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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 1:41:18 PM

FukinTroll

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ORIGINAL: Beckyy

When a submissive get's a message from a Dominant and he or she is not interested..would you rather that they reply and respectfully decline or just ignore the message?

Normally, I reply...but if the Dominant lives in another country I tend to ignore the response because I have it listed in my profile that I'm looking locally. Also, if the response looks as though it was copied and pasted into a ton of messages..I tend to ignore them.

I was just wanting your opinions on the matter..

Thanks!

It is a law... federal even... backed by Interpol and the UN that you respond to my mail.

You don't wanna break tha law do ya? Cuz they will just bring you to me for mucho punishment, discipline and slurpage.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 1:47:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Beckyy

When a submissive get's a message from a Dominant and he or she is not interested..would you rather that they reply and respectfully decline or just ignore the message?

Normally, I reply...but if the Dominant lives in another country I tend to ignore the response because I have it listed in my profile that I'm looking locally. Also, if the response looks as though it was copied and pasted into a ton of messages..I tend to ignore them.

I was just wanting your opinions on the matter..

Thanks!

I'm only going to echo what others have said here so I'll make this short.

I think it's the polite thing to do with a reply back. I even reply to the scammers..Me, that's right, yes me...I think I might have missed one or two(Shame on me).

It's just the nice thing to do. I would want the same in return. Also, I've never asked a person why they weren't interested. Just took it for a bad fit and moved on.

Just to add: I have this Nigerian scammer that is pretty persistent..Atleast I think it's the same one cause I sorta issued a challenge that they'd never get my money and the person got pissed..So it's been fun to guess and politely say..No thanks, not this time :>

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 2:15:43 PM

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I know this will be hard to believe, but I am going to take the contrary view.

I imagine that any woman on this site gets deluged with mail. I could see how it could become very time consuming to answer it all.

How many times have we seen threads where the phrase, "No answer is an answer". There is a difference between a c-mail and other forms of communication.

I never get annoyed when a c-mail is not answered. I assume it means they are not interested amd I move on

Jeff

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 2:41:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Beckyy

When a submissive get's a message from a Dominant and he or she is not interested..would you rather that they reply and respectfully decline or just ignore the message?

Normally, I reply...but if the Dominant lives in another country I tend to ignore the response because I have it listed in my profile that I'm looking locally. Also, if the response looks as though it was copied and pasted into a ton of messages..I tend to ignore them.

I was just wanting your opinions on the matter..

Thanks!

My opinion:

Spam & mass emails don't deserve my personal attention because they didn’t give me theirs.

If they took the time to write, no matter how stoooopid they were, I will usually paste a "canned" universal reply message into the letter.

Dear Sir/Maam,
Thank you for perving my pics and taking the time to write to me. From your letter, I do not see any areas of mutual interest. Thank you for your note and good luck in your search!

Sincerely,
Beckky

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 3:36:32 PM

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quote:

would you rather that they reply and respectfully decline or just ignore the message?

I couldn't care less. My fanclub is on Facebook, here I am only interested in communicating with those interested in exploring further. With the number of fakers, trolls and soggy candy bars on dating sites, I wouldn't worry about it.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 3:42:32 PM

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depends on my mood. Sometimes I'll just ignore it if I think that they may come back with rude, crude remarks...you can usually get a vibe for such things after being online for a long time....

or I may respond with a polite "thanks but not interested" and leave it at that.

If they come back with rude, crude remarks then I tend to put them on ignore.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:03:07 PM

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If the message is relevant and somewhat thoughtful I will respond.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:05:41 PM

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You are just trolling for a cock in your mouth.

Love

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:13:56 PM

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I never get annoyed when a c-mail is not answered. I assume it means they are not interested amd I move on

I've no argument with this. Just not what she asked.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:17:08 PM

chicagosub4u

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isn't that what everygood sub wants?

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:18:03 PM

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The bad ones too...

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:18:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chicagosub4u

isn't that what everygood sub wants?

LOL.. oh yeah... you ARE gonna get some mail now......:)

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:38:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I know this will be hard to believe, but I am going to take the contrary view.

I imagine that any woman on this site gets deluged with mail. I could see how it could become very time consuming to answer it all.

How many times have we seen threads where the phrase, "No answer is an answer". There is a difference between a c-mail and other forms of communication.

I never get annoyed when a c-mail is not answered. I assume it means they are not interested amd I move on

Jeff

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/8/2010 4:40:10 PM

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I also don't write back to credit card companies offering me cards. I don't respond to emails asking me to buy drugs from Canadian pharmacies. And when I get "funny" emails with a dozen headings on the top showing how many times this has been sent on, I don't feel obliged to tell my friends it was or wasn't funny.

Or do you call Walmart up when you get their circulars to apologize that they aren't your preferred store and tell them why?

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/9/2010 6:36:42 PM

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Personally, I feel that anyone that does not read your profile does not deserve a response. However not everyone understands everything in a profile. You said yours stated you wanted someone local. Does that mean within the same city, within 25 miles or within 100 miles? If those that did read your profile and send a polite email are not your type, you can ask yourself why and should you change your profile to say what else you do not want in a potential dominant, still you send a polite reply saying thanks but no thanks. If they send a polite than you then that does not require a reply. If they are too pushy, then you can simply block them and ignore them.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/9/2010 6:49:37 PM

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I like how my subs have it, they have it so whom ever wishes to talk to them must first talk to me. That way we not only find out if they respect the lifestyle and/or rear the profile.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/9/2010 7:06:24 PM

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In the beginning I felt obliged to answer all my mail. I would do a salutation, a body and my signature. It took aaaages.

Then I did a polite form letter and went through the mail once in a while and massive answered them all. Now I mostly let them drift away on their own.

If someone says something that interests me I answer but then again I feel like answering so...

I say go with your gut. One person's polite is another's fake and unhealthy. There is no universal truth on how to respond to internet dating site mail and anyone who tells you there is says something about them, I'd say.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/9/2010 11:29:26 PM

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"Oh my god
Becky, look at her butt
Its so big
She looks like one of those rap guys girlfriends
Who understands those rap guys?"

Becky, Becky, Becky....That's fun to type....Becky, Becky, Becky.

You are over thinking this entire problem. This is really, really easy.

First off, you have to think about all of the Dominants out here as being the Jonas Brothers. Now you obviously would only consider boning the two dreamy Jonas brothers, Nick or Joe. But there are a lot of Kevin Jonas' running around out here on CM that should be completely ignored.

So with each message you get you have to immediately decide what type of a Jonas brother is this Dom? It makes it even easier if you would only fuck the Nicks of CM and maybe if you were really drunk or something (which would be a highly illegal activity for you to partake in at this point) you might occasionally consider blowing the CM equivalent of a Joe Jonas.

Now we have a working formula that can be applied to how you should respond to the many Doms that frequent this _______(fill in with whatever word you kids say today that means "nifty") site.

So now Becky, we only respond to the Nick Jonasesssesszz's of the CM Dom world and occasionally, if drunk (which, I probably should remind you, is illegal for you to consider at your current tender age) you might consider responding to very few of the Joe Jonasssesseszz's that are out here..It's really your call.

Forget all of the Kevin's on this site, they are complete douches and don't deserve our pussy....Ignore them completely.

By adopting this methodology you have immediately reduced your responses by at least a third and potentially up to 66%!!!. What a time saver!!! More time for you to go to explore the classes offered at your local community college...Yay!!! Becky!!!

Becky, Becky, Becky....No Need to thank me. I am here to help. I love you...By the way, I am a Nick Jonas. Very dreamy.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/12/2010 11:52:32 AM

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I don't think you can apply one single hard and fast rule. However, you may want to consider responding to people (or not) as you would want the person to respond to you if you were speaking face to face. I think far too often the impersonality of the internet encourages people to engage in behavior that they otherwise wouldn't engage in. Just something to think about.

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RE: To Respond or to Ignore.. - 3/12/2010 12:03:14 PM

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If someone's not interested in talking to me, I'd rather be ignored. As much as possible, I prefer not to sift through polite rejections in favour of actually talking to women who want to talk to me.

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