MizSuz
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross However, I find it odd that you believe in female supremacy but allow a man to get what he wants from another woman and you only get it when the wife allows (if he's cheating). See, that's the rub for me. I mean, there are a bazillion ways to manifest a d/s relationship so it's possible to build a very rewarding relationship with a married man that doesn't necessarily cause him to break any promises within the framework of his relationship. Takes clarity and good boundaries, but it's doable. However, my objection to married persons as personals, as opposed to being clients, is that the ratio of return to investment isn't good enough for me. I mean, he's married so it's never going to go sexual. If he's married I'm going to come in second at best, more likely third. If there are kids then my place in the hierarchy of priority is lower still. He's not going to be with me on holidays. He's probably not going to come in the middle of the night if I need to go to the hospital or whatever else one might find them self doing in the middle of the night. If he's a man of some means we may occasionally travel together, but if he's inundated with mortgage, car payments, orthadonture payments, soccer uniforms and clarinets and he saves to go on vacation with his family once every year or so, chances are very likely I won't be the person he goes on vacation with. If he's married he may not want to be seen in very public places so he probably won't attend a lot of functions with me. During the high growing season, when it seems that mowing the yard once a week isn't enough, whose yard do you think is most likely to be neglected? Most married men are only available on a basis that could constitute a very nice professional relationship, but in general they are not in a position to prioritize me in a way that I would find acceptable. Why would I want to compromise?
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