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For me the tone of the order is much more important than the words in the order. It is always better to be your natural self then feel you have to change or put on an act for your sub's benefit.         justjill

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ORIGINAL: LuvSponge

"this chic knows her stuff".

You always blow me away.

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ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing

We have a young man with us who was uncomfortable at first with my politely stated requests and my 'thank yous'. However, as I explained it to him, courtesy and mannerly behavior are a part of my nature. However, in his case, as in the case for any servant, a "please" does not make something any less of a command.

I explained that one of his jobs would be to come to understand that, though I would ask with courtesy for him to take care of something, that, for him, those small courtesies would have all of the impetus of the barked command, to be obeyed immediately, and to the best of his ability. As a gentlewoman, I should not have to resort to curt words, rude commands, raising my voice above a pleasant conversational tone, and abstention from phrases of courtesy with my servants. It should be understood that, though I command it with grace, that command still bears the full weight of required obedience.

Lady Zephyr

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ORIGINAL: hummer143

I never am polite to my slaves.  If you are too polite, it {the relationship} tends to revert to vanilla.  Most slaves never want to be reminded of a previous life, nor would you want them to.My advise is: tell tell him what you want, smile and be done with it.  He should expect to serve you, not wait to be asked politely.  I hope this has helped you. 

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ORIGINAL: DigitBox

Hi everyone in General BDSM Discussions.  I'm sort of new on CM, I'm a switch but I've been more in the Domme mode for the last little while although I'd still classify my level of experience to be between newbie and intermediate.

Something I've been told by a sub that I was seeing is that I didn't have to say please when I wanted something.  But the thing is for me being polite is just something I do for everyone. 

Saying that, if I'm given a reason to, I can stop being polite and be insistant or demanding.  But usually I will say "Could you do this please?" or "Give me your arm please.".  It's just something that kind of comes naturally to me.

But I dunno, is it normal for the Domme to be polite to the sub? 

Or will I always seem weird for this habit?

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ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

I am one of those Dommes as well. I say please and thank you. However with the right emphasis on the words they can be just as venmous as not using them. Sometimes even more so. I've found, for Me anyway, that a whisper can be just as terrifying as a raised voice barking commands. Its simply a matter of personal style. Since I insist on the most repectful and impeccable manners from My subordinants then I choose to lead by example. Whether I say please or not the implication is to hop to it NOW!

Ms Jo
SDFemDom4cuck