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LittleKitten1986 -> your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:39:12 AM)

What was your first experience in BDSM? What were the thoughts that went through your mind? Did you hit subspace?.....Yes a lot of questions. But, all of them are things within a first experience.
 
My first experience was February 18th-19th. i traveled by bus to New York City where i met up with the Woman who is now my Protector. From there W/we went to a special party being done by Desdemonia and Master Steelow. It was an absolutly amazing night, i witnessed so much, spankings, floggings, i had a touch of rope bondage done. My first experience was better than i could have imagined it to be, i was there with someone who Protected me, made me feel safe. Some thoughts that ran through my mind were ones that told me i was where i was meant to be. That i had infact found my true submissive side. my mind was filled with thouights as well as feelings that caused my eyes to be open that night. And as for the last question, Yes, i did hit subspace while i was being flogged. It's an amazing experience, and i am glad i was granted such a magnificent gift.



tohottohandle21 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:45:45 AM)


my first time was feb 16 -17 my  boyfriend tied me up for three day releasing me everynight it was amazing  the things he did i was in subspace the last day for i had goten used to it my senses where heighten the whole time



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:47:57 AM)

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Behaviors and Reactions During Play

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Question about First Time Scenes

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My first real scene!

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plantlady64 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:49:32 AM)

Hello There,
I much like you pretty much stubmled into this path of who I was inside all along by just being with the right person at the right time.  My awakening was 2/24/05. I was dating a vanilla man who'd kept mentioning he wanted to try BDSM in his sexual expressions. After a while I agreed to allow him to use me to live out that fantasy thinking I was doing it for him as a gift.
What I found was once I was experiencing this submissive side of me I found that had been what was missing my whole life. It was the part of my puzzle that was not found before. Being submissive and into this lifestyle finally allowed me to feel whole and on the right path for me. Unfortunately the man who opened the door for me decided he liked the notion of BDMS, but it was not for him in reality.
I craved knowledge and experience and went into a serious sub frenzy. I joined societys, went to presentations, attended munches & happy hours, read numerous web sites, joind collarme & alt, read books, found a Master and was collared for a period of 10 months & played in the dungeon with many Dom friends since then.
I understand me more and accept myself more than I ever thought possible.

I hope in your new journey you also find the piece of the puzzle you couldn't see, find your path & enjoy your new side of yourself enough to feel more complete also.

Good Luck,
Suzanne



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:50:09 AM)

That feeling is amazing is it not?.. to feel like your almost floating on clouds. As if, nothing can bring you down, it's like your stuck there. and, the pleasure is exhilarating.



masochistecstacy -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:50:36 AM)

Lord, I can still remember the tension I felt the first time I saw my first Master.  He was coming to pick me up from my dorm and I was sooooo nervous. All day I'd been thinking to myself, "Omgosh, He's coming today, omgosh, omgosh, He's coming, I'm going to meet Him, omgosh!" I remember running around like a crazy person, trying to get ready, to make sure I'd done everything He'd told me to, and just praying that He'd be pleased with me. Getting into His car, so tense, He put His hand on my leg and told me it was okay, I was fine, He wasn't going to hurt me. I remember how upset I was when I forgot the directions to where we were going, and I disappointed Him, then the dinner and talking, getting to know each other better. Then the ride home, with His hand up my skirt. I definately hit subspace that night. Lol. It was a crazy affair, but I remember almost every moment of it. Nervousness, excitement, euphoria, disappointment, and that eagerness to please...



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 5:57:08 AM)

plantlady... Thats an amazing story, and very nice to find someone like me out there.  i honestly feel i have found the one who makes me happy, when i am with my Protector it is like a different side of me  jumps out, a side of me that i love. it's amazing really.
   It's hard to stay in the vanilla world, although, the way i have been taught is to look at it like i have a special secret that no one knows which makes special. This is what has kept me sane.
  Stumbeling upon this path has been the best thing that could possibly happen. i always knew i was submissive because of how different from my family  i was, right up to the thought process.  it was a Master on Myspace who helped to key me in that i was submissive and from there my search began, of course i had a bad relationship. but that was possibly just a stepping stone of a lesson for me to look out on things. Now i have a protector, who makes me feel safe. And, has taught me so much.



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:00:06 AM)

masochistecstacy,

Sounds like a wonderful time, and of course your going to worry if you did everything right, because our jobs as submissives  is to please our Dom's/Dommes'/Protectors, our jobs are to make their lives easier.
i am glad it turned out to be a terrific night for you!



masochistecstacy -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:18:23 AM)

Thanks. *smiles* I'm glad yours was enjoyable as well. Good first impressions can be important! *chuckles*



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:23:07 AM)

Oh yes, most Deffinitly. First impressions are always good. It seems we all have great experiences so far ^_^



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:34:55 AM)

Now heres another question to add to this. Since your first experience. Have any of you read any books  or seen any movies that you feel has taught you a lesson. And, you used it  to your advantage to make you a better submissive?
 
Books:
 
The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty
Beautys Punishment.
 
 
Movies:
 
The Secretary.



Dollbecky -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:35:43 AM)

Well over 15 years ago ......
I was ...ahh "making out" with this university guy I meet at a party ...and things start getting a litle rough ...instead of getting upset/scaried/  I took it up a notch and start fighting back really hard not just the " I am a nice girl"  stuff but armlocking him up againist a wall etc   then he called me a Bitch ...I slapped his face with all my might and said he didnt get to call me anything....he went all quiet(and dazed) and said "you know this is a game right? we can stop if you want " 
something went click
I said  "I knew it was a game and if I didnt want to play nothing would stop me from getting up and leaving" and then things got really rough ...it was the first time I hurt someone for pleasure ..
Back at school on monday I looked up sadist 




LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:39:22 AM)

Wow, from that post i take it You learned You were Dominant?.. did You ever second think that night? or did You move on and explore more?



masochistecstacy -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:51:39 AM)

The Gor books gave me a whole new perspective on Dominance and submission. I was thrown headfirst into them right after I ended my relationship with my first Master, with no knowledge of what I was getting myself into. *Laughs cause I was collared to a city online gor my first night there* But they really helped me learn more about myself and my own submission... Helped me to realize that I'm DEFINATELY not a slave. Lol.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:54:48 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LittleKitten1986
Now heres another question to add to this. Since your first experience. Have any of you read any books  or seen any movies that you feel has taught you a lesson. And, you used it  to your advantage to make you a better submissive?

I like The Devils Advocate and Dangerous Liaisons...THOSE teach you about power, control, authority, manipulation, and how desires permeate through each.  Learning the process helps you understand your own situation so much better.



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:57:15 AM)

haha, i used to RP on Gor, it is only for some, most in Gor do not expect Their sub's to have a voice.  They expect a sub to pretty much be a ro bot,  they expect them  to get up no words, just chores, complete the days tasks and back to bed no speaking unless told, and thats not necessairly a good thing. No communication you don't know how the sub is. It' not something i enjoyed RPing, but it is still everywhere.



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 6:58:59 AM)

LuckyAlbatross,

i will have to read them.  i love reading so, Once i'm done with the next book i will have to see on picking those books up. Thank you for your input. ^_^



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:13:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LittleKitten1986

LuckyAlbatross,

i will have to read them.  i love reading so, Once i'm done with the next book i will have to see on picking those books up. Thank you for your input. ^_^

Well Dangerous Liaisons is a good book, but the movie with John Malkovich, Glenn Close, Michelle Pfeifer and Keanu Reeves is awesome (an earlier version is Valmont with Annette Benning and Colin Firth but not nearly as potent).

And I don't know if Devils Advocate is a book, but the movie with Al Pacino and Keanu Reeves is very good.

Another great is Hamlet, the Kenneth Brannaugh version, an amazing mix of dark and light with Kate Winslet as Ophelia, as well as Much Ado About Nothing by Brannaugh with Denzel Washington, a great portrayal of power and thirst.  Obviously both of these are Shakespearean plays which are fabulous in the reading, but Brannaugh brings such a poingant life to them- and plays were meant to be performed.



LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:15:31 AM)

Wonderful, i will deffinitly check them out as soon as i can!, thank you!... i think it's nice when people can come here, get along and speak in this fasion, helping others out, sharing experiences.



Dollbecky -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:18:04 AM)

From then on I knew I was kinky...I had to wait a year to explore SM again  (the trials of a teen pervert)  that experiance opened my mind ..some guy asked to worship my feet  I went with it; I figured I liked hurting guys I might like other kinky stuff too.
Then I got to go away for school !!!   I  went wild!!
But (criminally) young as I was I decided to only explore my dom side ...I decided it might be safer.


Dangerous Liaisons....hmmm yes definalty !  I second LuckyAlbatoss, that movie is wonderful



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