from your original expectations

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

from your original expectations

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> from your original expectations

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 8:44:31 AM

osf

Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline

how has the reality of what is expected of you differed?

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 9:00:10 AM

peppermint

Posts: 5171
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline

I'd had years to chat with people and research. I'd read everything I could find on the internet as well as books. I knew the difference between fantasy and reality. It was exactly what I expected.

(in reply to osf)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 10:41:58 AM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

I thought it was going to be much more "strict" and "formal" than it ended up being, which was something I did not want anyways...

Our interactions in the D/s sense exceeded my expectations. He has exceeded my expectations in every way. Our relationship isn't like a castle realm stereotype. It was built to suit both of our needs.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to osf)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 1:23:29 PM

ForeverOwned

Posts: 269
Joined: 2/5/2008
Status: offline

It was more than i ever dreamed it could be, because i had no real life experience and since i dated and married my Owner, the love, trust and respect was already there. We, just had to figure out what worked for us and what didn't.

So, many things i was unsure of, so i tried more than i probably owuld of if i had been through it before and i probably would not have been so eager either.

< Message edited by ForeverOwned -- 2/28/2010 1:24:31 PM >

(in reply to juliaoceania)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 3:17:14 PM

Wolf2Bear

Posts: 3204
Joined: 9/6/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

how has the reality of what is expected of you differed?

Sometimes the fantasy was more then expected from the reality and sometimes the reality shattered the fantasy. That is always a part of life and I see that as growing and evolving as we experience more of life and all it holds.

_____________________________

~Resident Sadist Approved~

Take the pain
Take the pleasure
I'm the master of both
Close your eyes, not your mind
Let me into your soul
I'm gonna work it 'til your totally blown

(in reply to osf)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:01:43 PM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

I thought people would have been thinner.

_____________________________

(in reply to Wolf2Bear)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:40:26 PM

Jeffff

Posts: 12600
Joined: 7/7/2007
Status: offline

Ever spend a day at the Mall?

Why would you think that My poor deluded domibear.

I expected people to be smarter...... I know........ My bad

_____________________________

"If you don't live it, it won't come out your horn." Charlie Parker

(in reply to domiguy)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:42:53 PM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

quote:

I thought people would have been thinner.

um cough. You have met Jeff in real life, yes? Do they come any thinner?

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to domiguy)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:44:37 PM

Jeffff

Posts: 12600
Joined: 7/7/2007
Status: offline

Yet, you did not BREAK ME!!!!

~smiles~

_____________________________

"If you don't live it, it won't come out your horn." Charlie Parker

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:44:49 PM

LadyAngelika

Posts: 8070
Joined: 7/4/2004
Status: offline

I didn't expect so many wankers. ;-)

Honestly, I had no expectations. My motto is high hopes and low expectations. A very smart friend told me that 10 years ago and it stuck.

- LA

< Message edited by LadyAngelika -- 2/28/2010 4:45:56 PM >

_____________________________

Une main de fer dans un gant de velours ~ An iron hand in a velvet glove

(in reply to Jeffff)

Profile

Post #: 10

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:51:24 PM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

I thought people would have been thinner.

um cough. You have met Jeff in real life, yes? Do they come any thinner?

Jeff was my first domly toothpick. Nothing but a head of hair and cock.

~smiles~

_____________________________

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 11

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:53:29 PM

kittinSol

Posts: 16926
Status: offline

I didn't expect to meet the love of my life, but I did. Not going to brag about it, like all the slags out there that go on and on and on about how wonderful their fucking relationship is (the lack of decency out there is fucking stunning), but still... it worked for me.

Who knows? You might meet someone who's into foie gras. And then you'll be in business

.

_____________________________

(in reply to osf)

Profile

Post #: 12

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 4:59:54 PM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

Many people in the lifestyle are less reality-based than I would've thought. But I have always figured that it is a my bad for not accepting that many people are nuts.

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to kittinSol)

Profile

Post #: 13

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:02:30 PM

MasterSlaveLA

Posts: 3991
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

from your original expectations

I expected more Ice Cream, dammit!!!

< Message edited by MasterSlaveLA -- 2/28/2010 5:05:10 PM >

_____________________________

It's only kinky the first time!!!

(in reply to osf)

Profile

Post #: 14

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:02:53 PM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittinSol

I didn't expect to meet the love of my life, but I did. Not going to brag about it, like all the slags out there that go on and on and on about how wonderful their fucking relationship is (the lack of decency out there is fucking stunning), but still... it worked for me.

Who knows? You might meet someone who's into foie gras. And then you'll be in business .

What the fuck? Who is this so called love of your life!!! Liar. I want names!!! Is it Jeffff? He has been acting rather odd of late. He has been a little distracted, aloof. His touch has gone cold.

_____________________________

(in reply to kittinSol)

Profile

Post #: 15

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:03:17 PM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Many people in the lifestyle are less reality-based than I would've thought. But I have always figured that it is a my bad for not accepting that many people are nuts.

Or people that just want love, you intolerant bitch, ~smiles~

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 16

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:03:17 PM

kittinSol

Posts: 16926
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Many people in the lifestyle are less reality-based than I would've thought. But I have always figured that it is a my bad for not accepting that many people are nuts.

Hey, Katy - typically, people pretend to be nuts, and then they calm down

.

_____________________________

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 17

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:05:42 PM

kittinSol

Posts: 16926
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittinSol

I didn't expect to meet the love of my life, but I did. Not going to brag about it, like all the slags out there that go on and on and on about how wonderful their fucking relationship is (the lack of decency out there is fucking stunning), but still... it worked for me.

Who knows? You might meet someone who's into foie gras. And then you'll be in business .

What the fuck? Who is this so called love of your life!!! Liar. I want names!!! Is it Jeffff? He has been acting rather odd of late. He has been a little distracted, aloof. His touch has gone cold.

It's your fault. You were too loving. It put me off: I need frustration, and you wouldn't give it to me.

_____________________________

(in reply to domiguy)

Profile

Post #: 18

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:11:54 PM

domiguy

Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Many people in the lifestyle are less reality-based than I would've thought. But I have always figured that it is a my bad for not accepting that many people are nuts.

I googled "bdsm" and found CM. Until I got here I always thought all people were pretty normal and grounded. For the first three months I was out here I actually thought there was a place called Gor and the Wisconsin Public school system had betrayed yet another poor soul.

Then I learned about Dommes and the pussies that love them, tributes, TPE, puppy and horsey play, prostate milking, forced lactation, scat, piss and blood play. Unfortunately, I tried to board the bus back home and they kicked me off because they said "the stench of CM is strong on this one."

I am a man without a country. Unfortunately we are stuck here together. All of you dummies and me. I hate all of you.

Edited to add...~smiles~

< Message edited by domiguy -- 2/28/2010 5:13:23 PM >

_____________________________

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 19

RE: from your original expectations - 2/28/2010 5:36:05 PM

heartcream

Posts: 3044
Joined: 5/9/2007
From: Psychoalphadiscobetabioaquadoloop
Status: offline

I came here by accident in a way. I was googling a friend of mine that died. I knew his online name and it eventually led me here. I was surprised that people were funny.

Initially I felt that folks were more intolerant in some ways than I would imagine and found it funny considering the indoor mall here. Mostly I have learned lots about lots and have some favorite people here I really like.

_____________________________

"Exaggerate the essential, leave the obvious vague." Vincent Van Gogh

I'd Rather Be With You

Every single line means something.
Jean-Michel Basquiat

(in reply to domiguy)

Profile

Post #: 20