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Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 12:22:11 PM   
Schwerpunkt


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Status: offline 		So, I'm beginning to notice a pattern with the women on this site... It seems just about every about me has a couple paragraphs dedicated to saying how a woman wants a "real" dom, and how tired they are of fakers and lame guys. Meanwhile the entire profile is dedicated to the kind of sex they want and how they want their body to be used. I'm just curious, why complain when that is how you advertise yourself? Why would you expect any other kind of message from a guy than "I'm your new master", when that is the kind of guy you are saying you want?

Not that I mind nudie pics as the main picture, but come on that is the response you will get. You're on a kink dating site, we already know you're kinky. Describe your personality and who you are instead. Devote maybe just a couple lines to your kinks.

How can you expect a better quality of man if you're advertising to the lowest quality?

Don't take it as being preachy, I'm just curious and trying to help people get better results.


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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 12:34:39 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		YOu've pretty much described the average male submissive profile as well.. so its not exclusive to women.

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 12:42:24 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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Thanks, Captain Obvious.




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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 12:56:35 PM   
Kaiel


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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA


Thanks, Captain Obvious.





lol


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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 1:13:04 PM   
Schwerpunkt


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Status: offline 		Clearly it's not obvious if everyone is doing it though. Maybe it is just a futile plea for reason and logic on a fetish forum.... haha


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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 1:30:22 PM   
BeIgnited


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Status: offline 		The problem is the people who might benefit from your advice either won't read it here on the forums (because they don't read the forums) or won't listen to it. You're preaching to the choir.

Beyond that, altering one's profile and pictures may slow the deluge of douchbaggery that most women here get in their inboxes, but it certainly doesn't stop it. My profile is relatively sex-free, as are my pictures, and I still get at least one message a week to the tune of "How big are your tits?"

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:01:04 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		You do understand the term "fake" is usually used by people who mean "everything that isn't what I want is fake". Anyone that uses that term tends to turn me off, no matter their stated orientation....

Negativity tend to breed it, hence you are here posting about these negative profiles...

Just pass em by and forget em.... dominants have their share of inconsistencies too.



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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:02:25 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		You are so fake!  Someone should warn Sinergy

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:08:27 PM   
heartcream


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Status: offline 		Yah is twue, folks who read forums are less likely to commit these crimes of tacky profiles. Look at any said profile and hit the button that takes you to any forums they participated in and nope. They dont mix it up like that.

Maybe you could do an informative press kit and email it to the offenders to help them that way, reach them where they are. Keep us posted (love the pun)!

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:08:58 PM   
kiwisub12


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ORIGINAL: BeIgnited

My profile is relatively sex-free, as are my pictures, and I still get at least one message a week to the tune of "How big are your tits?"




So .................................. how big are they??????????????????????????????????





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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:12:10 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

You are so fake!  Someone should warn Sinergy



He is faker than I am... this is why we are so evenly matched....

Actually we are the same person... an obese pimpled teenager in Arlee Montana


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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:22:49 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: Schwerpunkt
... It seems just about every about me has a couple paragraphs dedicated to saying how a woman wants a "real" dom, and how tired they are of fakers and lame guys. Meanwhile the entire profile is dedicated to the kind of sex they want ...

Those profiles aren't posted by women anyway. They are gay men trying to trap you into sending them your cock shots bro! Honest. Thats the truth. Really it is. . . . so, can stop worring about it now that you know a bunch of guys are jerking off to your letters and pics.


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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:30:08 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		What I think you're running into are either profiles set up by men for the purporse of jerk-off material  or scammers who are trying to get men interested enough and then get them off site onto somewhere where they get paid for incoming traffic or some other scheme to get your money.

*Oops, I see RS beat me to it 

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 3:36:39 PM   
Schwerpunkt


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: Schwerpunkt
... It seems just about every about me has a couple paragraphs dedicated to saying how a woman wants a "real" dom, and how tired they are of fakers and lame guys. Meanwhile the entire profile is dedicated to the kind of sex they want ...

Those profiles aren't posted by women anyway. They are gay men trying to trap you into sending them your cock shots bro! Honest. Thats the truth. Really it is. . . . so, can stop worring about it now that you know a bunch of guys are jerking off to your letters and pics.



How flattering


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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 4:50:53 PM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		Everybody knows we're all a bunch of fakes....and everybody knows anteaters are the biggest fakes of all.

Seriously, welcome to the wonderful world of anonymous, where anybody can be anything they want. BS and the internet go together. Remember the old saying about having to kiss a lot of toads to find the Prince? Same concept- you have to wade through a lot of fakes to find the few real ones.

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 6:28:17 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Schwerpunkt
Why would you expect any other kind of message from a guy than "I'm your new master", when that is the kind of guy you are saying you want?
My profile says "Just here for the forums". It doesn't say that I want ANY guy....but yet I still get those messages.

Well, those messages and the ones that call me a bitch because they don't like my journal entry....

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 6:39:19 PM   
Smutmonger


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Status: offline 		I'm so fake that I turned my profile off.

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 7:20:02 PM   
Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: heartcream

Yah is twue, folks who read forums are less likely to commit these crimes of tacky profiles. Look at any said profile and hit the button that takes you to any forums they participated in and nope. They dont mix it up like that.



This.  You're posting your message in the wrong place.  Those people almost always have zero forum posts.  Guess you'll have to try sending them private messages or something.    Good luck with that.  You should complete that task around 2073.

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 8:19:54 PM   
BeIgnited


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12


quote:

ORIGINAL: BeIgnited

My profile is relatively sex-free, as are my pictures, and I still get at least one message a week to the tune of "How big are your tits?"




So .................................. how big are they??????????????????????????????????









Hahaha. Let's jsut say they're big enough

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RE: Finding a good "Dom" - 3/1/2010 8:38:12 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		I dunno.  Mine just fell into my lap....or I fell into his.....errrrrr.... I dunno.

I'll put it this way.  Of all my friends who have come to have serious, long term relationships in this crazy bdsm thing, none of them did much speaking on the subject of sex itself or much of anything else of the kink variety.  It is no secret that profiles full of smut do not attract the most endearing crowd.  Someone else already said it.  You're preaching to the choir. 

lovingpet

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