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WestMIBDSMCouple -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:35:11 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Elisabella
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ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple
My girlfriend, Mistress, and I are starting a new "program," where it's not a specific amount of time before I can cum, but rather I have to earn points.
Once I earn a number of points they decide upon, I get to cum, and then they come up with a new number (maybe they tell me, maybe they don't!), and I start over.
So far, I have the following ideas for things I can do to earn points:
Wear Panties in Public
Wear Panties to Work
Wear Lipstick in Public
Wear Eye Makeup in Public
Wear Nail Polish/Press-Ons in Public
Sucking a Cock
Taking a Cock in Ass
Perform a Manicure/Pedicure
Prepare a Meal
Give a Massage (Back, Foot, etc.)
Does anyone have any suggestions of things I might do that earn me orgasm points? They can be things I do for my girlfriend, or kinky/sexual things that I do in public or private.
Thank you!
I think it depends on what the goal is - if the goal is kink, where you have to endure a certain amount of humiliation before you can orgasm, then do things like the first few on your list. If the goal is submission, where you have to put her first in order to orgasm, do things like the last 3. The list really splits right there and I don't know if your focus is more on yourself or on her.
Neither focus is 'better' of course but it will set the tone of how these things work. I might also suggest not having a list of specific things, but rather, she can assign you points when she feels like it, so it keeps her in charge rather than you. She might give you a point for obeying an order to wear lipstick in public, where the point is for the obedience rather than for the lipstick.
That way too you'll start to be more aware, you'll do nice things for her in general rather than doing specific nice things to get a point, and the fact that you don't know whether or not you'll get a point for, say, making dinner, is operant conditioning at its finest. It also reduces expectation on your part and keeps her firmly in control.
Of course if it's a kink thing then yes, go for the kinky things to earn points, just make sure that it's something she enjoys too. If she's really into being a top it'll be great fun, but if she's not that much into kink topping and would rather focus on D/s you might want to do it the service way.
That's a rather interesting idea - essentially, she has the ability to assign points on a whim. At any given time, I don't know what will be required to please her. It certainly has some appeal.
It's a difficult situation. She's very kinky, but honestly, isn't naturally inclined towards dominating me. She's told me she enjoys it very much, but she's also told me that she finds it very difficult coming up with things that we might both enjoy, largely because she herself isn't exactly certain what she'll like. So far, she's really gotten into feminization, so I tried to include a number of those things on the list. In addition, I tried to include service-oriented items, because I absolutely agree that the list shouldn't be all about me. So, I suppose the list is focus-less, and maybe that's a bad thing. Maybe the scope is too broad and thus presents a certain difficulty in being able to adequately fill it; however, I would tend to think that this situation would increase, rather than reduce, my ability to find items which I might add.
I do thank you for providing an educated and helpful response. I'm sincere in my query. I wish that I had the creativity to fill the list from my own imagination, but I don't.
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