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what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 9:04:55 AM   
jagdesclave


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Status: offline 		Hi I just love hearing about how you first got this way, I am endlessly curious about female submissives and I just love the different stories about how women first got started
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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 12:13:54 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


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ORIGINAL: jagdesclave

what first attracted you to submission?



Submitting.



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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 2:11:16 PM   
Dominasola


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Status: offline 		Originally, I had concluded that I was just a bedroom sub/bottom; I never imagined that I could ever be a submissive...and most definitely not a slave.  But when I began talking with my Master, I found myself wanting nothing else than to be with him, and that I would do anything to achieve that. I soon shockingly discovered that I am very happily capable of submitting to him...

So, I guess I was attracted to submission because of the sexy dominants.


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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 3:31:44 PM   
Elisabella


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Status: offline 		Hot passionate rough violent sex. With foreplay. And choking.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 3:38:44 PM   
Dominasola


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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

Hot passionate rough violent sex. With foreplay. And choking.



This too.


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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 3:49:13 PM   
lovingpet


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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 3:54:39 PM   
wisdomtogive


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Status: offline 		I got tired of repressing a major part of me, and decided to nose-dive into it to explore. It truly has been a mind-opening experience and one of the hardest journey I have taken.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 6:12:07 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		My marriage broke up, I wanted bondage but had never known a man who liked doing that to a woman. I typed bondage.com into the browser hoping to get hot porn but instead discovered a wealth of information including the word submission. Once I learned what that meant, I realized it described me to a tee. I like being with a man who wants to make the tough decisions because they are really difficult for me to make.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 6:19:33 PM   
takemeforyourown


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Status: offline 		I did not know that BDSM even existed. I met a man. He liked to bite and slap and pull hair and force me to do things. I loved it. The first time he called me a 'sub' I didn't even understand him. I used to think that sex was overrated, then I found D/s. Now, I long for a 24/7 relationship with a man who will control and care for me. It was completely unexpected, all of it. I used to be a radical feminist. lol.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 6:31:43 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Depends what you mean by getting started...

I have liked 'kinky sex' when I first lost my virginity by being tied to a tree.

I liked dominant personality men because it's how I grew up and the type of men that I was always around and it's what I feel comfortable with in my life. So I guess you could say it's how I've always been and what "attracted" me.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 7:19:12 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I was dating for a while following the end of my marriage and met someone on a vanilla dating site that I was drawn to. He clued me into D/s, and I realized why I was drawn to him, and realized also that I found D/s fulfilling to me- an extension of who I've been my whole life. I'd always been the good girl who looked for ways to please.

I just truly want to follow someone who knows what they are doing- it's not a mindless role for me, I watch for ways to assist and help all the while. I just don't want to be the 'boss'- I'd rather be the indispensible and ever-helpful assistant who is there with the tissues almost before you know you need to blow your nose. One of my favorite things in my current relationship is that we do many activities together - he'll tell me what we'll be doing and without having to ask he knows I'll collect whatever we need and bring it with. It's that synchonicity of having well defined roles and a deep bond with each other that gives me a sense of peace and fulfillment.

The relationship between the first man and I didn't last long and then I went through a period of discovery where I stuck with vanilla dating sites as well as adding CM to my life. I then decided to just go with CM as I wanted any new relationship to be that of  D/s. I met a man that inspired me to choose him over the others and I'm still with him now.

The things that ultimately float my boat is having him take charge of decisions large and small, the fact that I am expected to be emotionally 'naked' with him (and that is returned to a certain degree),  and the incredibly hot rough sex.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 8:34:00 PM   
persuaded


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Status: offline 		We started wrestling around and that moved into the best sex of my life. Just how he dominated me and the power he held over me. I love the look in his eyes when he says I belong to him! It makes me want to do whatever I can to please him! It is something I never thought I wanted, but now everything I need...

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 8:53:25 PM   
fadedshadow


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Status: offline 		i'm not sure what got me interested in submission. i can't remember, though whatever it was i'm glad to be curious about it. otherwise i wouldn't be who i am now. and i know this question is directed toward female submissives but i'm putting my two cents in regardless =D

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/14/2010 8:58:43 PM   
DWCskitten


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i met a man on a vanilla dating site whose profile said he was submissive and i asked him what that meant. He told me and it was like....."Bingo!! That's ME!!" i knew i had always felt that way, but never knew what it was called or that it was okay to be that way. So, anyway, he & i were web friends for a little while & then we each went our separate ways. He is how i found out about Alt.com & my first experience. From that first experience, i knew i would never go back to 'nilla. i just love knowing i belong to Him & He has all the control. i just can't seem to get enough of that.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/15/2010 12:17:44 AM   
vixenmoon


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Status: offline 		Submission and masochism have been parts of me for as long as I can remember.  I just never labeled it as such.  When I was 25, a lover briefly introduced me.  It took me some time to let go of my ideas of switchyness.  I think that I was still too scared at the time to let go.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/15/2010 12:30:32 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		after multiple failed relationships because my partners never seemed 'manly' enough to me and sex was boring and something to avoid, I gave up. Then one drunken evening after work wirh colleagues I started chatting to a new guy in our team. We ended up discussing my single status and after a lot of detailed questions he suggested I might be sub. Turns out he was a Dom, and active on the local scene. I laughed, then did some research, then plucked up the courage to go on a bdsm website.

It felt like bdsm had been designed solely to fit my needs - like coming home

Eight years later and with a lot of wonderful experiences under my belt I'm now ready to commit to an LTR M/s S/M relationship. Watch this space!

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/15/2010 1:47:26 PM   
keteward


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Status: offline 		Its hard to say if there was one thing that attracted us to submission, I'll start by saying we met our Master through vanilla swinging circles,we weren't seeking a D/s relationship but was introduced to it in conversation by him.  We continued our friendship in a vanilla/swinging sense for several years.  Over those years we began to see more and more of his dominant nature and through that a little more of a glimpse of what this lifestyle is about. 

I would say that it took several years before we knew enough to start to wonder if it was something for us.  We became deeply close friends with this man, and it did finally get to the point where we realized and felt that there was a trust being built between the three of us that was going farther than most people we knew.  For lack of a better word we felt that he did "love" us and for us that trust and love was what attracted us to submitting to him.  We felt that by giving up control to him, we would further our relationship and we had the trust to do so and knew we were safe to obey that man :P

Not sure if that makes anysense :P

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/15/2010 5:54:50 PM   
Elisabella


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ORIGINAL: takemeforyourown
I used to think that sex was overrated, then I found D/s.


Same here!

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/15/2010 10:34:11 PM   
RealSub58


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ORIGINAL: jagdesclave

Hi I just love hearing about how you first got this way, I am endlessly curious about female submissives and I just love the different stories about how women first got started


from the replies that I have read, I interpret the question way differently. 
I have always been drawn to dominant men, even as a child.
I am submissive by nature, altho it has its draw backs, I have never tired of getting direction and doing as authority says.

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RE: what first attracted you to submission ? - 3/15/2010 10:38:05 PM   
RealSub58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elisabella


quote:

ORIGINAL: takemeforyourown
I used to think that sex was overrated, then I found D/s.


Same here!


sexually I always served, ever since my virginity blew to the wind.
but when I decided to jump into the "darker side of sexual appetites" plus want a relationship with a dominant, i have been more fulfilled as a submissive.
actually, the word submitting became a "richer" form of service for me.

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