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Owned/collared - 2/25/2010 5:43:38 PM

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What does being owned and collared mean to you? Is it the same thing? Do you have a symbol that represents you being owned?

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/25/2010 9:20:55 PM

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i have 2 of them one is my collar that i weare 24/7 and the other is my Mistress initials cut into my left chest using a scalple. for me it is a symbol of the level of trust and commitment and a great honor to be bestowed on me. now some have collars that are easily removed and meal little and that is fine for them. for me it is something that i treasure above all else and will cherish for a long time

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 4:30:16 AM

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Thank you for the reply. I actually agree with you there. It is a sign of commitment and level of trust. A bond between your owner and yourself. This shows your owned and not only show but is a symbol of your honor and faith to the relatonship. Its a reminder where you belong and what your place is.
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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 6:41:18 AM

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What does being owned and collared mean to you? Is it the same thing? Do you have a symbol that represents you being owned?

To me (and only me), those two words are vastly different.

Collared: You've put on a collar in some way. It could mean anything from a twice a year tryst with some guy for some kinky bedroom games to a a 24/7, cohabitated, TPE type arrangement. It could also mean your goth or emo. Honestly, I don't draw much from that word.

Owned: To ME, this implies that both owner and ownee see a state of ownership happening. Again, this could mean anything at all and almost certainly doesn't mean to other people what it means to me.

In the end, none of the BDSM words have any definitions so my strategy is to find out what someone means when they use one of them by asking more questions. I just had someone last night inform me they were a real life slave. To HER, what that means was that she saw herself as "really belonging" to her "master" even though the two of them had never met, never intend to meet, and the relationship exists online only.

Asking questions = good.

And now, to make a totally circular line of reasoning... yes, we have such a symbol. Her collar is the symbol of my ownership of her.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 7:48:39 AM

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Frankly, the words mean nothing to me. We are who we are.

I see the words as something a lot of younger or immature subs like to post in the first lines of their profile as some kind of personal validation, not unlike how wrapping enormous class rings in fuzzy yarn and wearing them on a chain around the neck used to be.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 8:46:33 AM

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To me having a collar while being owned is similar to having a wedding ring while being married - one is an outward symbol of the other. You can still be married even if you take off your ring for some reason, and I am still owned when I do not wear my collar.

I have a tattoo which is my Master's mark of ownership. That I can wear 24/7. Does the mark itself make me more owned? No, but I will never forget the feeling that I had when I let him know that I would like to wear it when he felt I was ready and he immediately responded with the task of getting it done. It was more the idea of him wanting me to be identified as his true and trusted slave than the actual mark itself that got to me.

We also each wear one diamond earring from the same set - both of us 24/7. That way we always carry a piece of the other with us. It can be worn in a vanilla setting with others not knowing the depth of the feeling behind it or what it represents, but he and I both carry the knowledge of the meaning that we put on them. If I get to missing him, as I sometimes do on business trips, I can just reach up and touch the earring to know that he is always with me.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 10:36:10 AM

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The trust, love and the bonds that we share are what binds me to him. i have a collar and i have a small tatoo on my hip which just enhances the feeling.

It's when he touches me or looks at me or whispers my name. It has nothing to do with the collar or any other ormnament i could wear. It's all in the feeling and the love.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 5:12:42 PM

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 6:38:48 PM

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Hi.

We have many of our slaves wear a collar and slave tag. Some like to wear the collar in public so we have them wear a leather collar that looks more like a necklace so they can wear it anywhere like at work. We have marked some slaves too. Some like branding and some like tattoos more. We've posted a few of those pics.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 6:53:42 PM

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 7:57:22 PM

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What does being owned and collared mean to you? Is it the same thing? Do you have a symbol that represents you being owned?

Valyraen owned me long before he collared me. For us, and only us and ours, the collar is a symbol of our commitment to a particular type of relationship between each other. It seems to be evolving though, to being less about what is around my neck and more that something is there and that I have his permission/instruction for it to be there.

For me and mine, that collar and that symbolism is a fluid thing that I expect will continue to change as we grow together and in our relationship.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/26/2010 8:35:21 PM

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I can definitely be owned without being collared. I view being owned as a state of mind shared between my Owner and my slave self. A collar is simply an indication of such to both of us. But the symbol is just that, a symbol. It could be anything, an arm band, a bracelet, a ring, anything, really, as long as we both understand its meaning.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/27/2010 11:02:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

To me (and only me), those two words are vastly different.

Collared: You've put on a collar in some way. It could mean anything from a twice a year tryst with some guy for some kinky bedroom games to a a 24/7, cohabitated, TPE type arrangement. It could also mean your goth or emo. Honestly, I don't draw much from that word.

Owned: To ME, this implies that both owner and ownee see a state of ownership happening. Again, this could mean anything at all and almost certainly doesn't mean to other people what it means to me.

i like Leadership527's answer.

i am a sub, and not a slave, so i don't consider myself to be "owned" per se. But my Domme does usually own my heart, and i consider myself to be "hers". So in that regard, the term might apply.

A collar to me is just like a wedding ring. It is a symbol of our commitment to one another. It is a sign of exclusivity and fidelity on the part of the sub (although the Dom/Domme is usually not obligated to such exclusivity or fidelity).

The collar doesn't have to be a literal collar. It could be a ring, a tattoo, a brand, a necklace, etc.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/27/2010 6:45:59 PM

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I have a collar, which W/we both picked out together. It is only Him who can put the collar on me - i'm not allowed to fasten it myself. i don't wear it all the time, only during play and photoshoots ... It's purely symbolic, i think.

We are engaged - the ring i wear every day lets people know i'm committed to Him without them knowing what goes on behind closed doors. If i forget to wear the ring (as i often do, i'm not used to jewellery), i feel awful.
Then again, He also has my initial tattooed on His ring finger.

I definitely consider myself owned, and i'm fine with it.

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RE: Owned/collared - 2/28/2010 3:27:27 PM

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My collar is just a symbol of the love and the bond between us. I wear it 24/7 (except when i had to take if off for an X ray). He put his collar around my heart a long time ago. Yes it is a symbol but i like to reach uo and touch it when i am not with him, it makes me feel better. It is to me a symbol of who i belong to, maybe the world does not know it but we do.

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RE: Owned/collared - 3/1/2010 7:21:10 AM

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Thank you all for the responses.. My collar and being owned represents that I belong to my Master. This is a symbol to show everyone I am my Master's property and a reminder that whatever I do in every action that I may put forth honors and respects my Ones name. This is a symbol showing the full surrender to my One and that the trust and solid foundation is there with my One.
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RE: Owned/collared - 3/1/2010 8:11:30 AM

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i've thought a couple of times about responding to this thread, and will do so now, since for me it is a bit different - and everyone is different.

i engage in relationships where i perform as owned slave in a strong Owner/property dynamic, with overtones of Sadistic Loving Daddy/babygirl as well. A little bit different from the traditional "Master/slave" dynamic as most people see it (in my experience, anyway). i am kept - as an object of his pleasure, for my Owner's fun and amusement.

For me, being Owned and collared is the same thing. The physical collaring is simple, and it happens very soon after the Ownership (really only once, long term - i was with my ex Master for 5 years). And all the potential Owners i talk with right now have a similar outlook - they have a strong desire to possess (in a healthy way) - it is part of what causes him to want to draw me to him, to Own, in that way.

It's akin to when you get a new dog, or cat, and bring it home - one of the first things you do is put a collar around it's neck to indicate that it belongs to you, and to have the ability to control it as well. Not that puppy play is part of this dynamic, it is just a similar type of Ownership - it is again being kept, as his, for his purposes and belonging to him only.

And there's no sweet fancy "collaring ceremony" with roses, etc.....last time it was "turn around and lift up your hair, i'm putting this on you." (*melts*) The Owner i was most recently speaking with said that he would "sit on me and bolt it around my neck" - hee hee! And yes, it is a "permanent" collar, bolted on.....i can't remove it myself....and i need to not be able to, too. i need to have zero control over what he places around my neck, as for me it is a constant reminder of the knowledge of who and what i am - which is his, and for his purposes, alone.

So for me, being collared is simply what i am when i am Owned. It is a state of being. And yes, again, for me - it is exactly what i need.

Quite peaceful and happy, really.

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RE: Owned/collared - 3/1/2010 8:15:58 AM

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RE: Owned/collared - 3/2/2010 9:03:10 AM

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Thank you for your sharing input.
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RE: Owned/collared - 3/4/2010 8:40:39 AM

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Everyone is different, but for me being a sub/slave without a collar does not work. My normal collar is thick and heavy, its difficult to hide and it took sometime to learn to sleep in it. I cannot remove it on my own, but master is happy and obliging to swap for more dressy type for social and professional needs. However overtime I have asked less and less, as I both care less what others think or dress it up. Only medical and airtravel do I have no collar, although I feel uncomfortable the entire time.

My collar is similar to this,
http://www.traeume-aus-edelstahl.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=4&products_id=1

It has decorative etching and gen stones to make it something special and very costly. I think its because of this I always want to wear it.My master was originally my employer, then master and now husband.

The biggest question/issue by third parties is my mother. She struggled to understand why I'd wear it, but she acknowledges now that I both doing this because I want to and I'm extremely happy with my life and that my master and husband cares deeply for me and my well being. I leave out the part where he uses a whip or cane to beat me in play time.

To earn my collar, I had to go through a whipping ceremony to prove my worth in front of others.

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