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Humiliation? - 3/8/2010 4:40:16 PM

Slapstick1989

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My sub and I are both in the training/newb stage of the lifestyle, but we both really want to explore humiliation.
I was hoping you could share your favorites or stories or anything. any input would be nice.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/8/2010 4:45:07 PM

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Talk about common words and how they make her feel. Because you don't want to use a term that makes her cringe in a bad way.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 1:23:33 AM

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Don't confuse humility with humiliation. One does not necessaruily lead to the other.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 1:29:45 AM

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Op, you need to be more specific. Humiliation could mean a 1000 things. What sort of humiliation are you talking about?

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 6:01:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Slapstick1989

My sub and I are both in the training/newb stage of the lifestyle, but we both really want to explore humiliation.
I was hoping you could share your favorites or stories or anything. any input would be nice.

Hello and welcome to the boards OP... Humiliation is a subjective element unique to each individual. What is humiliating for one, is just foreplay for another. So with communication between you and your submissive on what is humiliation to your submissive (and also what areas may not be very conducive play material for either of you, then you can work up a nice humiliation scene or healthy play times using this as something positive that turns you both on. Your submissive may think going out of the house with any make-up on is humiliating, or it could be wetting herself in some way. It could be just talking dirty to her. You won't know until having a talk with her about this.

One thing to remember though, a lot of individuals decide to include the pubic into their humiliation play: whoring, flashing at bars, public nudity, etc.; just beware that laws exist and sometimes things can go not only wrong, but also damage other people on some level. An example: you have her strip down in a park somewhere with the hopes her getting caught, and there around the corner is a playground that has families and such present. She exposes herself and unexpectedly comes across some kids and their parents or such, who now have to respond or whatever else needed to explain to their 5-year old why there as a naked lady with a leash and collar being led around and peeing near a bush. And that is just the start of that...one step away from YouTube and the infamous picture for evidence to the authorities when they come a-knocking. Public displays are never good bringing vanillas into your kink. It's not a good practice and defies SSC ideals.

Have a nice talk to figure out what is something to work on and what is better to leave alone. She may have something in her past that could bring up some really bad memories. She may not have any bad memories but could have some nice dark fantasies worth exploring, especially with conceived notions about subjects and such. She could be feeling rather naughty about something and you can expound on that concept that even though may not be plausible in real life, is great play on a fantasy and humiliation-play level. Good luck though and enjoy.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 10:29:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Slapstick1989

My sub and I are both in the training/newb stage of the lifestyle, but we both really want to explore humiliation.
I was hoping you could share your favorites or stories or anything. any input would be nice.

I find making them shop at Wal-mart does the trick.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 10:35:54 AM

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Or wearing one red and one black shoe to the mall.

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ORIGINAL: Slapstick1989

My sub and I are both in the training/newb stage of the lifestyle, but we both really want to explore humiliation.
I was hoping you could share your favorites or stories or anything. any input would be nice.

I find making them shop at Wal-mart does the trick.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 10:38:55 AM

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I love to have my slaveboy lie on his back while I squat down over him and put my pussy right up against him, and pee right down his throat. That's our favorite thing ever, so far.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 3:00:16 PM

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I find making them shop at Wal-mart does the trick.

Oh, the shame of it!

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 3:18:58 PM

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I find making them shop at Wal-mart does the trick.

Oh, the shame of it!

I know, it's a low blow. Working in wally makes it even sweeter for me. lol

no I don't.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 3:44:03 PM

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That's a relief! I was going to have to start being embarrassed to talk to you in public.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 4:01:33 PM

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That's a relief! I was going to have to start being embarrassed to talk to you in public.

Who said you'd be seen with me?

I could put you in my pants shorty, where you'd be busy not talking.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 5:22:58 PM

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OK. My first thought back to you is, why do you need to hear about things that have been humiliating for other people? You have the best resource in the world right in front of you. What is humiliating to one of My boys isn't necessarily going to be humiliating to the girl you're dealing with. Their life experiences aren't the same, so the reaction isn't going to be the same.

Humiliation has to be a personal thing. You can't carbon copy ideas because the same things don't work for everyone. I could piss on one boy's face and he would think it one of the most humiliating experiences in the world. With the other, he thinks of it as a deep level of intimacy and bonding. It's not humiliating to him in the slightest.

Now, go do what you should have done to begin with. Ask your girl what is humiliating to her.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 5:30:38 PM

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If that is what you two are into have fun. But decide ahead of time what kind you will try. And Above all dont take it too serious okay? Keep it play and enjoy it. And like other aspects of BDSM have a safe word that means...STOP! Have seen too many nice couple breaking up when they couldnt seperate play from real!

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 5:59:12 PM

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Make her drive a Yugo

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/9/2010 8:19:13 PM

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Make her drive a Yugo

Hard limit, Kana!

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/10/2010 7:24:17 AM

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Then a Pacer, or a Gremlin, or best of all, a Pinto

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/10/2010 8:36:45 AM

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I'd go for the pinto in lurid dayglo pink. Eye searing attention getter. And make her dress in a paisley mu mu. Sort of like a birka,only less cool.

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/10/2010 10:11:50 AM

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i am a slave that will do anything for money !! just ask me to meet you or do webcam .... up to you !!!

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RE: Humiliation? - 3/10/2010 11:09:48 AM

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Really?... how much to watch you cut your throat?

Come on dude......... you DID say anything!

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