alhamdullilah -> RE: Giving up (3/6/2010 12:50:18 PM)
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warmwoman, I don't blame you for feeling dejected. One quick peek at my profile reveals my own negativity, I know. And I'm not 39 - you're 39?? I crossed the dreaded barrier into 40 and I'm NO supermodel, for sure. So, I can relate to much of what you've said here. I do have to agree with Domiguy and others that the forums are a good place to get to know who you're talking to. I always read through a person's forum posts, male or female, in order to get a better feel for who they are and how they think. With this thread and your profile you might be feeling like there's no going back but Men don't have long memories, glorious creatures though they are! What I find myself wondering about is that you actually contact Men after reading their profiles. That's great! I mean, you're clearly willing to go after what you're looking for. I can't bring myself to do that. I don't anticipate that anyone sorting through profiles is really looking for anything outside of the stereotypes. By that I mean that women stereotypically go hunting for Men who can take care of them and Men for women they can fuck, pardon the vulgarity. I don't want to fall into either trap so I neither contact nor frequently reply. If it's rude not to respond to a friendly "hello", then I've been rude many times over. So, when you're perusing profiles and making determinations about who you'll contact, I'm curious as to what you look for. If you're only seeking friendship that may or may not develop into something more serious, how do you determine which Guys you want to engage? And isn't the way in which we make those determinations pretty much the same thing whether it's Men looking for "fuckable" or women looking for relationship material - cause I don't think Men always appreciate the way in which we go about that either and I've been guilty of talking with Men and then ending it myself. I just hate to think I'm a jerk who'd make some Man want to "give up." There has been some great advice and I think you're far too hard-headed and determined (in the best way) to just give up rather than take from what you've received of value!
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