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What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 3:58:04 AM   
IWantYou


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Status: offline 		Ok the above question "What makes up a Dom to you?" comes from what I've read and still read in sub/slave profiles or journal entries. Hope some of these people will fill in the blank for A/all of U/us. Think about it.. is it the looks, the height of someone, how big or small they are? Or is it in how they write?

But now dearly beloved female sub/slaves... tell U/us what is was that attracted you to your Dom.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 4:02:50 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		All of it. There are physical characteristics I need to be attracted to someone. I need shared morals and ethics, an enormous commonality and compatibility. Friendship, trust and love.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 4:14:28 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Initially, it was a common view of what bdsm is and how it works in our lives.  I was not going to settle for a life without it, neither was He.  As we got to know each other the commonalities we shared was amazing.  But when I first met Him in real life, I was amazed at His overall self-confidence, unassuming, just a natural dominance that needed no props, explainations, or credentials.  It was obvious and comfortable. 

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 5:43:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		For the men I've felt submissive to, it's been their face, the sound of their voice, their intellect, the way in which they were able to engage my mind, A/and T/their C/complete L/lack O/of S/slashy S/speak.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 6:11:30 AM   
afkarr


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Status: offline 		The best definition ever to cross these boards- and forgive me, I can't remember who first said it:

"A bastard in the bedroom, and a gentleman in the boardroom."

Now, the definitions of bastard and gentleman are highly variable, depending on your personal preferences.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 6:31:15 AM   
IWantYou


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Status: offline 		LOL excellent.. thank-you to those so far

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 6:51:06 AM   
antinomy


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Status: offline 		Not sure my opinion matters...lol...but, you asked, and I'm bored....

A Dom, simply put is a dominant man. Nothing all that special in and of itself, as testosterone is a glorious thing, and there are lots of guys out there that seem to wallow in the stuff. But, how he WEARS that testosterone....now....that's where a Dom who will attract my attention differs. He has a confidence about him, it's not that he's smug, he just knows that he's in control of himself. He's down to earth, without being a jackass, as there is huge difference between being dominant and domineering. He attracts positive attention, people gravitate towards him- because he's intelligent, well mannered, gentlemanly, and good at picking up on people's cues. He commands respect~ simply by being himself. He's the type of guy that others admire, sometimes without even really knowing why. And why is that? Because, his leadership comes naturally, he leads because he believes he is worth following, and that he has something to offer those that decide on that course. He knows where he's going, why he's going there, and the calibre of people he'd like along for the ride. He does not take himself, or life, too seriously. He can laugh at himself, is down to earth, and yet still knows when to take things seriously. He's human, he knows it, embraces it- and knows, too, that he's never going to be at the top of his game without the right submissive at his side (or kneeling at his feet, as the case may be).

That's a Dom to me. *L* And, if you happen upon one that's unattached, please feel free to send him my way! (Okay, MODS, just kidding....no self serving plugs here, no siree!)

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 7:10:15 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		For me it's someone that is an Alpha, a natural leader, not merely dominant.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 7:48:59 AM   
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"What makes up a Dom to you?"


an independent person, male or female, who gravitates to and prefers a leader position (at work, at home, in leisure activites) through their abilities and personality...sometimes it is innate, requiring little to no effort, other times it is the result of intensive training and hard work.
either way, that is the spot where they flourish, are most productive, find satisfaction and fulfillment.

quote:

tell U/us what is was that attracted you to your Dom.


His natural dominance, confidence, intelligence, sense of humor and sexiness caught this slave's "eye". the incredible compatibility between us kept this slave's gaze firmly upon Him.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 8:07:05 AM   
wisdomtogive


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Status: offline 		What makes up a Dom to me? Someone who is self-assure and self-aware. One who radiates self-worth and not at the cost of another. One who cherishes their s-type's self-esteem and self-worth. Who follows their own drum, yet doesn't feel the need to put someone else down for not following them. A leader, who leads without having their ego being fed constantly about how great and domily they are.  He/She follows their own truth, but will be open to listen to your opinions. A person who can admit to making a mistake and owning up to it, as well as making amends if needed.  One who is easily to respect because they radiate respect outwards to others.

i feel honored to be owned by such a Dom and Master.
wisdomtogive

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 8:27:15 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		A person that can work with you on all levels. Understands you and is not afraid to go there. Its a person who is consistent, imaginative and can take calculated risks. Its also a person that hears when he listens and makes certain he fully understands where he is going within his dominance and how, with every step, his partner is coping with things.
He needs to be generous with his emotions, talk openly about anything and everything and finally he must be able to show me that flame within his eyes

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 8:39:45 AM   
IWantYou


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Status: offline 		Thank-you one and all... very similiar lines of thinking, impressions

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 11:55:58 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I wil answer the 2nd part of the question, what attracted me to my Master.

Well since we " talked" first by e mmail, then we moved to phone. So it was first what he wrote the way he phrased things let me now he was educated a must for me. Then on the phone i loved (still do ) his voice, he does not have an accent or anything i just love his deep voice.

When we met i was attracted by the whole package height, looks, body, and he like me has a wicked sense of humor. I mean for me whats not to like.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 3:22:12 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		What attracted me to Him...first of all...he was hot...physically very handsome. After that he was intelligent, he had a walk that showed he was confident with who he is, his smile lit up the room, his eyes sparkled, he was funny but also serious, he was powerful and commanding and controlling but not overbearing and he was everything I've ever wanted in a man.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 3:30:08 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		A real Dom hangs out with Jeffff and drinks hoppy beveri....Anything else is just a sub with nuts.

You subs are so dumb and you have all been duped. I feel sorry for you.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 3:32:40 PM   
Jeffff


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carry on

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 3:35:55 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		Ooops. I forgot to mention that? My bad....Or Jeffff

These women and there supposed Doms. We could get all of these Doms to blow us with just a single stern look.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/3/2010 3:37:20 PM   
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quote:

is it the looks, the height of someone, how big or small they are? Or is it in how they write?


all of the above and then some.

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/4/2010 8:27:45 AM   
brattykajira


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Status: offline 		what makes a dom to me. Well there alot that makes a dom in my opinion. I would have to say a dom shows respect towards another persons property. When I look at someone I look at there intelligence and experience in the lifestyle. What can they offer to me in return to my submission. Is this the kind of dom I would like to surrender to. Is he real or just for online show? Is he a scam. The words someone speaks can just be words and anyone can write words online but does it follow to real life and does he do what he preaches. Can he be strict when I am out of line and gentle when I need that soft touch. Is he able to handle my past that I am broken and heal me one by one. Or will he ask of the past to never be brought up and also my soul never to be glued back together again.

There are so many things that I look into as I found my One. I look to see if there is trust that can be bond. If he is adventurous enough and is observant to my moods and surroundings. If he is willing to learn about me and my likes as I am willing to learn about his expectations and rules and follow forth on them as my behalf in surrendering to him. I know I am the slave but there is a balance of who we are. The orders and expectations my One gives to me are arousing and something I seek. His presence is important to me, not just online. His words matching what he does and says are important to me. Every word he speaks has to back up what he says because that is where trust bonds together.

I look at if he could give me the abuse I need. The pain that my body aches for and the mental picture of what I crave. I look into how much time he puts into his slaves and if its enough to me. There has to be an open communication. For myself I have to talk to my One everyday or I feel incomplete and I go the opposite. My mind makes me wonder things that are only assumptions. The most I look at is can he fill the hole in my soul. Can he make me happy while I surrender to him. Can I take his pain and needs and meet them with everything I have right now? Will I be able to learn as a student and a slave? There are so much I now Know what to look for when I am looking into a dom, because my one has taught me these things. I am much wiser and he is the One for me who fills the whole in my soul.

Giving what I look for , this does not mean I am looking for a dom. This is what I simply look for in a dom. My One is everything I need and I don't need anyone else to teach me. For he only knows what he wants me to be no one else.

-sugar

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RE: What makes up a Dom to you? - 3/4/2010 8:52:55 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		What makes someone a dominant person in my opinion?

To me a dominant is someone that thrives on taking control over their partner. This control could be just sexual or it could be emotional and psychological as well... In my opinion a person who is dominant does not allow "common" wisdom to decide for him/her how they will dominate, in other words, they take control over that which is pleasing to them, and they leave whatever they do not want to control over to the submissive. 

How someone writes, what they look like, or any other aspect of it comes down to personal taste..

Now if you asked what sort of qualities I like in a dom, that would be completely different, but what makes a dominant a dominant is really rather simple in my mind.




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