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/16/2010 4:39:13 PM   
Aanakaris


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Status: offline 		Talking can be good, talking can be bad. Even the best words when spoken without passion are meaningless or insulting. 

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/16/2010 7:31:30 PM   
SadistAndSlave


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Status: offline 		I love talking and Master loves to hear it as well as sling some words my way. "Who owns you?" and "I'm your filthy slut" are a couple of our favorites. Sometimes the sounds are better than words in all ways, though. Primal growling and his grunts make me melt into a puddle of slave goo (which is one of the best kinds of goo, I might add!)

As for the typing? I actually find myself drawn to people who type properly. Internet shorthand bothers the heck out of me and I am much more willing to deal with a person via email or instant message if they actually take the effort to spell out the whole word instead of skipping a few letters.

-Mia
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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/16/2010 11:40:39 PM   
BeMyProperty


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Status: offline 		Major turn on if done right. Which is one reason I want multiple guys. One can have his mouth busy doing something else :) With one guy, even if his mouth isn't busy, I don't think it's the same if he's not up near me so he can talk more softly.

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RE: Talking during Sex Turn On/Off? - 3/17/2010 12:04:09 AM   
itsmeinLV


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Status: offline 		"Dirty" talking during is fun.  ;)  Otherwise...hm, strong silence, haha!

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