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RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:44:06 PM   
Jeffff


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I ... expect it

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RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:49:07 PM   
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RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:55:36 PM   
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RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 6:49:13 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I expected others to be smarter, better looking, not so many into fantasy roleplaying, video games and LARPS and medieval reinactments and that more would be looking for long term, serious, committed monogamy.




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RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 9:22:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf
how has the reality of what is expected of you differed?

I expected the physical stuff, but I didn't expect the mental/emotional. I was pretty ignorant when I got into this. I thought it was more about roleplay. I didn't think I would love the mental/emotional stuff as intensely as I do and I NEVER could have imagined that I would have gravitated so strongly to the concept of being owned.

The reality is much more intense and gratifying than I expected. I guess I expected something fun and shallow; I got something life-altering, meaningful, and deep.

I ain't complainin'.

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/1/2010 7:46:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lucylucy

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf
how has the reality of what is expected of you differed?

I expected the physical stuff, but I didn't expect the mental/emotional. I was pretty ignorant when I got into this. I thought it was more about roleplay. I didn't think I would love the mental/emotional stuff as intensely as I do and I NEVER could have imagined that I would have gravitated so strongly to the concept of being owned.

The reality is much more intense and gratifying than I expected. I guess I expected something fun and shallow; I got something life-altering, meaningful, and deep.

I ain't complainin'.


I could not have said it better myself!

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/1/2010 8:09:40 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		originally, we both expressed the desire and expectation to never get married again...we did, though---and it was a beautiful ceremony.

other than that, He has been very consistent with what He requires of this slave, day to day, compared to what He disclosed He would require of any slave that desired to serve Him.

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/1/2010 9:50:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I got started with 24/7, I didn't expect that it would end up feeling like a totally normal, integrated part of my relationship with my partner. I kind of expected to "feel kinky" 24/7, and it's not really like that.

I also had some unreasonably high expectations of myself & how much service I could provide. I thought I should do everything, but I really couldn't with everything else I'm juggling. Fortunately, my partner's always had more realistic expectations of me.

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 12:04:17 AM   
allyC


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Status: offline 		That's a really interesting question.  Usually I hear the question "has the experience met up with your expectations" but rarely asked how what was expected of me had differed. I was first inclined to say that his expectations with regards to discipline, ritual, etc. had lessened but the reality is that there was a curve in our relationship - in the beginning, discipline was much more necessary as I was still learning what did and did not please him.  As I progress, it becomes less necessary as I clearly understand the pleasures and rules.  :) For example, I am not expected to ask to spend three dollars at the store anymore but I certainly do ask before making any large expenditure.  I am not expected to ask him to choose my clothing anymore because I already know what he likes.   But - after nearly 12 years I still must ask permission to use the bathroom if I am in his presence.  heh!  Go figure.  ;) So the underlying expectations of me and my behavior haven't changed, however, the way in which they are brought about has. I think as relationships and people grow and change, expectations will differ somewhat.  For us the core stays the same but the expectations evolve with time and experience. Well wishes! Cav's ally

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 12:35:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I hoped for, or had limited expectations of, finding somewhere that I 'fit'. Somewhere I felt like everyone else, instead of an outsider.

I found that, and more.

I made friends, r/l and o/l, and I'm grateful every day for both.
I met some assholes who made me change my view of the world, and that is not always a bad thing

Now I would like to find the person reflects and enhances me, and vice versa.

No expectations, but lots of hope.

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 2:15:47 PM   
wisdomtogive


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Status: offline 		You know I still dont know what to expect and I came in to bdsm without expectations. I was in my mid 50's and only have been on cm to read the boards. I read and read and half the time i never got it, to be honest.

So many put this 'lifestyle' as different then a vanilla relationship, but i don't see it. Yes minus the b.d.s. m. effect, but D/s and in some cases M/s in my life have not been so different. I believe it was KyraofMists that once mentioned to me that most likely my vanilla relationship was probably D/s without the kink. I do not see this type of relationship any more intense then a vanilla one, because I love people intensely.

So i have no expectations of what this lifestyle is suppose to be. It is a relationship now between Sir and me, and i am living it intensely, as i did my other ones. i do not follow anyone here as absolutes, though there have been a number of regulars since i have started, that have been a great help to me as i dug deeper into my own submissiveness. Because of that, I feel so blessed to have had them as guiding posts through my inner search. As far as relationship though, i only go to Sir, without cloudy and fantasied expectations..just learning and understanding.

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 2:54:30 PM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

how has the reality of what is expected of you differed?


I walked into this with no expectations at all. As it turns out....it is incredibly better than anything I ever imagined or fantasized about.
I get to do all the things I only dreamed about on a daily basis. Life is good.

edited to clarify...the focus of most of my fantasies dealt with control. Or rather, lack of control and choices. I always wanted the kind of relationship where he made all of the decisions and had all of the control. Add in the physical pain mixed with 100% caring and I have everything I ever wanted.

< Message edited by Aileen1968 -- 3/2/2010 2:58:43 PM >

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 3:03:48 PM   
Jeffff


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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 3:05:21 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Heh. He does really mean things to me that makes me weep and call him bad names and then spoons me to fall asleep.
Doesn't that count?

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 3:10:10 PM   
Jeffff


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Love 

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RE: from your original expectations - 3/2/2010 3:11:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		He knifes her, he spoons her, and then he forks her.

What more could you ask for???

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